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#16 Mrs Evilfairy

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Posted 24 August 2006 - 03:21 PM

i plan on asking my mum to walk me down the aisle.
even tho i will be asking my father to the wedding....
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#17 toffee

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 04:22 PM

I would say go for the Nuture....sometimes Nature isn't always for the best.

good luck


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Posted 07 September 2006 - 09:20 AM

i come from the exact background. My dad didnt even come to my senior graduation. Or when I was getting dux there was a specail awards night and he couldnt be bothered coming. sad.gif My mum is definately walking me down the isle. She deserves it. My father is invited to the wedding but i am not going to make any excuses to him.

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Posted 02 February 2007 - 11:30 AM

Sorry I kind of lost this thread somewhere in the I don't want to think about it anymore pile.

But I really have to come to a decision soon with the wedding so close. My sister is still pressureing me, and getting shitty at my choices.

The problem is regrets are things you won't know about until afterwards.

I am thinking now that I will have dad start the walk and mum finish it - which is kind of symbolic, he technically started my life but mum carried it on and my future is with topher
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Posted 02 February 2007 - 02:21 PM

Sounds like a good compromise........don't let your sister pressure you into making a decision that you'll regret later.

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Posted 02 February 2007 - 03:51 PM

you could always walk solo and then at the end have both your parents waiting for a kiss & cuddle, mum could lift your veil and dad could put hubby's hand in yours, then they can take their seats??

when celebrant asks who brings this women to be married to this man, they could both answer instead of the traditional dad doing it....
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Posted 02 February 2007 - 10:20 PM

I have a friend who comes from a similar situation. She was married only a few weeks ago and in the end decided she should walk herself down the aisle, which she did. It was her view that they were paying for the wedding and although her mum had raised her and her 2 sisters after their father left, she had ultimately got to where she was in life on her own. Her sister who was married 12mths earlier chose their mum to walk her down the aisle.

Everyone is different and ultimately it needs to be what feels right for you, not your sister or anyone else.

Best of luck with your decision.
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#23 lisanluke

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Posted 04 February 2007 - 01:55 PM

Follow your heart............This is YOURS and your HUSBANDS day, nobody elses.

It is an honor to walk you down the aisle, something that needs to be earnt. Have you spoken with your mother about this? How will she feel if you choose the man that has never bothered with you over her? Or maybe she is a traditionalist that believes he is who you should have.

Tell you sister you respect her thoughts but you will choose whom ever you wish. If she cant accept this then maybe she shouldnt attend.

It is one day and believe me it goes soooo fast, you dont want regrets.

I have been living 8 yrs with regrets over my disastrous wedding. I hope to renew my vows in Qld in August on the beach with only 2 friends as witnesses.

Tradition is very old school now.

Do whats right in your mind and heart.

Good luck and I hope you have a wonderful day.

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Posted 14 February 2007 - 08:46 PM

I talked to my father tonight - I didn't tell him that I wanted mum to walk me down the aisle but I get the feeling he already knows (sister probebly told him - she has a big mouth) he asked funny questions like will I be travelling with you and when I asked if he wanted to give a speech and mentioned that mum would be he was all 'well there is no point in doubling up speeches go for to long anyway and i am not really a talker etc'

I didn't say anything because I am not entirely sure what I am going to do - only that him walking me on his own is not an option but i may go solo or have mum or both. and secondly cause i am a chicken. But after our talk I think he already realises that he isn't going to be playing the part in the wedding a father would traditionally play.

I did ask if he wanted any particular music for the father daughter dance and he said whatever i wanted. He seemed so non commital about the whole thing that I think it is going ot be easier. Thanks for all your advice.
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Posted 23 February 2007 - 01:31 PM

My opinion is to go for the 'nurture' - your Mum worked awfully hard to raise you, so she has more than earned the right to walk you down the aisle.

Hope this all works out for you *hugs*
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Posted 26 February 2007 - 07:10 PM

good excuse to be an independent, naughties woman and walk down by yourself! BMs do it


ooh and tell your sister to back off - if she's not on board the happy, loving, supportive heapha wedding express, she can keep her mouth shut

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Posted 26 February 2007 - 10:22 PM

I thought about walking myself but hair starts at 7am wedding is at 3pm

thats a lot of champas time so just in case......
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Posted 01 March 2007 - 09:52 AM

i wish you all the best for your upcoming wedding and married life,

all that i can say is that you know what is best for you and your h2b special day and your sister, dad and anybody else should not be laying guilt trips on you, i read the post where you said that he could start the walk your mum finishes walking you up to your future husband, it involves everyone and it has some special meaning towards it but if it doesn't feel right than don't get pressured into anything,

im sure what ever decision you do make is going to be the right one for you and there wont be any regrets, traditions aren't always necessary or the right thing to do,

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 10:46 AM

maybe have your old man walk you half way where he hands you over to your mum who finishes the journey down the isle with you?

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 10:58 AM

If you had just your mum it would probably hurt your dad. It would also embarrass him as it will be obvious and will raise questions as to why it wasn't him.

I agree go with your heart but I am just concerned that not having your dad at all will damage your relationship with him and you might regret that in the future.

I would suggest either having them switch over halfway as you have mentioned or having both together.

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