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#1 Mozma Pearson

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 11:56 AM

I was reading an article in a women's magazine about post wedding blues and wanted to know does it really exist and do women really suffer from it. I can understand the anticipation and all the preparation that goes into a wedding - not too mention the money - however the best part is the big day and the aftermath as husband and wife. However are their women that do exist, to which when the wedding is over they are lost and things aren't as what they seem. I would be interested if anyone has any stories!
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Posted 16 February 2004 - 12:01 PM

I would say Yes smile.gif Sort of...
Being Andrew's wife is the most fantastic thing ever! (to me at least tongue.gif )
But I would have to say that it is such a HUGE thing to plan a wedding, that you think, talk, dream, and fantasise about the one day for so long. Then it is gone. So I wouldn't say I felt "sad" so much as at a loose end for a while, until I got back into the swing of "normal" life without planning a wedding... starting bike riding and rallying again, that sort of thing!


#3 CheekyCraftyCat (Grace)

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 12:19 PM

Oh yes, it's definitely real! While it's great being Eddie's wife and moving in together and all that... the period of adjustment and then having no "goal" to work towards was hard. I had it a bit easier since I was a bm for another wedding not too long after mine and I had a lot to do with that wedding's planning. I've since found other things to do but still hang around in here to get a "wedding fix" (though these forums are much more than a wedding forum nowadays).
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#4 Bronwyn

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 12:32 PM

Definitely true. To me the wedding was 3 years of planning and preparation and FUN! I loved every second of the prep. And we had so much fun on the day and everything was so perfect that I still wish that we could go back and do it over and over. or a while I was really depressed cause I thought that the best day of my life ever was over and everything would be downhill from then. For weeks afterward I would look at the photos and the videos and wish we could do it again. But once I got back in the swing of normal life, and got my next big project (building a house) it was much better.

Although I do still go back and watch the video from time to time....
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#5 Portess

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 01:49 PM

Yes yes and YES!

Even now I have moments where I feel that I'm undirected... even though I've started a business, but have done very little about it in the last few months.

Planning our wedding was a big part of my life for a year, then it was over.. smile.gif

There's post natal depression, why not post marital depression??
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#6 Mrs Neesy

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 02:02 PM

Yep Yep I had them big time after 3 years of planning this one day I felt that I no longer had a goal to work towards as for so long I had been working on this one big project.

I think the way to stop this happening so badly is to make sure once the wedding is over you have something that you can go on with again either craft or something around the house etc.

I found that scrapbooking and other crafts helped me as now I have something to occupy my time

But yes it is very real no matter how much you love your hubby I have a feeling most brides feel the post wedding blues to some degree cool.gif

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 03:39 PM

All your family's attention is on you for months, sometimes years before, asking you what your plans are and such. Then all of a sudden ..... nothing. Some people might want to see the pics and/or video but those that were there just flip quickly. I noticed this with my cousins wedding. I couldn't make it, my other cousin did. when she sent up the pics my other cousin just fliped so quickly (5 mins) while I took about half an hour

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 08:20 PM

Hmmm, maybe it's still too early but so far I haven't had anything like post-wedding-blues.

I'm so relieved that it's over and everything turned out better than I could have imagined.

I mean I loved the whole wedding planning thing, but towards the end Steve and I were just so stressed we almost broke up. I thank goodness that I didn't do anything rash and call the whole thing off. We're not going on our honeymoon until the end of July so I still have that to plan and we're in the middle of building a house so maybe I'm still too busy to get depressed.

I'm just so happy to be married I'm enjoying being a wife.

But, I only got married just over a week ago so it could still be a bit too soon.

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Posted 16 February 2004 - 08:25 PM

Yes it's true it can happen, but I didn't get it. I don't know whether it's because we were already living together & so had a lot of those 'little things' already sorted out or just how we are.

It also wasn't long after we got married that we got onto planning for building our house & then building it & now TTC, so I guess we've always got something in planning. We're always constantly thinking of things to do with the garden & house smile.gif


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Posted 16 February 2004 - 09:47 PM

The hardest thing I found after the wedding was learning how to relax again - I was so accustomed to being busy & always having something to do. I even found an old post-it note when we came back from the honeymoon, with a reminder to 'Check hotel confirmation' for our wedding night. I automatically thought 'OMG, I must do that' & picked up the phone to call, when Andrew laughed and reminded me that we were already married biggrin.gif
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Posted 17 February 2004 - 05:09 PM

I haven't experienced post wedding blues as such, but I have to admit that there have been times when I've missed suddenly not having the planning, excitement etc to look forward to.

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being married to my Hubby, I wouldn't change it for anything, and I can't wait to see what our future holds, but we were planning our wedding for about 16 months, so to go from all that planning, celebrating it in one day, and then it all being over, you can sometimes feel a bit lost without it.

But like I said before, we have other wonderful things to look forward to, together, so that's pretty exciting too! smile.gif

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Posted 18 February 2004 - 07:04 PM

Gosh no, i was so glad the wedding preps were over and concentrate on other things LESS stressful!!!

But in saying that i miss the whole "im going to be a bride" feeling. I miss trying on my dress etc.

But in planning preps, i surely dont miss that part!

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