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#1 asrai

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Posted 04 March 2005 - 02:55 PM

I just rang to speak to someone at DFAT, because I need to apply for a passport so I can go overseas for our honeymoon. They told me I have to have my airfares etc all booked in my maiden name, because they refuse to change my passport to my married name in time.

We can pay extra to have the passport processed in 2 business days (and then just delay our honeymoon by a day - we're marrying on a Sunday) but they won't recognise the certificate signed on our wedding day, in the presence of our celebrant, they claim that they need the one from births deaths and marriages, which we won't have until weeks later.

They said that they'll change the name on my passport once we're back, free of change, but thats no consolation.

I'm absolutely devastated that I'll be going on our honeymoon, the start of our married lives together, as my maiden name.

Am I the only one upset by this? Or is there any way around it that I don't know about?


-- Rach


ETA: As I posted later - I'm over it now. I was hormonal, and upset because my baby sister was just about to leave for 10 months overseas. I have a great job (which is a bit stressful at the moment - working close to 50 hours per week) and I'm at uni now too. Yes, I'm blowing things out of proportion, but I don't know that there's any point in dredging this thread up just so you can say how ludicrous I am and how tough your life is. Yes I'm a spoilt brat. I've said it, you don't have to. Thank you all for your opinions.

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Posted 04 March 2005 - 02:59 PM

Rach - I really wouldn't worry about it mate - it's a plane ticket - nothing more and certainly doesn't negate the fact that you are married!

Go on your honeymoon and enjoy it - don't let something as small as this change it for you!

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Posted 04 March 2005 - 02:59 PM

The only way around it is to not go on your honeymoon straight after the wedding.

We all have to do it, its not a huge deal wink.gif

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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:01 PM

I have to do the same thing.

It is depressing to know that i will be known by my maiden name not my married name on our honeymoon.

I dont think there is any way around it cause to change the passport you need the official marriage licence from the BD&M and it can take a couple of weeks to get that. You can apply and pay extra to have it sent to you urgently but even once you get it you still need to change the passport.

How long have you got between the wedding and your honeymoon?

I plan on telling everyone at the resorts that we are staying at that i am now married.
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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:05 PM

We were hoping to leave for our honeymoon on the Monday or Tuesday after we get married (marrying on a Sunday).

It is making me want to have a honeymoon in Aus instead, within WA so we don't have to deal with the airfare issue (I dont know that we'd be able to get my photo id changed so quickly either) and then travel o/s later.

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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:09 PM

QUOTE (asrai @ Mar 4 2005, 02:55 PM)

Am I the only one upset by this? Or is there any way around it that I don't know about?


-- Rach

Hi Rach

No you are not the only one upset by this and we are not even going overseas. We are driving ourselves to Margaret River and our accommodation has been booked by the travel agent as Mr and Miss (Maiden Name).

I don't know why they have done it like this but I think that it is going to cause problems when we get there as we have booked a disabled room and sometimes these rooms come with single beds. Not much fun for a honeymoon eh!!

Lisa
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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:12 PM

QUOTE (asrai @ Mar 4 2005, 03:05 PM)
We were hoping to leave for our honeymoon on the Monday or Tuesday after we get married (marrying on a Sunday).

It is making me want to have a honeymoon in Aus instead, within WA so we don't have to deal with the airfare issue (I dont know that we'd be able to get my photo id changed so quickly either) and then travel o/s later.

Seriously mate I wouldn't change your plans just because your new name won't be on some bits of paper - you will still be your new name after all, its just the paperwork. Its not like noone will know you're married or anything, and its still your honeymoon.





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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:13 PM

Thats terrible Lisa sad.gif

Can you call up the place where you are staying and ask to ensure that you get a queen or kingsize bed? They must be able to organise that for you, surely, even if the room is standard with 2 singles.

As for me...being hormonal, sick and a bridezilla all at once does not make a good combo!


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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:13 PM

Hon, I wouldn't stress about it.

I just had my honeymoon and the whole time I was there the resort was being called Mrs Rickard.

You have our whole married live ahead of you to enjoy your new name.

Sweet, I can understand why it would upset you, but don't let one little thing get you down. Just think as soon as you are back you can do all the name changes - which is not the most fun thing I did.

Just remember as long as you and hubby know - it doesn' matter what is written on your tickets or passports.


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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:19 PM

I would definitely not change your travel plans because of this situation.

As long as you let the staff at the place know that you are on your honeymoon and that you will be taking on your husbands name, i am sure they will address you with your married name.

My celebrant told me that although you wont have time to officially change your name, legally you can start using your married name.
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Posted 04 March 2005 - 03:57 PM

Honestly i didnt have a problem with it honestly who will know !! The receptionist that checks you in laugh.gif

I had to do the same thing maiden name on all travel docs and passport no biggie just changed it once we had returned home only thing that annoyed me is having to pay for a passport twice when the first one had only been used once dry.gif

I definately wouldnt change plans over a little issue like paperwork

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Posted 05 March 2005 - 01:47 PM

heck, i've been married four years and my passport is still in my maiden name (only because the picture is really good and i never look good in pics)

don't let it get to you

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Posted 05 March 2005 - 02:52 PM

I wouldn't let it get to you either - "a rose by any other name would smell as sweet!"
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Posted 07 March 2005 - 07:30 PM

The maiden name thing can be quite an issue!

My sisters friend got married recently and her family paid for the tickets for the honeymoon and booked them in her married name without thinking. There was no way she could change her name on her passport in time and as far as I know they had to forfeit those tickets.

I'm flying to the US straight after our wedding and even though all my documents will have my maiden name I'll still be calling myself Mrs McCarthy. For things like accomodation you can really book yourself in whatever name you please so dont worry too much about your ticket being in your maiden name

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Posted 07 March 2005 - 08:21 PM

I wouldn't stress it is just tickets and reservations.

Despite me being booked under my maiden name, everywhere we stayed had chocolates, champagnes and note/card "Congratulations Mr and Mrs (married name)"

Relax - you have many years ahead of being under your married name.
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