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#1 nephthys

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 08:51 AM

My sweet little boy has turned into an out of control, demanding, whiny little brat in the last few months. He's horrible to his brother and last night bit him (DS has never been a biter)! I can't keep him occupied, fed or happy and despite always being a whiny child from birth, it's increased to intolerable levels. Gah! tongue.gif

Where's my lovely little boy gone and will he come back?
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Posted 01 October 2012 - 09:40 AM

OMFG! It's full-on isn't it?!
Ethan is a total ratbag most of the time and, even when he's in a good mood he's so physical and 'wired' I just don't know what to do with him. Afternoons are shocking because he gets so tired he cannot control himself. He destroys the house, hurts himself and his sister and is generally a whirling ball of destruction.

He will only sleep in the car these days - which brings it's own trials - getting and keeping him in the car seat, and screaming fury at being contained before he finally conks out. Sometimes we can stop up to six times to strap him back in on the 5min run to kindy!

Going out anywhere is a nightmare, car issues aside, he just runs off. It's a nightmare. He's even scaled the walls of a fenced play area and been found right at the other end of the car park! He is so fast you have to watch him like a hawk. It scares the crap out of me.

It is pretty much impossible to get any chores done.

I don't know if it's his age or the speach delay or both, which in itself is a huge source of worry. Sometimes I find it quite depressing. I'm hoping it's just a phase but it seems like a really, really long one!

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 10:07 AM

We haven't hit 3 just yet but I can certainly feel it ramping up! wacko.gif I'm already going bonkers with everything she does let alone what is going to come. It just has to be a phase please!
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#4 nephthys

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 10:12 AM

It's exhausting!

And you're right about the energy levels and the lack of control. DS can get so wired he bangs his head on things. I give him big cuddles which helps calm him down but if I'm making dinner or can't get to him, it's almost manic.

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When he calms down or is watching TV (which I resort to more often than I like) he's not so bad.

He just threw a paint brush at his Grandad. What's the go?
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Posted 01 October 2012 - 10:14 AM

Angus has been very trying at home for a few months, but his room leader at daycare said to me last week that he has always been a delight (of course!) but she thinks he skipped the terrible twos and has a case of the trying threes (starting on his third birthday last Wednesday).

He doesn't sleep during the day at home - stopped trying months ago as he just fought it so much. Now he sleeps on childcare days, but that means he is awake till 9.30pm that night and still awake before 6am the next morning.

In the last few weeks he has:
- stamped all over the walls, kitchen cupboards and chairs
- drawn on walls
- climbed up and got fooddye and spilled it on the couch
- snuck out of bed at 5.30am, got the paint he had been given the night before by his Nan (silly mummy for not hiding it) and painted the (fabric) couch with multiple colours
- trashed his room
- put multiple toilet rolls (and other things) in the toilet
- spread toothpaste all over the bathroom

He has so much energy - he doesn't sit or walk, he runs and jumps and climbs all day long. He wakes before 6am no matter what time he goes to sleep and I worked out he is getting 9-10 hours sleep/day on a good day and 7-8 hours on a bad day and it's not enough. He is so tired, yet still really wired in the afternoons and he whines from 4pm until bedtime.

Angus' language is very good ("Mummy, cleaning these cupboards is really frustrating!" when I made him clean the stamps off the kitchen cupboards!), yet by the afternoon he regresses to whining and grunting and I'm lucky to get single words out of him let alone sentences.

He throws things at Will, annoys him, hits him and pushes him until Will snaps and hits him back.

Reading that he sounds like a nightmare - but he can be the most sweet natured, affectionate, funny boy. He plays well at childcare with the others (holds his own, yet doesn't initiate any fighting etc) and likes to join in with Will doing colouring and playing lego.

I'm hoping that as the weather warms up his behaviour will improve. He has too much energy to be kept inside all day - he is much better if he can be outside using up that energy. To that end we have lots of outdoor toys, we go to the park, we have started going to gymnastics etc.

We haven't really found a discipline strategy that works. Time out doesn't bother him - he just sits there making silly noises. Taking away toys affects him for a few minutes then he moves on. DH has resorted to putting him outside on the deck for time out and ignoring him. That seems to work - unless he decides that's a good chance to get all the clothes off the clothes horse and throw them to the dog...




#6 nephthys

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 10:14 AM

Yep Camilla! I always thought the twos were supposed to be terrible but this is a 100 times worse.
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Posted 01 October 2012 - 10:54 AM

On the up side though, I have just read this full thread to DH who is finally starting to appreciate:

1. It's the age and not that our beautiful son is forever to be a screaming gobshite.
2. Therefore I am a superhero for staying home all day everyday with it - and so deserve a footrub tonight.
3. My i-do addiction is actually quite useful and doesn't mean I'm a sad, crazy lady with no friends IRL!

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 01:47 PM

Yay to all the above. Lol
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Posted 01 October 2012 - 03:42 PM

So glad it's not just in this house!!

I never had an issue at all during the "Terrible Two's" - when all my friends were complaining I had nothing much to complain about. He rarely threw tantrums, he was sweet and nice, if someone took a toy off him he just picked another toy and played with it.

Now - hoooley doooley! He has major attitude, he whines, he whinges, if someone so much as LOOKS at a toy he might be interested he throws a major wobbly, he hits and fights with other kids now, if we ask him to do something it's generally "No!". He's driving me crazy!! And it was almost literally overnight, started a couple of days after he turned 3!!

Hoping it's not "Fearsome Fours" too - can't wait till he outgrows this crap huh.gif
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Posted 01 October 2012 - 04:03 PM

Threenager is roooooough!!! So much attitude and defiance but they can't quite be reasoned with. My least favourite age so far. Absolutely dreading doing it x 2. Is there a boarding school for threenagers? tongue.gif

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 04:23 PM

Damn you lot. tongue.gif

Now I am going to worry myself silly for the next 6 months and then have to go through the trying 3's

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 05:55 PM

Threenagers are horrid sad.gif We've just hit four, but the attitude, bossiness and sulking when he doesn't get what he wants are still there. He chucks massive wobblies on occasion, and has become quite sneaky. I suppose there is a new challenge with each age!

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 06:14 PM

QUOTE(SEA @ Oct 1 2012, 05:55 PM) View Post

Threenagers are horrid sad.gif We've just hit four, but the attitude, bossiness and sulking when he doesn't get what he wants are still there. He chucks massive wobblies on occasion, and has become quite sneaky. I suppose there is a new challenge with each age!


We found that 5 brought lying and an increase in the sneaky. But it's far easier to deal with because he's old enough to discuss it.

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Posted 01 October 2012 - 06:15 PM

LOL I feel there needs to be a support group for this age.

Do you find they lie? Mr 3 is starting to lie about things and I don't really know how to convince him it's not right. I just praise him for telling the truth so far but it's not really working.
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Posted 01 October 2012 - 06:25 PM

I'm not sure if this is helpful Nepth but apparently the ability to lie before four is a sign of being really quite clever. The theory is that at that age they can't see past themselves so have no concept of an alternative reality where lies become possible.





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