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Poll: What is the right age for people to be getting married?

What is the right age for people to be getting married?

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#1 Jane

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Posted 11 February 2004 - 12:14 PM

I saw an epsiode on Dr. Phil today where he told a 22 year old women that she was too young to be getting married. What do you guys think? How young is too young? What's the right age to be getting married? Or does it really depend on the maturity of the couple and the strenght of their relationship.


As you guys may or may not know I am only 21 and am getting married next year. Granted I consider myself very mature for my age and the relationship I have with my partner has been through enough ups and downs for me to know that our partnership is strong. But Dr. Phil's comments have really got me worried that soceity might see me as to young to be making such a commitment.
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Posted 11 February 2004 - 12:28 PM

Jane: "I saw an epsiode on Dr. Phil today where he told a 22 year old women that she was too young to be getting married"

I think in context Dr Phil would've been speaking about this woman in particular, not everyone her age.

I truly believe it depends on the couple, however, I'm thankful that I didn't marry at 19 or 20 when I was SO *in love* with the people I was involved in. Since I've grown more personally and emotionally I am grateful that I waited.

"Getting Married" is no longer a priority for me as such. When I was younger (even just a couple of years ago) getting married was THE priority. Although it is still something I want to do, I have realised there are more important things for me to prioritise.

That's me - you are the only one who can *know* if it is the *right* time for you to get married. I would suggest that if you are concerned at what society thinks however, that you may be too young. Who cares what *they* think? Don't worry about what *I* think either, if it's right for you - DO IT!

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Posted 11 February 2004 - 12:35 PM

I wish I could choose two options there. Because it depends on the couple, and if everything is right, then as long as they are of legal age, it should be fine.

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Posted 11 February 2004 - 01:11 PM

I think it really depends on the couple.
I got married when I was 22 - so I wonder what Dr Phil would think of that!
Seriosuly though, I was ready but I know that a lot of 22 year olds probably arent.
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Posted 11 February 2004 - 01:27 PM

I think it all depends on the maturity of the couple and their relationship. You can't really say that no 22 yr old should be married as we are all different people, some people are just not ready to make that commitment at that age and others have been ready for a while. One of my bridesmaids is 25 and doesn't look like she will be ready for quite some years yet - she gets edgy in a relationship and breaks it off cause she's not ready for the commitment and she still wants to party! HARD!!! Where as me on the other hand, was ready and got married at 23. I would never change the age i married at and my bridesmaid would never have considered being married at 23, so it's very much a matter of what stage in their life each individual is at. Jane, if you are ready, then go for it hon! smile.gif
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Posted 11 February 2004 - 02:33 PM

I agree with exactly what Miranda said.

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#7 Mrs Neesy

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Posted 11 February 2004 - 02:46 PM

Well I was 22 when I got married, I really think it depends on the couple wink.gif

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Posted 11 February 2004 - 04:14 PM

I sooo believe it depends on the couple, I know two people the same age one whom I think is not mature enough for marriage and the other who is married with a baby - was ready for both and is doing sooo well!!! biggrin.gif
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 07:58 AM

I think it depends on the individual ppl, age is just a number after all.
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 08:28 AM

QUOTE (Mrs L @ Feb 12 2004, 07:58 AM)
I think it depends on the individual ppl, age is just a number after all.


Well said!! biggrin.gif
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#11 TraceyZ

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Posted 12 February 2004 - 08:43 AM

have to agree with that Maria
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 09:13 AM

It definitely depends on the couple. I have friends that are in their late twenties but nowhere near the maturity needed to enter in to a commitment like marriage adn also have a fantastic friend who was married at 18, is now 23 with 2 kids (still happily married) but is a very mature person for her age. It definitely depends on the people. I was 25 when I got married and I felt it was definitely the right time for me and the right time for us.

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Posted 12 February 2004 - 09:36 AM

I just think that times have changed now.

Mum married when she was 18. She had my brother at 19 and me by 21. Personally, I couldn't have imagined doing that when I was 18, 19 and 21 - I wasn't grown up enough wink.gif

I was married at 27. Mark is 37. Sometimes I get eyebrows raised at the age difference but usually that's because they know neither myself nor Mark. When they see us together, they don't see the age gap, they see 2 people perfectly suited smile.gif

So, I really don't think you can set any store by age. There'll never be a 'perfect' age at which to hold life-changing events. You just gotta go with the flow and trust your instincts at all times smile.gif
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 10:19 AM

And Dr Phil raised a very good point on that case..... if you are perfect for each other now.... you will be perfect for each other 10 years from now....

And the fact that the guy seem to have no clue on basic living expenses and all.... that was why Dr Phil told them to wait until he's more established smile.gif

I got engaged when I'm 21, there was no doubt in my mind Fred was the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But we did wait until now to get married.... partly because of the money factor, partly also because I personally hope that I will have a career before we get married.

It all really depends on the couple smile.gif
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Posted 12 February 2004 - 12:02 PM

I'm 22 and fairly recently engaged, I'll be 23 when we get married next year (Jon will be 25). We've been together for 7 years, will be 8 on our wedding day, and through huge changes as individuals and as a couple to get here! And I think that's the way it is, that you grow together through your life (if you're lucky).

No one has said anything about our age, probably because they know us as individuals and as a couple, but we did wait til we knew we were ready although we were committed long before.

I agree that it's much more to do with maturity, compatability, understanding and a willingness to make your relationship work than your age - some may well have this at 18, others at 38.

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