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#1 bluenomi

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Posted 12 July 2013 - 02:33 PM

So we found out that the twins look like a boy and a girl. They are 100% on the boy and mostly sure the other is a girl. I figure there will be more ultrasounds before they are arrive so we can double check!

Anyway we can now really sort out the whole naming thing. First names aren't a huge issue, especially since I've got DH coming around to using Adelaide even though he's from there and follows 2 of their football teams.

But middle names are another issue. Currently he wants to use Paisley and Argyle because they are good Scottish names. He better be half joking or I may need to strangle him rolleyes.gif tongue.gif
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Posted 12 July 2013 - 03:08 PM

I like those middle names laugh.gif

We didn’t put a whole lot of thought into DD's middle name - Sienna just popped into hubbys head after she was born because he liked it. I got my way with her first name so felt fair to let him have her middle name. Even now, it doesn’t feel right to me, but how often do we use middle names? tongue.gif

With DS, hubby was very specific as to what his first name would be and no amount of whinging, whining or begging on my part was going to change that. I got my way with his middle name and have to say now, his first name totally suits him.

I guess, I just don’t think middle names are all that important ...

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#3 Sariele

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Posted 12 July 2013 - 03:23 PM

DH and I have very differing tastes in names, so we'll probably end up having similar arguments if/when the time comes.

I don't really care much about having "nice" middle names though; I'd much rather them mean something and not be exactly to my taste than just choosing a random name I like for a MN.

Ages ago when we were idly discussing names one day, we sort-of agreed we could use Keith for a boys' MN... neither of us like it that much, but it's his Dad's first name and my deceased grandfather's middle name, so it'd be a nice tribute.
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#4 Mel B

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Posted 12 July 2013 - 03:33 PM

With 2 babies to name, I'd be giving in on the middle names and using that as a bargaining tool for your choice of first names tongue.gif

For mn we just wrote a list of family names - every name used on both sides for the past few generations. Then we picked. Rosie's mn is DH's grandmother's name. It's a beautiful name (Alice wub.gif ) and she was a very big part of their family when he was young.

Then the agreement was that DS's mn would be from my side of the family. I had chosen Robert for a boy, to honour my grandfather and my brother. Or Violet for a girl for my great grandmother. But on the day he was born I had a change of heart and gave him DH's first name as his mn. I blame the drugs laugh.gif
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Posted 12 July 2013 - 03:37 PM

QUOTE(Sariele @ Jul 12 2013, 03:23 PM) View Post

DH and I have very differing tastes in names, so we'll probably end up having similar arguments if/when the time comes.

I don't really care much about having "nice" middle names though; I'd much rather them mean something and not be exactly to my taste than just choosing a random name I like for a MN.

Ages ago when we were idly discussing names one day, we sort-of agreed we could use Keith for a boys' MN... neither of us like it that much, but it's his Dad's first name and my deceased grandfather's middle name, so it'd be a nice tribute.



I agree with Sariele. I don't care so much about middle names being something that I love. We both like the idea of using family names that are special to us instead of choosing something because we like it. Everyone is different though! If you don't have any family names you want to use, and will just go with something you like, I'd be inclined to get a short list of first names first, then try to think up middle names that "go" nicely with those!

And I'd be hoping he is joking about Paisley and Argyle too laugh.gif

Whenever we (hypothetically) talk baby names DH always chimes in with Barry. I'm pretty sure he is 80% joking...He's been told it's never going to happen more than once, so I think he just suggests it to rile me up now tongue.gif

I think both parents need to have a say, they don't both have to "love" the name, but one can't love it and one hate it. So in your example I'd be of the opinion that he can have a say - he can say he likes Paisley and Argyle, you can say you hate them, and they get taken off the table! laugh.gif

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Posted 12 July 2013 - 03:51 PM

No you don't tongue.gif


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Posted 12 July 2013 - 04:07 PM


Congratulations smile.gif
Whilst his suggestions aren't too bad IMO, i'd be on the hunt for other traditional names!

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Posted 12 July 2013 - 04:42 PM

There are so many gorgeous Scottish names - I'm sure he would be able to pick one from a pre-approved list wink.gif

A guy I work with recently said that after watching his wife go through labour with each of their three boys she could have called them whatever she wanted - even Horse! Hopefully your husband will come around.




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