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Posted 24 June 2005 - 10:17 PM

Well we have always said it doesn't matter who earns more then who because it all goes in the same account, we both work hard for it and we both appreciate what we both bring in!!!

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Posted 25 June 2005 - 05:32 PM

My HB earns lots lots lots more than i do. I am a stay at home mum and the amount of money he gets gives me a total of $124 a fortnight for FTB part A and B. And with the new job that he has it is only going to get less and less sad.gif
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 09:47 PM

I think this is such an intersting topic.

I now earn 1/3 of what my partner does. This time last year I earnt a quarter. Although my partner earns good coin I will probably end up earning more in the long run. He also works in a company where many of the senior mangers are women and there are lots of stay at home dads.

He reminds me not infrequently that he wants to stay at home.

Its only now that I am feeling more secure in my job and earning capacity that it is not a problem.

When I was in my 30K graduate job and he was earning eight times that I had massive problems in that I felt like I had done all this work for nothing. My partner didn't even go to uni. I was never comfortable with him paying for things but the reality was that I could not afford the lifestyle that he could. For a few years I went seriously into hock trying to keep up just so my pride did not get the better of me.

We don't have joint finances and probably never will, although I do have a sup credit card for household costs. Now that we live together money is still a source of arguments. He still wants to spend like when he was single and I want to plan for the future. We should have more to show for what we earn than we do.

I guess my earning more than him remains to be seen and I do wonder how supportive he will be should it *actually* happen.

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Posted 27 June 2005 - 08:36 AM

We basically earn the same after I have earned my bonuses for the year. Not that we notice who earns more anyway as both our salaries go into the same account and all our expenses come out of it.

I don't think it matters in this day and age.
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Posted 27 June 2005 - 03:33 PM

At the moment I am earning more than Marty but he has the potential to earn more...even though he works for me. laugh.gif Basically, I have my full-time job which pays for everything (pretty much) at the moment but I'm going on Maternity Leave at the end of September.

Marty works for our landscaping company (which is mine on paper) and it's our first year of having the company. We weren't expecting much, if any, profit the first year so we were pleasantly surprised with what we've been getting. Of course, we've had a lot of expenses so we haven't received as much as we think...if that makes sense. Work pretty much stops over winter so it'll be picking up again in another 6 weeks or so which means I'll see less of him but he'll be bringing in some nice (and much needed) cash to tide us over for next winter as well.

He has been doing the housework and some cooking (I love to cook though) and it hasn't bothered him. Most of his mates didn't tease him, they all knew that our own company is our dream and that we were prepared to make sacrifices so it would be a reality. Him being a house-husband and being financially supported by me is one of those things....and from the end of September he'll be "repaying the favour" as one of his mates puts it.
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Posted 27 June 2005 - 05:32 PM

I thought klay and i were on even par - but he has earnt an extra 10K then me this year - but he has been in his job 3 months longer!

regardless of who earns the most tho, i control the money....must be a womens thing..
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Posted 28 June 2005 - 07:02 PM

I find it really interesting how many of your husbands/fiances/partners are planning on being stay at home dads. I guess it is getting more and more common but it still seems unusual for me. It makes sense I suppose if you are the main money earner in the family.

For us we earn pretty much the same although we switch every 6 months as I have my pay reviews in December and H2B has his in July. I don't think it matters but H2B would be a bit put out if I earned a lot more than him I think.

I also think this situation can make it quite a bit harder when it comes to having children as we will basically lose half our disposable income while I stay at home- whereas if there is more imbalance you most likely aren't losing as greater % of your total income.

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Posted 30 June 2005 - 06:10 PM

As far as who earns more - it doesn't matter to us at all in regards to spending. Our pays are put into our joint account and we pay our mortgage/bills and our spending money comes from there. I earn over $10K more, but I don't spend any more or feel that it's my right to spend more. We are 'allowed' to spend the same.

The only concern I have about earning more is when we decide to have kids - but this isn't for 4-5 years, so hopefully K will have caught up with my income by then and we'll just have to have savings in the bank!
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Posted 26 July 2005 - 04:56 PM

i earn more than my H2B.
a lot more actually.
he works 7 days a week and i work 5, and last financial year i earnt $12000 more than him.
we never make it known, just had a giggle at group certificate time, but we dont make it known to friends and family

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Posted 26 July 2005 - 11:31 PM

Anth earns more than twice what I do - although hopefully after our first year in business with our franchise (in partnership with parents) I should get a bit of a bonus. He works long hours and has a physically demanding job (he is a builder) and he gets paid very well for it.
I control all the finances, not because I am a control freak, but Anth really has no idea about money and asked me to look after it. We don't have joint accounts yet, but we really need to get that organised, just a matter of getting to the bank to sign the paperwork.
When the time comes hat we have children, I will stay at home for the first few months or even up to a year but will return to work probably part time as Anthony has the capacity to earn a lot more than what I can.

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Posted 27 July 2005 - 12:45 AM

I don't think it should matter how much either earns. When living in Australia, I earnt more then my H2B but now we are on an even par almost. As long as you are both happy and can make ends meet then who cares who is the hour husband and whose the money earner. You see more men be the stay at home dads more and more and good on them!

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Posted 27 July 2005 - 12:07 PM

My hubby is a professional and earns over $100K - I will NEVER earn more than him, even if I was still working. I just added up payments I receive from the gov't and CSA and it's over $20K! ohmy.gif Crikey! although we always get a bill from Centrelink - last years was about $1500.

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Posted 18 August 2005 - 09:57 AM

i dont think it mattters. Dre earns more than me but his money is my money and my money is his in the end.

It took me awhile to get this concept. I hated when i started maternity leave and he had to give me money all the time. But im use to it now and i make up for it in other ways, like the washing and cooking etc
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Posted 18 August 2005 - 10:33 AM

I don't make as much as my husband, but I have a steadier income, if that makes sense. He gets paid large amounts sporadically - it's the nature of the film / advertising industry where I tend to work for a weekly salary on my projects. There's never been an issue between us about who earns what so long as both of us are contributing to our relationship/family/household on an equal basis.

We are just about to take a leap into the unknown as I'll be stopping work while we are in Qld for his next big project and we are ttc/hopefully getting preggo. I'm not sure how this will work - I've never been without my own income since I was 14! Our plan is for me to be a SAHM (I can work freelance if I want to) so I need to get used to the lack of personal income.
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Posted 25 August 2005 - 09:14 AM

QUOTE (~*MrsJ*~ @ Jul 27 2005, 12:07 PM)
My hubby is a professional and earns over $100K - I will NEVER earn more than him, even if I was still working. I just added up payments I receive from the gov't and CSA and it's over $20K! ohmy.gif Crikey! although we always get a bill from Centrelink - last years was about $1500.

Quick question, without prying too much, how/why does a family with a 6-figure income get centrelink/government payments? Is it family tax benefit etc?

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