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How long did it take for dad to warm up to bub?

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#16 eloise78


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Posted 11 February 2005 - 07:01 PM

I'm 10.5 weeks and my hubby is still not that enthusiastic. Of course, it doesn't help that it wasn't a planned pregnancy and he was never that desperate to have kids!!

He is a lovely guy though and he's pretty confident that he will get excited in time. I think like many others have said, that without the bump it's hard for them to feel like it's real.

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Posted 09 June 2005 - 04:11 PM

QUOTE (Beastybug @ Jan 19 2005, 07:21 PM)

I am addicted to my daughter. biggrin.gif Excepts when she has a big smelly messy pooey nappy. Then shes Kat's

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Posted 12 July 2005 - 12:40 PM

I couldn't wait to be a father, and as soon as I held my children in my arms, I was over the moon in love with them. Still am, and will always be in love with them.

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Posted 10 November 2005 - 10:33 AM

Alan seemed a bit 'blah' about it to begin with too...

I think the problem is that they feel a bit redundant & left out. I mean us girls get to experience a lot of changes, but really, nothing changes as such for the guys. They don't feel any different, nothing looks different..... KWIM?? They've done their bit & now its all about Mum & baby.

I try to think of ways to make Alan feel more involved & connected with what's happening & I think that has helped.

He's VERY excited about our first ultrasound next week!

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Posted 10 November 2005 - 01:35 PM

Mark came to all the antenatal visits and scans and that really helped him feel part of it. It helped that I started showing at 8 weeks too, so I looked pregnant much sooner than lots of our friends. Puggle, as Dylan was then known, was also a very active baby and Mark felt him move at 16 weeks (only two weeks later than me).

We also found out that he was a boy at 12 weeks (flashed his willy at us!) so we felt a connection to a little boy, rather than just a baby, a bit sooner, if that makes sense?

One benefit of an IVF pregnancy is that the man can be really quite involved. There are no surprises, after all, and Mark got to release the embryos into my womb, so he felt part of it, and it felt much less like a medical procedure.
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Posted 10 February 2006 - 11:27 PM

My H2b is excited about it so much. Before I had the official word that I was pregnant he could not wipe the smile off his face. Then when it was official, well lets just say we had a friend that took one look at him and knew straight away before it was even mentioned.

Poor H2b missed the first ultrasound as he was so sick in bed and could not walk. However the first time he saw my tummy move he was so excited, it was like it suddenly became a reality. Kinda like a little boy who wishes and wishes for a fire truck and then finally gets the biggest and best one you have ever seen and is not quite sure what to do with it. It was so funny watching his reaction. And to think this is not his first... laugh.gif

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Posted 06 April 2006 - 12:30 PM

For those that didn't know, I'm the bloke about whom this thread was started.

It's true that it was hard to get into the thought of being a father while Leila was still in the womb.

But while the memory has suffered from sleep deprivation, there is no way I'm going to forget the 26 hours or so that led to Leila joining us. It was a very special time, and it continues to be very special to us both.

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Posted 13 April 2006 - 10:15 PM

we have two kids and my partner wasnt making a fuss over our bump but when bubs were both born he was amazed he didnt cry its just not his thing

he loves and wants this baby other wise he would of said so hay!!!

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Posted 17 May 2006 - 01:27 PM

paul is over the moon about the baby coming - which is beautiful!!!:wub: He tells everyone!!!! wub.gifwub.gifwub.gif
He really thinks that we are having a boy though - he is the only one!!!
And I am a bit concerned that if Babar turns out to be a girl that he will be disappointed! unsure.gif
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Posted 20 May 2006 - 12:49 PM

Once hubby watched our 12 week scan video (he couldnt be there)...and when my tummy became more noticable...he became more involved in baby convo.
Now he knows its his daughter inside me...he is more interactive with my belly as well as overprotective of me.
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