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#1 anon_e_mouse74

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Posted 14 September 2013 - 01:18 AM

Hello everyone.

Just letting you know that I am very slowly coming to the decision now of leaving.

I have a rental place lined up down the south coast (about an hour north of my parents). The real estate agent will be phoning me in the morning for my final decision. She has already waited a day.

It's a very tough decision to make. I really hope I am doing the right thing.

Thanks for your support - if you are not aware of who I am or what I have been going through, read the last two posts.

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Posted 14 September 2013 - 12:12 PM

I have no idea who you are, but I remember your last two posts.

No one can tell you what you should do, but just going from your previous posts I can say that if I was in your position I would be leaving. What you have described is abusive behavior from your husband, and it's no wonder you are fearful all the time. I'm so sorry you are going through this still and things haven't improved sad.gif

If you do leave, you will be ok. It will be hard, but you will survive, and things will get easier once you get used to the changes. I think it's a great idea getting a rental closer to your parents, having that family support will make it easier, and it will really benefit your little ones too I'm sure.

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Posted 14 September 2013 - 12:39 PM

I’m not sure who you are either but I remember your other posts.

I left my husband 2 months ago and am living with my parents and our 4yo DD.
My plan is to stay there until Xmas then look for a rental close by in the new year.

It’s hard, really fecking hard and after lodging all my paperwork with Centrelink this week, the reality has hit me that my marriage is over. Up until now I think I have been in denial.

No one can make this decision for you but based on what you’ve experienced, I think leaving is the right thing to do. You don’t want to have your kids believe that this is the way they deserve to be treated because NONE of you do.
Being close by family is SO important, if I didn’t have their support I doubt I would get out of bed every day.

PM box is always open if you need to talk.
Thinking of you xx

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#4 anon_e_mouse74

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Posted 15 September 2013 - 01:31 AM

I have said yes today to the unit on the south coast. I haven't as yet paid the deposit though.

I was watching him this evening, while I was washing and wiping the dishes he was reading to the kids. He is really a great Dad, just not so good with me anymore. I am feeling like I am giving up without trying sad.gif I started crying and escaped into the bedroom for respite.

I will keep you all up to date.

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Posted 15 September 2013 - 11:35 AM

QUOTE(anon_e_mouse74 @ Sep 15 2013, 01:31 AM) View Post

I have said yes today to the unit on the south coast. I haven't as yet paid the deposit though.

I was watching him this evening, while I was washing and wiping the dishes he was reading to the kids. He is really a great Dad, just not so good with me anymore. I am feeling like I am giving up without trying sad.gif I started crying and escaped into the bedroom for respite.

I will keep you all up to date.


Well done on taking that step to say yes to the unit.

I am not a parent, but I think there is more to being a good dad, than being good "with" your kids. He may be great with your kids, but his attitude and behavior towards you is really bad for them. They are probably a little too young now, but seeing their mum treated so badly will be upsetting, and if it went on they would be negatively affected by it. A great dad treats the mother of his kids with respect.

Please don't feel like you are giving up without trying. You have been through a lot, and reading your last post, you tried to leave once before and he said that things would improve, but even with the threat of you leaving he hasn't made the effort to work on the issues. He hasn't tried, but you have given him time, and tried, so please don't be hard on yourself...You are making the right choice for you and your kids.




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