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#61 Lisa682

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Posted 01 December 2006 - 06:21 AM

STALKER!!

Ok now i have seriously gone insane. Yesterday when I was getting off the train on my way home, I saw ex FMIL sitting in her car watching me at the train station!! I didnt know what to do, so I just waved. at least then she knew that i had seen her. after my wave she sank in her seat a bit and put on her sun glasses. I just had a bit of a chuckle to my self so it apeared that she wasnt bothering me. (even though it freaked me out). Then I walked to my car that was parked around the corner. she then proceeded to follow me all the way home.

My only regret is that i didnt snap a photo with my phone, as proof that i am not going mental.

Now the claws are out and Ladies I need your help! how can i mess with her head a bit so that she feels half as mental as I am feeling right now. I am not going to let her have this one over me.

PLEASE HELP!


#62 RachelleB

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Posted 01 December 2006 - 07:23 AM

You should ring the police. This would be conidered stalking - they could at least give her a warning? K?

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Posted 01 December 2006 - 11:20 AM

As bad as you feel hon, don't stoop to her level as it's your ex-fiance that will ultimately bare the brunt of it. sad.gif HOWEVER, GET YOURSELF TO A POLICE STATION and take out an AVO against this mad woman! That way she's not allowed to come near you, especially since she's stalking you. WTF is her problem? Please go to the police, this cow is obviously unstable!
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Posted 01 December 2006 - 11:25 AM

I agree with the other girls, don't try to mess with her head, it will just escalate the situation. The best way for you to have the upper hand is to keep your dignity and not stoop to her level.

Definitely go to the police though, the lady is clearly crazy.

#65 Lisa682

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Posted 01 December 2006 - 02:31 PM

Your right - I know. I will talk to the police on my way home from work.

Thanks for you advise.


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Posted 01 December 2006 - 02:34 PM

OMG WTF please go straight to the police station.

How infuriating. Fruitcake.
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Posted 03 December 2006 - 02:17 PM

Wow! She takes the whole psyco MIL thing to the next level! Next thing we know, we will be hearing your story on 60mins, after she stalks you and butchers you in your own home. What a total nutcase/freak/whatever. I hope you went to the Police Station and got an AVO on her ass.

I really think you need to cut all ties with your ex. I know it will be hard, but by golly, no where near as hard as being a part of his life and subsequently his psyco mother for the rest of your life!

Let us know how you go

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Posted 04 December 2006 - 06:50 AM

Thanks Ultraviolet for that scary thought!!!

I went to my local police station and told them whats been happening. they might as well had laughed in my face about making a complaint about a 65 year old women harrassing me!!! i felt SO stupid. Anyway told my ex about it last night and he was furious. (at her, not me) and from now on he is going to be catching the train with me everyday, just in case.

On the weekend I went to my ex FBIL's girlfriend's - ok too difficult - lets call her Mel Well I went with Mel to her parents place for some time away. Mel and I are bestest friends and it was good to spend some time with her, especially since we havent been able to spend as much time together cause of everything that has been going on. Her boyfriend (my ex's brother) is working interstate for a couple of months now so it has been a bit easier for us to hang out now. Anyway Mel and i were having a chat and she mentions to me that on Wednesday she is having a "sleepover" at my ex FMIL house. WTF is with that???? talk about sleeping with the enemy! I dont expect any one to be "taking sides" or anything, but as she is my best friend, I couldnt help but feel betrayed. I dont know weather she is going because she is now actually the favourite and just wants to make the most of it or what!

Mel and my ex FMIL have had big arguments in the past and I know for a fact that ex FMIL really doesnt like Mel. she has mentioned to me in the past that it would be a cold day in hell before she accepts Mel into her family and that she thinks Mel is scum!! (which she def isnt) when ex FMIL mentioned that to me - I defended Mel and told ex FMIL that she was out of line. and now i dont feel as though Mel is doing that same with me.

I feel like ex FMIL is trying to manipulate Mel to be against me (i know how paraniod that sounds) but i wouldnt put it past her.

My Ex went to a Tarot reader on the weekend. he has been like a different man since - I dont know what she told him but what ever it was must have been in my favour!

Anyway that's my run down for today. I hope every one is well

Lis


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Posted 04 December 2006 - 07:41 AM

Oh my gosh Lis, this is terrible. What a cow...first i thought it was like the movied "Monster in Law" but it is so much worse. mad.gif sad.gif

Have things improved greatly with ExH2B? I really hope they do, and that you guys move interstate and start a new life together without all the crap from this woman.

Good luck smile.gif

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#70 Lisa682

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Posted 04 December 2006 - 07:58 AM

Thanks April - Yeah things have greatly improved within our relationship. thats the really hard part. If we were not so strong i would have walked away ages ago!

Yeah it is a bit like the movie! although when I first saw it, I thought it was hilarious - Now its not so funny!

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Posted 05 December 2006 - 05:01 AM

QUOTE(Lisa682 @ Dec 4 2006, 06:50 AM) View Post

Thanks Ultraviolet for that scary thought!!!

Sorry babe! I didn't mean to offend smile.gif

This women is a real piece of work and I'm glad to hear that things are starting to improve with you and ex-h2b.

Try not to worry about your bf too much, she is probably scared of ex-FMIL!.

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Posted 05 December 2006 - 01:10 PM

I'm glad to hear that there is at least something a little positive about it all.
No, you don't sound paranoid - you've been badly hurt and you're keeping your cards close to you so you don't get hurt further but now this Mel could be used to get through your defences and you feel let down because she doesn't seem to be valuing your friendship as much as you have hers. My advice would be to keep any talk about your situation to a minimum with this Mel. It's not worth the risk and if in the future she proves herself to be trustworthy, then so be it, but for now she should've realised that by telling you that she's being very insensitive to your plight.
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#73 Lisa682

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Posted 06 December 2006 - 07:30 AM

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BIG THANK YOU

I just wanted to thank you all for your advise and help throughout all of this. It is very much appreciated and I dont think I would be as sane today without your comments!

Special Thanks to Gayle, Ultraviolet, Tastebud, StephO, Kir & Hibiscus Princess.

THANKS A BUNCH

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Posted 07 December 2006 - 09:40 AM

wub.gif Ohhhh lovely flowers... wow the first bunch I have recieved in ages!!!

Lisa you are so incredibly strong with all this going on, hope it gets better soon...
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Posted 07 December 2006 - 01:10 PM

Aw thank you! I'll have to tell hubby that I'm getting more flowers from online people than he's giving me laugh.gif It might stir him into action wink.gif
As Steph said, hang in there! For better or worse, no situation stays the same and you'll know exactly the path you both must go soon (and my guess is that will be as far away from FMIL as humanly possible wink.gif )
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