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#1 Guest_Windsor_Guest

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Posted 15 December 2013 - 10:58 PM

Might be happening around her first birthday or later.

Is it unsual to do them that late? Cait was baptised at 5mths, we just haven't been able to organise for a baptism for Nat with family 2-3 and 5hrs away, not knowing when we were moving and our chosen godparents living in the NT.

Now we haven't been able to do it before they've gone to the UK for 12mths sad.gif DH said we could just pick someone else but I don't want to, I'd rather wait til they're back. We could just have his best mate and ask DHs younger sister (older one is godmother for Cait) as we will need to have one confirmed Catholic actually present but I'm pretty sure my sister would get the poohs if we only ever asked DHs family (which is why we were asking our friends as a couple too).


We WANT to do it soon but our friends won't be back until Dec 2014 so Nat will be 18mths by then. I'd feel weird having a first birthday party for her and still not having her baptised though...

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Posted 16 December 2013 - 11:04 AM

I'd wait until the people your really want as godparents are back. I don't think 18 months is odd/too late smile.gif

Just so long as you do it before she is old enough to realise she isn't baptised and her sister is then you're safe! tongue.gif My parents had my brother baptised and never did it for me. I have asked them heaps of times why and the answer is always "Don't know" which I think is code for they just never got around to it/forgot laugh.gif It really bothered me growing up but I don't have a problem with it now.

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Posted 16 December 2013 - 11:46 AM

I agree. 18 months is fine. I think it's worth waiting for the people you want.


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Posted 16 December 2013 - 04:34 PM

Puggie, the argument I had with my sister was about me sending my child to Catholic school where she will be brainwashed so don't think any proxies are coming from my side!

We could do proxies but I'd rather just wait. DH would rather get it done and have someone else. I feel uncomfortable asking someone to be a proxy, 'Oh so we don't want you to be the ACTUAL godparent but they can't make it so can you stand in???' just doesn't sit well with me.

The window for N to fit the family dress is now but we just don't have the time to do it and get everyone together in the one place this time of year.


It's not weird then to have a first birthday party for her in June and then a baptism 6mths later?

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Posted 16 December 2013 - 08:47 PM

QUOTE(Windsor @ Dec 16 2013, 05:34 PM) View Post

Puggie, the argument I had with my sister was about me sending my child to Catholic school where she will be brainwashed so don't think any proxies are coming from my side!


You never know. I'm a pretty staunch atheist and have my big problems with the Catholic education system, yet I'm a godparent to a friend's daughter, church baptism and all.

Personally I don't think 18 months would be too old! I think it is more important to have the people you want there, and if you're waiting past her little baby phase anyway, you'd may as well wait a bit longer.

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Posted 16 December 2013 - 09:15 PM

Ok this is going to show how little I know. None of our kids are baptised much to MIL disgust (whole other story). But when I went to my niece and nephews. My nephew was 5 month and niece was 4 years old. The white thing thy put over there head (see I have no idea LOL) wouldn't fit over the 4 year olds head. They have since had another child. Who will be 1 this month and there has been no talk of getting him done yet that I know of. I suspect her other two children where only done bc of her mother (my MIL). She is a teacher at a catholic school so I gather he will be done before he starts school. The nephew who was 5 months is now 5 years old.

So after all that I say wait till the people you want to baptise her.
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Posted 16 December 2013 - 09:43 PM

A couple of our nephews were over one when they were done. One was done when we were overseas and we didn't even know about it until his brother was done (apparently it didn't occur to anyone to tell us. We were confused when the second one was being done when we thought the first hadn't been, while they'd forgotten we weren't there)
I've seen the godparents-by-proxy thing done, but only because the SIL who was the godmother was running terribly late (not exactly her fault - new baby + daylight savings starting + stupid GPS)
I think babies used to be done as quickly as possible in the old days because of high infant mortality rates. It's not so critical these days where babies tend to *live*
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Posted 16 December 2013 - 10:03 PM


Both of our girls were done at 9mths, purely to fit the gown.

DD1 will be doing confirmation next year at school (Grade 4) and I will be opting to be baptised at the same time - at 37 years of age.

I say, wait until you can get the people you want, but don't hold off for ever. Apparently I was never baptised as a child because my Mother couldn't get my Grandparents out here wink.gif

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Posted 17 December 2013 - 01:35 AM

We just had DD Baptised last weekend (Catholic). She was 1 of 3 children being done and surprisingly the youngest. The other 2 were most definitely toddlers. My sister had her 2 children Baptised together. One was a baby and the other was 2 years old at the time.

If I were you I'd wait and have the Godparents there.

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Posted 17 December 2013 - 02:02 PM

If that's who you really want I would wait. All of mine have been baptised around 3 months (Sienna's is next week) because they had to fit into the baptism gown I wore.
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Posted 18 February 2015 - 10:37 PM

QUOTE(Windsor @ Dec 15 2013, 04:58 AM) View Post

Might be happening around her first birthday or later.

Is it unsual to do them that late? Cait was baptised at 5mths, we just haven't been able to organise for a baptism for Nat with family 2-3 and 5hrs away, not knowing when we were moving and our chosen godparents living in the NT.

Now we haven't been able to do it before they've gone to the UK for 12mths sad.gif DH said we could just pick someone else but I don't want to, I'd rather wait til they're back. We could just have his best mate and ask DHs younger sister (older one is godmother for Cait) as we will need to have one confirmed Catholic actually present but I'm pretty sure my sister would get the poohs if we only ever asked DHs family (which is why we were asking our friends as a couple too).
We WANT to do it soon but our friends won't be back until Dec 2014 so Nat will be 18mths by then. I'd feel weird having a first birthday party for her and still not having her baptised though...


I think its better to have one celebration (bday and baptism) at the same time rather than delaying the baptism on a later time.




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