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#31 Mz Sazzy Angel

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Posted 12 September 2005 - 09:55 PM

Wow ohmy.gif I actually thought that I would be a minority but it seems I'm with the rest of the gals tongue.gif

My FH & I financed a business but at this time he was working for an asbestos company but I didn't want him to continue doing this when the business was up and running he is generally a silent partner whilst I am the OM.

However, this is not something that we can actually do fulltime. Money is good but it's not a career as in I feel that I would need to get more out of a career than what I do now. However, as far as I can remember even with past boyfriends I've always been the dominant and better paid out of the two but that was something that I liked.

Now when I think about it FH is a better househusband than I am. He cooks better, better with kids etc etc but I'm certainly better in the business side of things also biggrin.gif So I think that finally the girls have taken over laugh.gif
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Posted 14 September 2005 - 03:51 PM

QUOTE (SheikYerbouti @ Aug 25 2005, 09:14 AM)
Quick question, without prying too much, how/why does a family with a 6-figure income get centrelink/government payments? Is it family tax benefit etc?

No not prying

I have 3 children, 2 are disabled so we receive carers allowance for them both, Family Tax Allowance is calculated partly on combined income but predominantely on my income (which is $0)
I also receive Child Support which is based on my ex husbands income (so not a government paying, although paid via a government agency if that makes sense)
and we receive a Medical allowance for doing Distance Education

On the flip side - we had a $19K tax bill last year (capital gains) and have an $11K tax bill this year (again Capital gains)

We also end up with a bill from Centrelink for underestimating income.

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Posted 14 September 2005 - 04:13 PM

QUOTE (Michael's B2B, Sarah @ Jun 27 2005, 08:36 AM)
We basically earn the same after I have earned my bonuses for the year. Not that we notice who earns more anyway as both our salaries go into the same account and all our expenses come out of it.

I don't think it matters in this day and age.

We're pretty much the same.

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Posted 14 September 2005 - 04:13 PM

Well, Dylan earns at LEAST double what I do... which is to say he doesn't earn very much at all and I earn half of not very much!
We get by, Dylan barely scrapes into the centerlink bracket (we're both full time students), as you need to get paid at least once in 12 weeks we sort it with his job so that he makes it every now and then because we can't afford to get cut off. I recieve a centerlink payment every now and again, rarely the maxiumum amount, I think last time I recieved $9, woohoo! rolleyes.gif
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Well, a few years ago I lived at home and worked full time hours on a casual rate and I managed to save up a hefty nest egg. The first half went on our first trip OS a few years ago, the second half is going on this trip. I'm paying for most of this trip, it's my gift to Dylan because he pays the rent, buys the groceries, runs our car etc...
Oh and earning less than D sucks, because I like to buy my own clothing etc and it bugs me to have to ask for money for new underwear or whatever. Just my opinion of my own situation.
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Posted 14 September 2005 - 10:54 PM

This is an interesting topic. I earn a lot more than my H2B - twice, to 3x his salary actually. I really don't care what other people think at all !!!

But it does have an impact in certain ways.. On a practical level, H2B's money is tied up in repaying various debts etc, so I pay for most of our entertainment. I pay a larger chunk of the mortgage, and buy many items for the house etc, because I can afford it, whereas he can't. All these things are fine by me because its "our" money really, not mine - now, whether I technically earned it or not doesn't really matter. In the end, we both work hard, I actually like my job a lot more than he does, and i just happen to take home a bigger pay cheque which i consider fortunate, not "fair".

On the other hand, while H2B says he likes being with a 'powerful' career woman (hahahha-what a joke laugh.gif ) who earns more money, there is an undeniable underlying tension. For example, he tries to keep a 'stash' of cash so he can pay for things unexpectedly every now and then (which peeves me abit because I would much rather he just be open with me about what our finances are -- but at the same time, I can understand why he does it). So I think it is something you need to speak openly about within your relationship.

