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#1 mrsm00kz

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 01:57 PM

Sorry this is going to be long!

I don't know if you have seen my other post but it was a poll to help us decide which photographer to use as H2B and I found two photographers we really loved and just couldn't decide.

The story is, yesterday Photographer 1 (he advertises here so i won't mention his name but if you want it you can PM me) kept ringing me asking me if we've made a decision yet and at this stage i told him we hadn't. While i was on the phone with him he started throwing freebies at me left right and centre to try and sway me and i have to admit that it worked and so we caved in and told him yes we will go with him as he was going to give us more for our money. He was so happy saying that we made the right decision and so we made an appointment for us to come in later in the week and sort out the contract and to pay the deposit.

As it works out, H2B and I have just talked about it again, and everyone on the Poll has said to go with Photographer 2 (better photographer, less features in the book) and seeing as we still had doubts about Photographer 1 we decided he obviously isn't the right choice for us.

So i said to H2B that we should ring Photographer 1 back and tell him asap that we are sorry but have not made our mind up yet because it is such a hard decision and it is alot of money ($5000 worth) and we wanted to be fair and tell him asap. So, H2B gets on the phone and tells him were sorry but we are still "deciding" (so he told a lie, just to ease to pain) and we want to cancel this appointment that we have and the guy went off his rocket! Basically told him off while H2B was profusely apologising etc. Then when they hung up my mobile rings and it's him! I didn't answer it because i'm such a chicken and i didn't want to be told off so i let it ring out. Two seconds later it rings AGAIN and its him again this time from his mobile. What is he trying to do?? Abuse me too??

So anyway, i was really upset because it's not liked we even promised anything it was just a tentative booking and we were going to go in and pay the deposit.

So right now we are 110% per cent sure were going with Photographer 2 and i rang him up to book him. He was sooo happy and pleased. Then i told him about Photographer 1 and he was so shocked at what i was telling him. He could not believe it and told me i didn't do anything wrong because i hadn't signed a contract and i didn't lock myself into anything.

Did i do something wrong here? I feel like i've commited a crime! sad.gif
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#2 karry327

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 02:02 PM

OMG what a freak! Clearly he gets all his business by bullying people into it.

Sounds like you've made the right choice and by no means have you done anything wrong. It's your money and your choice who you choose as your Photographer!

I wonder if it's the same photographer that was mentioned in the other thread?! I say report him to I-Do admin because this is a joke! mad.gif

#3 Aprilbride

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 02:08 PM

You didn't do anything wrond he is just a jerk, l had trouble dealing with photographers as l found many of them pushy l guess it's just the nature they need to get in and take photos on the day or something. Not a trait l like though, if he continues to call you and harrass you is there a photographers standard board or ombusman that you can threaten to report him to?

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 02:44 PM

Wow, he's really got bigger problems than not being able to take photos at your wedding. Nobody should treat you like that. I would call him and tell him that his attitude has just sealed the deal and you will not be going with him based purely on his over-reaction. What a d!ck dry.gif


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#5 Chr!st!ne

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 03:32 PM

How unprofessional!!!

Sometimes you need a little wierd moment to realise you went with the wright person.

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 03:55 PM

OMG I can't believe he did that to you!! That is so unprofessional. You have definitely made the right choice not to use him.

#7 chevalier

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 05:39 PM

Oh poo to photographer 1, what a dummy spitter mad.gif He obviously has no dignity, that is so rude and basically it is harassment if he's calling you up to abuse you.

What on earth did he say to your H2B?

Makes you wonder sometimes, they can get so cutthroat.

#8 mrsm00kz

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Posted 30 November 2005 - 08:20 PM

Tell me about it!!

He was telling H2B how could we do this to him (it's only been 24 hours, and we did not sign anything) and that he is giving us more so why aren't we going with him etc.

After ringing me TWICE and me not answering, he rang me again while i was at work and i ignored that too. H2B said if he rings again while he is with me, i should pick up and if he starts to abuse me to pass the phone to him. Well surprise surprise he rang me again when i got home tonight and i answered. I was preparing myself for the worst but he was not as bad as i thought. He did tell me though how disappointed he was in me for changing my mind and that this other guy (apparently they know each other - competition between them i think) isn't any better than he is!

All i can say girls is to go with your gut instinct. I kept fighting with my heart and listening to my head instead. I'm just glad it's all over with and the photographer we have is one of the best (i'm being biased of course! tongue.gif )

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#9 Shellbee

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Posted 01 December 2005 - 09:05 AM

He said he was 'disappointed in you'???? Is he your father??

What an odd man.

i know the business is cut-throat, but they MUST also be used to brides taking forever to make decisions, it's the nature of the bridal industry.

up his bum!

And i whole-heartedly agree that you've made the right decision. Though maybe i'm biased too, we're photographer twinnies now!!!

#10 RolyPoly

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Posted 01 December 2005 - 09:18 AM

You are so lucky that you found out about him now! As I said in my PM, the last thing you need is to worry about ppl who have no manners. It's a terrible experience but you have someone who is great now, yeeey! biggrin.gif


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#11 Studio-D

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Posted 01 December 2005 - 11:20 PM

strange behaviour...

i must admit that its rare to see this, however for 5k, i can understand where hes coming from.

Thats not to say that his behaviour is justified, it isnt, however, ppl should always keep in mind that if u do say yes to a supplier, they may need to advise other potential clients that they cant service their day, effectively losing other business to service you.

On the flipside, if theyve rejected all other potential clients in the understanding that theyre servicing your day, then you decide to cancel without leaving a deposit, not only has he lost your business, but all the other potential clients too...

Thats just something to keep in mind, but how a business manages this element of the transaction is different with everyone.

Sorry to hear u guys were abused... its not the nicest thing to have to deal with ...



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#12 chevalier

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Posted 01 December 2005 - 11:35 PM

Yes, he has a business to run, but what happened to the ethics of being a professional? She got pencilled in, but didn't sign the paper. Sounds like he's just incensed his competition won at the end of the day and wanted to guilt-trip her.

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Posted 02 December 2005 - 02:14 AM

"but what happened to the ethics of being a professional? "

Well thats my point. There are so many ppl out there in this game offering this or that, that the bigger picture of being a business gets lost in there...
Theres no justification for treating ANYONE this way...

"She got pencilled in, but didn't sign the paper. Sounds like he's just incensed his competition won at the end of the day and wanted to guilt-trip her."

Oh i agree, theres no doubt about that, however hes also blown his chances for any referals aprilbride may have for him coz id say that there is a 100% chance that she WONT be refering him to her friends.. his work may be great, his prices may be very competitive, however hes jsut blown that with this outburst.....

Just becuase you "lost" a job, doesnt mean that the person u lost it to doesnt have the potential to bring more business your way...
I guess some people just dont see it that way, which is too bad for them, and sad for the potential client as this one bad experience has not only upset them, but would also be one of those "bad storys" which isnt forgotten anytime soon...
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Posted 02 December 2005 - 06:32 AM

OMG, aren't you pleased that happened now and you found out in time.
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Posted 02 December 2005 - 08:07 AM

This story sounds familiar with another couples experience with one that is advertised through here. Are you both in Sydney? I think you have made the right choice by not going through him. What a bully!




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