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#16 GirlHunt

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Posted 09 June 2006 - 11:22 PM

After hubby proposed to me 4 months after we met I did wonder myself if he would ask me to sign a pre nup or some sort of contract. Not because he is has a lot of money now but because of the money he will receive when his parents retire in 5 yrs. They plan to be able to give each of their boys $1million. They figure their kids need the help financially now rather than 30 yrs when they have passed on.

But hubby never asked me to sign anything but I some times think his dad is a bit worried about their hard earned money going to me incase we divorce.
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Posted 09 June 2006 - 11:27 PM

Erm we dont have a pre nup as such more of a legal agreement\document.

When i met h2b he was being screwed over by his previous girlfriend and was lucky to get out of it with his house.

When we bought our house i had nothing to contribute no deposit,savings or anything it was purely his money that we bought the house with as he sold his first house so we could buy together.

As i had nothing to contribute we had a seperate legal agreement with our solicitor that if we broke up he would get his deposit back plus a greater share of the property than me. If that makes sense. It was something like 60/40. I suggested this and he agreed. His family were grateful as well after watching what he had been through before.

However the agreement was to lapse if we ever bought another house. Which we have done now already so it means nothing.

I suggested this as i didnt think it was fair that he saved so hard through his years at uni to own his own home then to have me or any other girl come and take away something that i had not contributed to.

That is just my opinon. Also i knew i would spend my life with him so it didnt bother me as breaking up would not be an option anyway!!
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Posted 10 June 2006 - 03:37 PM

We don't have one! We are both as poor as each other! Neither of us brought any assets into the relationship, we don't own a house, we are both Uni students and have no significant savings. We have two crap cars, and a house full of crap furniture, lol. We have a joint account, as we both have the same spending habits and good responsibility with money. Everything is shared, and when we start working and making money it will be shared because we came into it with nothing and supported each other in every way to make that earning possible, so we both deserve the rewards of each others labour. The benefits of starting with nothing: If either of us makes a lot of money in the future, we know the other didn't marry us for the money and really has been with us for richer for poorer, lol! Every asset we get will be a product of the marriage, there is no mine and his because it is all a result of us as a unit. We have taken out insurance though to cover each others Uni debts in the even of either of us meeting an untimely death leaving the other with a mass of HECS.

I don't generally agree with the concept of pre-nups. I do make exceptions for certain circumstances though!

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Posted 14 June 2006 - 07:34 AM

Steve asked me to sign one, unsure.gif hes worried that I may steal his ferrari and beautiful 5.6 million dollar mansion if we divorce. Not to mention all his jewels... wink.gif biggrin.gif LOL Kidding

No, everything we have, we share, when we moved in together we bought everything from scratch.

I didnt marry into an overly wealthy family and neither did he, so its not something we EVER thought about. I always thought it was something the celebrities did LOL tongue.gif

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Posted 14 June 2006 - 11:55 AM

QUOTE (Shellbee @ Jun 9 2006, 09:52 AM)
nah, we had nothing and now we have a little bit - but it's ours.

Same here, anything we do have we got as an "us" either before or after the wedding wink.gif No Pre-nup
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Posted 17 June 2006 - 06:52 PM

We have one .
We are by no means wealthy but both of us came from families that are assest rich. My parents have always invested in Real Estate and Cam's parents own a large cattle property that will one day be his.

Withour boring you with the details , casue it is quite lenghty , The house we live in and the property we have bought our ours to be halved, and anything else we buy HOWEVER anything that we inherit as such or are given is individual owned .


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Posted 24 June 2006 - 08:16 AM

I'd never even thought of doing one until I worked in family law....I considered it but there is no way I would put that on our relationship. I trust Adam, he trusts me and yeah never really thought of it much after that.