But as I said above - I TOTALLY don't care what other people think !! People at work think its lovely that my guy is always around for me, not working like a maniac or travelling. And I know that when we have kids, he'll be putting our family first, not his work (which is what so many men on big incomes seem to do...)
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Posted 19 September 2005 - 02:47 PM

At the moment I'm a stay at home fiancee. When I did work I earnt waaaay less then DF and I never will match it. It used to really get me upset. Because I was working therefore the home duties wouldn't get done to the standard I like. I felt like I was being a sucky fiance. Now that I'm not working I feel more comfy, but a little bit of cabin fever is setting in but will be fine once I start study next year.

Even when I was working and earning ok money I felt it made no difference anyway. Like I was doing a job I hated and the cash I was making made no difference to our lifestyle. It was my DF idea for me to quit. He just wanted me to be happy.

It works for us, may not for everyone. But since I quit we have both be more relaxed and happy.

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Posted 19 September 2005 - 07:57 PM

I earn twice as much as h2b. The amount he or i earn isnt the issue - its what is spent and what comes out that is!! LOL. H2b is in another job which he earns less but is lots less stressful for him. We just have to learn to budget ourselves ALOT better!!! LOL.
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Posted 20 September 2005 - 10:29 AM

I earnt a little more than Hubby last financial year, my taxable income was about $500 more than his. That will change this financial year due to me being on maternity leave and only returning to work part time. Also Hubby changed jobs a month ago and is now on a higher wage and it looks as though he will probably get a promotion at the end of his 3 month probabtion period and go up a level again biggrin.gif

It doesn't bother me who earns more but being on maternity leave and having to ask for money from time to time is very strange after having been independent for so many years. Before the pregnancy we used to put equal amounts of money into our joint expenses, mortgage, petrol, utilities, savings etc each week and what was left over from our own pays was our individual money. I know I am doing important work in caring for Olivia but I certainly have changed the way I spend money, I can happily buy anything for her with our joint money but I feel a little odd if I spend it on myself IYKWIM.
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Posted 30 March 2006 - 04:38 PM

Up until about a year ago we were on the same pay... now damon earns way more than i do - I dont mind, he slogged for four years at uni, and we share money, so the more he earns the better for me, oops i mean us - haha!
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Posted 30 March 2006 - 09:20 PM

Chad earns more than I do. We're lucky in that when we have a baby I should be able to work at least part-time still because of the hours that we work.

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Posted 31 March 2006 - 09:45 AM

H2B earns quite a bit more than me so when we do have kids, there'd be no choice but for me to be a stay at home mum. Although H2b has suggested he would love to stay at home while work! He thinks its as easy as that LOL
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Posted 03 April 2006 - 12:23 PM

I earn more than H2B & I've been asked this a bit since we got engaged...(does it bother me etc?)

Honestly no it doesn't bother me, it all goes in & comes out of the same place but i can see that it might be harder later on when we have kids if i do actually want to stay home for a bit, i might possibly not have that option even if i wanted to....(but i'll cross that bridge in a few years when we come to it)

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Posted 03 April 2006 - 05:22 PM

Hubbie earns nearly four times more then I do, but that doesn't faze us at all.

We have been sharing money for the past eight years so it just seems normal....I wouldn't mind earning a bit more to help out in our future, but my industry has lousy awards. dry.gif

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Posted 29 April 2006 - 08:51 PM

QUOTE (gwen @ Apr 3 2006, 05:22 PM)
Hubbie earns nearly four times more then I do, but that doesn't faze us at all.

When we 1st meet I earned nearly double what Cam earnt , now he would earn 4 times what i earn !

I freelance from home and Cam works in the mines , which is very good money !
We run a property as well , but we never seem to see any of that money !!

We don't talk about money ! It all goes in to one bank account ! I pay the personal bills and buy everything we need , and if Cam wants something he just uses his credit card and i pay it off at the end of evry month!!

I would love to be earning more money but we have evrything we want and i have no desire to go back to work full time !!
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