Age Of Marriage
Posted 11 February 2004 - 12:14 PM
As you guys may or may not know I am only 21 and am getting married next year. Granted I consider myself very mature for my age and the relationship I have with my partner has been through enough ups and downs for me to know that our partnership is strong. But Dr. Phil's comments have really got me worried that soceity might see me as to young to be making such a commitment.
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Posted 11 February 2004 - 12:28 PM
I think in context Dr Phil would've been speaking about this woman in particular, not everyone her age.
I truly believe it depends on the couple, however, I'm thankful that I didn't marry at 19 or 20 when I was SO *in love* with the people I was involved in. Since I've grown more personally and emotionally I am grateful that I waited.
"Getting Married" is no longer a priority for me as such. When I was younger (even just a couple of years ago) getting married was THE priority. Although it is still something I want to do, I have realised there are more important things for me to prioritise.
That's me - you are the only one who can *know* if it is the *right* time for you to get married. I would suggest that if you are concerned at what society thinks however, that you may be too young. Who cares what *they* think? Don't worry about what *I* think either, if it's right for you - DO IT!
We only learn by doing (or not doing).
Posted 11 February 2004 - 12:35 PM
Posted 11 February 2004 - 01:11 PM
I got married when I was 22 - so I wonder what Dr Phil would think of that!
Seriosuly though, I was ready but I know that a lot of 22 year olds probably arent.
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 07:58 AM
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 08:28 AM
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| I think it depends on the individual ppl, age is just a number after all.|
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 09:36 AM
Mum married when she was 18. She had my brother at 19 and me by 21. Personally, I couldn't have imagined doing that when I was 18, 19 and 21 - I wasn't grown up enough
I was married at 27. Mark is 37. Sometimes I get eyebrows raised at the age difference but usually that's because they know neither myself nor Mark. When they see us together, they don't see the age gap, they see 2 people perfectly suited
So, I really don't think you can set any store by age. There'll never be a 'perfect' age at which to hold life-changing events. You just gotta go with the flow and trust your instincts at all times
Posted 12 February 2004 - 10:19 AM
And the fact that the guy seem to have no clue on basic living expenses and all.... that was why Dr Phil told them to wait until he's more established
I got engaged when I'm 21, there was no doubt in my mind Fred was the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But we did wait until now to get married.... partly because of the money factor, partly also because I personally hope that I will have a career before we get married.
It all really depends on the couple
Posted 12 February 2004 - 12:02 PM
No one has said anything about our age, probably because they know us as individuals and as a couple, but we did wait til we knew we were ready although we were committed long before.
I agree that it's much more to do with maturity, compatability, understanding and a willingness to make your relationship work than your age - some may well have this at 18, others at 38.
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