Yours Vs Your Partners Salary
Posted 22 June 2005 - 09:06 AM
Over a financial year my H2B's income can range from $10k less than mine up to as much as what I make....however as his work is seasonal, for the majority of the year his pay only just covers his car payments, health insurance, car insurance, fuel (he is provided accommodation at his work). When we move in together - so long as we can cover all bills and payments have a little left over for savings and luxury items I will be happy. I feel as though some people look strangely on the fact that my H2B doesn't make as much as what I do (not that we disclose our incomes to people - they just assume). He is in the process of doing a Uni degree externally and we have calculated that by the time we start trying for a baby (approx 6 years) he will be finished his degree and get a higher paying job. Alternativey - if we have a baby before then - I would be more than happy to go back to work and him be a stay at home mum.
Just wondering what other peoples thoughts are on this?
Posted 22 June 2005 - 09:37 AM
Then I have to try and find a job - we are settled were we are and his job is great - plenty of room for growth, but there is literally nothing for me job wise here (the uni won't hire me fulltime because I have done my entire degree there) so the only choice is travelling to Sydney which I really don't want to do - also makes it next to impossible to do fieldwork (science degree) because of the distance...
The upcoming year is going to be pretty horrid I think
Posted 22 June 2005 - 09:39 AM
Hubby’s dream is to give up work completely and concentrate on being a househusband – with which I am in complete accord. However, I have told him he has to brush up big-time on his housework and cooking skills, as I’ll expect him to keep the house immaculate and have my evening meal ready when I get home at night (I’m terrible – a husband from the fifties!).
I wouldn't even spare a thought as to what others may be thinking - you sound like the two of you have worked out what you want and how you are planning to get there, and obviously you are happy with your plans. If anyone had the gall to make a comment I would just look at them strangely and ask them what they were talking about - you can guarantee that once they have to explain in any detail they will realise that they are being not only silly but also incredibly intrusive.
PG & hatching on 22 May 2007
Posted 22 June 2005 - 09:49 AM
The way we look at it is that as long as what we earn cover our lifestyle with a little left over than we are happy. I earn more now but im sure there will be a time where dh will be earning much more than me. DH's dream too is to get established in his career and have me stay home.....Our moneys all go into the same account and comeout of the same account.
I too would never dream of what anyone else says/thinks coz at the end of the day its our life and our business and no one knows what we earn anyway!
Posted 22 June 2005 - 10:12 AM
|QUOTE (Who knew? @ Jun 22 2005, 09:39 AM)|
|Hubby’s dream is to give up work completely and concentrate on being a househusband – with which I am in complete accord. However, I have told him he has to brush up big-time on his housework and cooking skills, as I’ll expect him to keep the house immaculate and have my evening meal ready when I get home at night (I’m terrible – a husband from the fifties!).|
Jen, I could have written this post myself (except for the cooking part - that is my favourite part of the day, and I would never give that up).
When we finally have a baby, Milo will be a stay at home Dad.
Posted 22 June 2005 - 11:05 AM
Yes, I am living in fantasy land - but it is nice to dream...
PG & hatching on 22 May 2007
Posted 22 June 2005 - 01:09 PM
I really dont think it matters who earns more, as long as you are comfortable in the life style you lead, then who cares, I think the days of the "male" earning more are over, well at least in our house hold they are
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Posted 22 June 2005 - 04:01 PM
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Posted 23 June 2005 - 03:28 PM
To him it's very important that he brings home good dollars to support his family...Only thing is I have to confiscate all his pay because he spends it on rubbish the instant it goes into his account! I've already cut up his ATM card, and have to hide the other cards!!
Posted 23 June 2005 - 03:34 PM
He then worked as a farm hand which he loves for great pay but not as much as my weekly earnings, he enjoyed his job which is the main thing. He then was unemployed for a while between jobs and him getting sick all starting in the first month of our pregnancy!
Getting used to the lifestyle was easy as I never took it for granted and knew that my job had security, benefits, more family friendly and my job has allowed us to have Ben at home being our house Daddy making big decisions at home he said a month ago that he was 'nervous driving a multi million dollar barge looking after Paris is more challenging and nerve racking' Neither of us use money to value ourselves if we have no money we still have eachother and we are a really good team.
Having said that we are both shocking with money management so we understand eachother - most times!
I guess the good thing is most of Ben's mates are envious of his situation, some who appear jelous or thinking 'men should do...' comment or try to make him feel bad about it. Can't help that we're happy!
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Posted 24 June 2005 - 11:45 AM
I currently earn more than L, but he has more potential to earn more. L has only been in his chosen career for a couple of years & his salary will increase over time.
And my salary is about to go down to zero, I'm about to resign & move interstate to be with him.
I know it doesn't worry him that I earn more than him, he couldn't care less! As long as all the bills are paid & there is food on the table he's happy. Can't really ask for much more than that.
Posted 24 June 2005 - 11:58 AM
Do whatever makes you comfortable. I would go crazy staying at home, I need to be in control of the money, I'm obsessive ....
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