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#1 i-domember

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Posted 15 January 2006 - 09:42 AM

I am posting this to urge everyone who is having any songs for any significant part of their wedding (aisle walk, cake cutting, first dance etc) to actually read the lyrics of the song!

I have been to a few weddings where the songs that have been played have actually been about breaking up, or not being able to continue a relationship etc. I went to a wedding where the first dance was to Unchained Melody... blink.gif

"Freehold Township resident William Stirrat, 83, aka Hy Zaret (his pen name), still has a gleam in his eye when he remembers writing the lyrics to Unchained Melody. He was 16 years old and infatuated with "the prettiest girl in my neighborhood." He remembers well the frustration of being too shy to act on his feelings, the stuttered response when she spoke to him, the frozen reaction when she smiled at him.

"Now, I think she was in love with me, too, but I was too shy to do anything or even talk to her," Stirrat says 67 years later.

So the romantic teenager wrote about his need and his longing and then went on with his life, a life full of real and enduring relationships."


Songs may sound lovely and romantic, and they might be considered to be love songs. But there are different types of love songs!

So please, just make sure when you are choosing songs for your wedding, read the lyrics and make sure there isn't another meaning behind them! biggrin.gif biggrin.gif

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Posted 15 January 2006 - 09:56 AM

This seems to be a pretty common problem - I wonder if it doesn't matter if the couple love the song (even if the guests are a bit ohmy.gif about the song choice.

I've seen some shockers over the years:

"I Will Always Love You" - which is about a couple who can't stay together

"Lover You Should Have Come Over" and "Last Goodbye" by Jeff Buckley, beautiful sad songs about breaking up!

"Perfect Day" by Lou Reed which is an ode to heroin addiction!

These were all first dance songs and everyone stood around feeling a bit awkward while the bride and groom gazed happily into each other's eyes...
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Posted 15 January 2006 - 10:45 AM

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I went to a wedding where the first dance was to Unchained Melody...†  blink.gif


This was our first dance - Unchained Melody. We didnt pick it because of the words - we just happened to like the song! I wasnt aware that people actually paid that much attention to the words. oh well i guess people must.
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Posted 15 January 2006 - 11:39 AM

biggrin.gif Yay Fleur ..... That certainly was interesting reading .. I can't stand that song so it was never an option ... I wonder if he wrote "Guess Who" about the same girl rolleyes.gif


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Posted 15 January 2006 - 12:24 PM

If I hadn't read that about Unchained Melody I would never have known...to me it is a song about two people waiting for each other and then they are finally together. What's wrong with that?

I Will Always Love You, however, is obviously about a breakup, and maybe therefore not as appropriate, but, I mean, some of the songs that will probably be in our wedding aren't either, and we don't care. They are special to us, and it's not like the lyrics are saying, 'I hate everything about you' or something like that!!!
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Posted 15 January 2006 - 12:26 PM

Oh dear... now I'm desperately re-checking the lyrics of our chosen songs..

Does anyone have any feedback for me? These are ours:

Arrival of bride and groom: Love is all Around Ė John Paul Young
Cake cutting: What a Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Bridal Waltz: For Your Eyes Only - Sheena Easton (theme song from the James Bond movie of the same name), followed by Beautiful in My Eyes - Joshua Kadison
Leaving: Moondance Ė Michael Buble, followed by Come Away With Me - Norah Jones

(although they will sound different to the originals because we're having a jazz band for the reception)



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Posted 15 January 2006 - 06:13 PM

dont take this the wrong way but really i think you mabe reading a little too much into the songs - people chose music because they like the sound of it, the artist, tempo, etc etc. and yeh sometimes beause of the words or meaning but not always

i dont think it makes their day any less romantic......
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Posted 17 January 2006 - 10:44 PM

QUOTE (rowlandson2 @ Jan 15 2006, 06:43 PM)
dont take this the wrong way but really i think you mabe reading a little too much into the songs - people chose music because they like the sound of it, the artist, tempo, etc etc. and yeh sometimes beause of the words or meaning but not always

i dont think it makes their day any less romantic......

Too true.

Many songs sound nice and not just for their lyrical content. It could be the couples "song" or evoke some happy memory of a time they shared together. Our song is Moon River and I love it because whenever we hear it, we just stop and dance and h2b sings it to me and changes they lyrics, so the song makes me feel all fuzzy inside.

I think many of people's song choices reflect times and people in their lives in a sentimental way, not soley because of their "romantic/love factor".

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Posted 19 January 2006 - 05:21 PM

I have to agree with Carolyn here. I find it funny when people make comments about what should/should not be done at other people's weddings. Personally, we wanted something VERY different when I walked down the aisle. We chose 'You only hide' because we both love the song, it means a lot to us and while others may have thought its not a typical 'wedding song' the meaning behind it was perfect for what we wanted to say to each other on the day, and really isn't that what its all about?
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Posted 19 January 2006 - 10:23 PM

QUOTE (rowlandson2 @ Jan 15 2006, 06:13 PM)
dont take this the wrong way but really i think you mabe reading a little too much into the songs - people chose music because they like the sound of it, the artist, tempo, etc etc. and yeh sometimes beause of the words or meaning but not always

i dont think it makes their day any less romantic......