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Posted 24 June 2006 - 08:33 AM

Ali, we are the same as you.. My fiance's family have a family business that is very successful and they own alot of expensive machines.. Before any "pre nup" came up, a couple of years ago his eldest brother's wife kicked him out. This was the day after she knew their house was paid off and that they had no outstanding debts. Three weeks later she was romping im bed with her fling that she had for 2 years in HIS HOUSE.!! The house was worth nearly $600k and he only got $50k of it. She never had to work the whole 12 years of their relationship and he took her on a holiday every year. Once she took the house she then preceded to go the company. She found out that their "shares" in the company were not worth much and that Rob was not an "owner of the company" but merely an employee. She was fuminG.!!
Now I know every case is different but I saw the heartache he went through to now have to restart his life again at the age of 43.. He spoke to the whole family to get a pre nup as such to protect their business. It didn't start off with the relationship side of things. But we did want to take it further because my other half had alot more going into our relationship at the age of 19 than I. He had two investment properties and a beautiful car at 21.!! I think you think clearly when you are in love so its the perfect timing to do it. Rob insisted that we both sought legal advice because he wanted me protected too so I felt good about the fact that they had chosen to be adult about the whole thing.
At the end of the day, but my fiance's pre nup and will have me being looked after very nicely so why would I not go into this open mindedly..?

I suppose I want to put one thing forward to a few sceptics here.. If you were the one with all the assets and money going into a relationship, would you not think of protecting that if something goes sour.? When you know how hard it is to work for it.? I dont mean in any ways to be nasty by this question, just realistic..

To me its the same as relationship councilling with the church that everyone has to do. You don't want to be told how to run a successful relationship but you gotta do it.!! In this situation, this could also put doubt in your mind as to why it needs to be done when you are both so in love at the time.!! Its just realistic..

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Posted 24 June 2006 - 05:39 PM

A while back someone asked whether pre-nups are legal in Australia. The response from girlbelt was quite correct - back in 2000 the Family Law Act was amended to allow 'financial agreements' to be made by couples before, during and after a marriage. There are a number of requirements for a binding agreement which include both parties having signed it, annexes which indicate each party received independent legal advice, there are clear statements of who it affects etc (Section 90G).

Some brief information is available from the following commercial sites:
Law4u Pre-Nuptial Agreements.


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Posted 26 June 2006 - 11:27 PM

No, we won't be having a pre-nup.

Our house is currently in my name only, and I have shares as well - he has nothing in his name (except for some of the bills! laugh.gif). BUT - he earns more than I do so he did put in most of the money for our furniture and house renovations. Even though the house is in my name we've contributed equally to it and it would be fair to split everything equally if things were to ever go bad between us - so no pre-nup required (or wanted).
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Posted 27 June 2006 - 05:15 AM

In marrying Chris I give him my heart, my money everything. That is simply our view on marriage. I accept a pre-nup for some people is the way they want to go, and I would never judge that. But from where I sit, I would not have a pre-nup regardless of which way it went. I have made a commitment and in that I share my life with my husband. If god forbid it doesn't work out, then we will deal with it when it happens.

I am a believer that we are only dealt cards which we can handle.

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Posted 27 June 2006 - 07:09 PM

each to their own but in my opinion it is the equivelent of saying hey I don't think we will last forever and signing and insurance. IYKWIM

But I also understand that some people just have to and thats cool
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Posted 06 July 2006 - 06:30 PM

i dont really like the thought of prenups... i doubt i would sign.. but to each their own

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Posted 06 July 2006 - 06:46 PM

We don't have one, but that's because we both came into the relationship with pretty much the same amount of assets, and we trust each other to do the right thing if things ever went sour.... however, if I was in different circumstances I would have definitely considered it. DH and I did have a brief discussion about what we have though, and both agreed that if anything ever went wrong (heaven forbid!), that he'd get to keep his cars (even though they're worth alot they're his babies and I'd respect that), we'd halve the rest of our assets (and debts), the only thing that's unclear is what would happen to our puppy dogs.... but its never gonna happen anyway!

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Posted 07 July 2006 - 07:28 AM

The thing about it is that it is an individual decesion !

We did your when we did our wills and it was important to us , that if one fo us died , where our assests went ! and it is the same God Forbid we divorce !
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