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#1 CaseyT

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Posted 13 September 2012 - 09:30 AM

Just wondering if any one could enlighten me on the process and how you found it.
What I need to know etc...
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Posted 13 September 2012 - 11:24 AM

QUOTE(CaseyT @ Sep 13 2012, 09:30 AM) View Post

Just wondering if any one could enlighten me on the process and how you found it.
What I need to know etc...

I can't really help, I'm sorry, because I've never bothered looking too far into it; all I ever see are people talking about how difficult it is and how long it takes... Some people wait up to 10 years, only to be told that they are now too old to adopt, or need to reapply. Apparently it is also quite expensive. I have heard that it is much easier in places like the US, for instance, but for some reason in Australia adoption is one of the hardest bureaucratic processes you can go through.

If you are aware of all this, I think you are very brave considering taking it on. I would love to adopt if IVF wasn't going to work for us (no idea if DH would feel the same), but at 31 now, by the time we have exhausted everything that ART can possibly offer us, I'm guessing I will be too old to apply for adoption.

Good luck with your research, I hope someone else here can help. smile.gif
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Posted 13 September 2012 - 01:42 PM

We very briefly looked into it and like Sariele mentioned were shocked by the complexity and wait times involved. In the end we decided that if we were to adopt then expatriate adoption would be the best route for us. This involves adopting while you are living overseas as an expat and then applying for a visa for the child when you return to Australia. It's really complicated and there are legal pitfalls to it but for us it seemed like the best approach since we were in the fortunate position of being able to get transfers to suitable countries through work. In the end we didn't need to go down that path after successful IVF however even an initial look into the process was eyeopening to say the least.

In terms of where to start I would go through your local Department of Community Services (or equivalent in your state). There are a few shonky private operators out there who claim to provide information etc but I've seen really bad reviews. I think most states have information evenings that you can go to get a better idea of what's involved.

I know there was a member here who went quite far down the adoption path but in the end I believe she and her husband withdrew from the process. Unfortunately, I can't for the life of me remember her i-do name (if it comes back to me I will repost).

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Posted 13 September 2012 - 02:06 PM

Was it China Doll or China Baby?

One of my relatives works for docs in the adoption section and most adoptions in oz don't end up happening for one reason or another

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Posted 13 September 2012 - 02:48 PM

QUOTE(beachgurl @ Sep 13 2012, 02:06 PM) View Post

Was it China Doll or China Baby?

One of my relatives works for docs in the adoption section and most adoptions in oz don't end up happening for one reason or another

That makes me really sad. Especially when you consider all the reluctant mothers out there with "accidental babies" who would rather they were being raised by someone who would be a besotted and devoted parent, such as myself. Yet they are more often than not pressured by the powers-that-be to keep their baby, despite how they may feel about it. sad.gif
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Posted 13 September 2012 - 02:52 PM

It was little_o (previously chinababe). If you look in the Jigsaws section and in her post history you should find some of her accounts of her experience. Let me know if you need help finding it; I'm on my phone and having trouble linking. Good luck with finding the info you need.

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Posted 13 September 2012 - 03:06 PM

Thank you for all the replies, it is quite sad isn't it, when at the other end of the scale is someone like me not being able to have their own biological child.

I am not disheartened and accept it is already going to be a long and expensive process, but my husband and I have opened discussion on it, so weighing up our options at the moment. He has a son of his own already, but I would like to have a child as well.

So fingers crossed, I will keep researching and praying and thinking wishfully.
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Posted 13 September 2012 - 09:24 PM

I know a little from a worker's perspective rather than an applicants' perspective if that helps?

Your state's Child Protection Body is typically the best first port of call (they typically do child protection AND Adoptions (in NSW this is Family and Community Services (formerly DoCS), Vic = Dept of Human Services, Qld = Dept of Child Safety (I think) ).

You will also need to consider if you want to adopt "locally" (i.e. an child born in Australia) or from overseas (inter-country adoption) or go overseas to adopt (this is the option that I understand to be most expensive and most risky).

Depending on which state you live in will determine applicant criteria etc.

It can take a long time just to get through the assessment and training process, then there is also court process. Anoth reason that it takes so long to adopt is that there aren't a lot of local children who need adoption (as they generally enter the Out of Home Care System) and I'm pretty sure there are quotas with countries over seas. There are also restrictions on the countries that Children can be adopted from. My cousin adopted and I can't quite remember what she said but I think it might be that they have to be a signatory to the convention that deals with inter country adoption - Australia is a signatory, and I think the other country must be also.

From memory there are typically 10-15 local adoptions a year in NSW and 70ish inter country adoptions - so the number are quite low.

With respect to fees ... here is the link to fees etc in NSW


The other way to adopt is through fostering. I work for a Non Government agency, and in NSW (but not all states) where a child is removed from their parents and there is no realistic chance that they can return home, they are in care until 18years of age - this means that we need foster carers to care from children until 18 (and beyond). A number of our children are currently going through the adoption process (approx 6 of our children - of a total of 60 in our program). The assessment and training of foster carers takes a few months, but the wait for a child to join your family is generally shorter. I understand in some states (like Victoria children only receive a protection order for 2 years at a time).

If you're in NSW feel free to PM me - I can give you contact details for adoption services, or services that do both adoption and fostering so can talk you through the benefits of each/ the criteria of each/assessment process etc. Or I can give you my number - my role is to train and recruit foster carers so I'm happy to chat with you about my limited knowledge of adoption and what I know about fostering.


The most common reason that people come to my service after exploring adoption is age (if either partner is 40 you are not eligible, and because the wait is so long, we're even getting couples where one is 37/38 coming to us as by the time they'll be considered for a child they'll be too old)- I'm not sure how old you and your partner are so I'm not sure if this will be a factor for you.

Here is the link to Adoption information in NSW (FACS aren't the only agency that you can adopt through there are a couple of NGOs as well).

Here is the link to the Federal Government Attorney General's Department who govern Intercountry Adoptions

Hope that helps - and please feel free to PM if you have any other questions.

(Please don't discount Fostering either - children who need adoption and children who need a long term / permanent foster families are very similar. They have both experienced trauma, they both need families who can help them grow and develop and reach their potential, and they all need extra support when they have their identity crisis while they try to figure out where they belong in the world).






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