In some cases this maybe true..i however look into words of songs, and i always look into the words of songs for other peoples choices..just a thing i do - i don't criztise i just like to try and work out WHY that song might of been chosen for that particular point!

EG: We chose This i promise for the signing of the cert. - it talks about how the one you have always loved has been standing there all along - and not to look any further..

walking down the aisle was Just as I am: It says how you need to accept me for how i am - and i could try to charm you with a personality that isnt mine, but in the end i want you tot ake me just as i am..

My mother who gets married in March is having james blunt - beautiful, to walk down the aisle to - in this song, it talks about how the girl is the most beautiful girl he had ever seen when he was high (ohmy.gif) at the end, the guy doesn't get the girl...

And you are right, by no means does it make the day less romantic!! Just a very very valid point made in the OP

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Posted 23 January 2006 - 11:47 AM

QUOTE (DamosBride @ Jan 22 2006, 02:42 PM)
Stars87...I find it funny when people misread what I have typed. I am not saying what people should and shouldn't do at weddings. Please tell me where I said what people should and shouldn't do.† I will be rather interested to receive your feedback.

I was merely trying to help, make a point which I feel is rather valid.

You're right, you didn't say that. And I also didn't say that you did. I was actually talking more in general, it just seems to me that sometimes people get caught up in traditions and conventions and so on, and I guess personally to me a wedding is about the two people involved and if they want to have "Bananas in Pyjamas" as their wedding song I could care less, as to have that its obviously important to them, and that's who the day is about. Sorry if I didn't make that clear.

I also think that people do understand the songs they choose and have some idea about the lyrics, as we all know on here its a big decision choosing songs and I really don't believe many people have no idea what their own wedding song is about. Sure, they may realise its about breaking up, or losing somebody and choose to have it anyway because it means something to them, it doesn't mean they shouldn't have it because other people may see it as something different.

I hope my feedback has satisfied your interest, and this would be my opinion on the matter which is just as valid as yours.


siew I see your point about funeral choices I am sorry you had to go through that sad.gif Your example of Smile is exactly what I was talking about actually wink.gif Its a special song which has lots of meaning to the two of you, so if you want to have it why shouldn't you? We also chose a song that spoke about the rough times, and how to get through them, and it worked really well for us as a reflection on our marriage because we believed the happy times are easy to get through and its the tough times when you need to rely on each other that can really show the strength in your marriage IYKWIM
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Posted 27 January 2006 - 11:50 AM

My H2B fave song is Better Man by Pearl Jam, i like it too, it's such a nice song, but when he wanted it for the bridal waltz, I had to say no, when he asked why, i found the lyrics on a website and got him to read them

Waitiní, watchiní the clock, itís four oíclock, itís got to stop
Tell him, take no more, she practices her speech He hits her...I think
As he opens the door, she rolls over...
Pretends to sleep as he looks her over
She lies and says sheís in love with him, canít find a better man...
She dreams in color, she dreams in red, canít find a better man...
Canít find a better man (2x)
Ohh...

Talkiní to herself, thereís no one else who needs to know...
She tells herself, oh...
Memories back when she was bold and strong
And waiting for the world to come along...
Swears she knew it, now she swears heís gone
She lies and says sheís in love with him, canít find a better man...
She dreams in color, she dreams in red, canít find a better man...
She lies and says she still loves him, canít find a better man... (Pretending to love him)
She dreams in color, she dreams in red, canít find a better man...
Canít find a better man (2x)
Yeah...

She loved him, yeah...she donít want to leave this way (she left him, but will be back)
She feeds him, yeah...thatís why sheíll be back again
Canít find a better man (3x)
Canít find a better...man...
Ohh...ohh...
Uh huh... (5x)
Ohh...

Ummmm H2B changed his mind quite quickly!

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Posted 27 January 2006 - 11:58 AM

Dannielle, that song is about Eddie Vedder's abusive step father - so you're right! It's about how his mother put up with an awful relationship because she didn't think that she was worth 'a better man'.

I knew of someone who had this song as their bridal waltz - i would have thought the 'she lies and says she's in love with him' line might have put them off! biggrin.gif

I know it's an individual decision, but i can't stand Jeff Buckley's rendition of Hallelujah either ( i LOVE the song, it's beautiful, but not romantic) - 'all i've ever learnt from love is how to shoot somebody who out drew you' or 'Love is not a victory march, it's a cold and it's a broken hallelujah' aren't exactly romantic notions!

Of course, each to their own, i guess!!

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Posted 27 January 2006 - 12:07 PM

As a singer, I believe it's ALL in the words...

Like, I actually love the song, 'I will always love you' but I refuse to sing it at weddings - I'd feel like I was jinxing the couple.


Same with titanic...although I HAVE sung that at weddings (at least it's about enduring love) I worry I'm sending the man to an early grave!

I know it's because I am a singer, but people SHOULD listen to the words of a song, and decide whether they really want those sentiments flying around at their wedding!

That's why we had 'Baby You're my destiny'! no confusion there!

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Posted 27 January 2006 - 12:18 PM

I think we're safe with our bridal waltz choice of "Nothings gonna stop us now", unless someone knows something I don't? unsure.gif tongue.gif

But I agree with the point Fleur is making, actually listening to the lyrics can totally change the feel of the song IYKWIM?




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