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#1 claire_p

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Posted 15 April 2012 - 04:45 PM

So Liam has been toilet trained for just over a month. All going well. Wee's & Poo's on the toilet, still wearing a nappy at night which is sometimes dry sometimes not.

My question is...are boys meant to stand to do their wees from the start or is this something they will learn to do over time?? My friend who has a little boy 2 months older than Liam was shocked to hear that he sits to do his wee's. Apparently her son has always stood up. I always thought you start the whole process with them sitting down and as they get older change to standing?

Also, she just lets him roam the yard and do wees on the grass. I am not a fan of this at all. We have 3 toilets in the house so why would I let him go outside to do wee's!! Obviously I think p'ing in the bushes on the side of the freeway is okay. I think the reason I hate this so much is because I was at a 3rd bday once and the birthday boy just dropped his pants and started doing a wee on the grass right in front of the entrance to the jumping castle. So all the kids then walked over his wee with bare feet. Eeew. I dont want him to think he can just drop them anywhere anytime. I think it should be kept private.

So what is the right thing to do with boys???
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#2 Puggie

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Posted 15 April 2012 - 04:50 PM

Not sure what is 'right' as there are so many different ideas about it smile.gif

Oscar was taught sitting, but self-initiated standing up.

But I would not let Oscar wee on the side of the freeway. I wouldn't do it myself (and I would not let Adelaide) so I don't think it's OK Oscar does. While he is TT, I always carry a spare nappy in the car in case he needs it. Just my opinion on the issue!

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Posted 15 April 2012 - 05:04 PM

QUOTE(Puggie @ Apr 15 2012, 04:50 PM) View Post

But I would not let Oscar wee on the side of the freeway. I wouldn't do it myself (and I would not let Adelaide) so I don't think it's OK Oscar does. While he is TT, I always carry a spare nappy in the car in case he needs it. Just my opinion on the issue!


Liam has never done so yet, but I thought if there was no other option and he was too old to pee in a nappy I would let him do it. I have done the nappy thing with Keira once when she was 5. lol. It was one of Liam's nappies!! I actually carry a potty in the boot and on a recent trip to QLD they both went on the potty next to my car at 4.30am in the carpark of a service station while we waited for it to open as we had run out of petrol!!
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Posted 15 April 2012 - 05:20 PM

My son started weeing sitting down, he first started with using a potty so I think it is only natural that they start sitting down - plus when they first start training they sometimes do poo and wee at the same time which clearly works better sitting down laugh.gif My son started preschool at 3 (he toilet trained at 2) and they have lower child sized toilets there so much easier to wee standing up - also the older boys did that so they all pretty much were doing that by the end of the first term. So I wouldn't rush him, he'll get there smile.gif

As for the weeing everywhere and anywhere outside - a big no no as far as I am concerned. My son has never done a wee outside, we have never told him it was an option so it just isn't something he would do. I too have a friend who seems to have told her son it is fine and dandy to just whip it out anywhere as long as you are outside - I have seen him just drop his pants and wee in a kids playground, in another friend's backyard while at a birthday party and in a pot plant in the foyer of the library 1 m from the toilets ohmy.gif mad.gif I don't know if it is just lazy parenting or what on her part but but her son is almost 5 is he going to be doing this in the middle of the school playground next year wacko.gif

I think the potty in the boot of the car is a much better option, that is also what we do smile.gif

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Posted 15 April 2012 - 05:29 PM

QUOTE(tibs @ Apr 15 2012, 05:20 PM) View Post

My son started weeing sitting down, he first started with using a potty so I think it is only natural that they start sitting down - plus when they first start training they sometimes do poo and wee at the same time which clearly works better sitting down laugh.gif My son started preschool at 3 (he toilet trained at 2) and they have lower child sized toilets there so much easier to wee standing up - also the older boys did that so they all pretty much were doing that by the end of the first term. So I wouldn't rush him, he'll get there smile.gif

Good point about the wee/poo at the same time. lol.

He is actually starting pre-school one day a week next term and they have 4 little toilets together so maybe as you have said he will pick it up. He goes to daycare 2 days a week and they have one little toilet so I am not sure if he ever sees other kids doing wee's standing up, he is in the 2-3.5yr room so more than likely they all sit down still too.

Thanks for your replies. Good to know your boys all started out sitting.
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Posted 15 April 2012 - 06:46 PM

I have just started TT Charlie and have started him sitting down. I figure it is best to get him used to using the toilet/potty first before trying to add holding his penis to try and aim in the toilet etc into the mix. Everyone I know that has boys has down it this way and eventually transitioned to standing up.

I actually don't have a problem with either of my kids weeing outside if the need arises. It is not something I encourage but we have had occasions where there truly is not a toilet in sight and I do not constantly carry a potty with me because it is just not practical - esp as they get older and have really got the hang of being toilet trained. And I am definitely not giving them back a nappy once they are well and truly trained.
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Posted 15 April 2012 - 08:16 PM

QUOTE(scasey77 @ Apr 15 2012, 06:46 PM) View Post

I actually don't have a problem with either of my kids weeing outside if the need arises. It is not something I encourage but we have had occasions where there truly is not a toilet in sight and I do not constantly carry a potty with me because it is just not practical - esp as they get older and have really got the hang of being toilet trained. And I am definitely not giving them back a nappy once they are well and truly trained.


This is us. We have had a few times when we have had to pull over on the highway. We always open up both doors on the lefthand side of the car to shield the boys from view of passing cars.

We started out with sitting down wees and are currently progressing to standing up wees. The older boys at daycare are taking care of that one for me wink.gif . I am happy to let them take their time as it's less mess to clean. And let's be honest, big boys are often not great at aim either (yes, that means you, DH) but atleast they can clean up after themselves.

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Posted 16 April 2012 - 06:05 PM

Harry trained himself and did it standing up over the potty (his aim was impressive) and progressed to the toilet. He sees his Dad standing so was natural for him to copy. The only time he sits down is at daycare. Jamie is *just* starting and seems to want to sit. I just let him do what he wants.

I let both my boys wee outside .... I don't have an issue with it. They go off to a corner of the garden or by a tree and widdle away. Aren't boys lucky!!!! Most of my MG was HORRIFIED. Whatever. We are outdoorsy people and I'm not rushing round finding a loo for my kids if we are off outside somewhere when there are prefectly good trees or bushes that can be watered. Each to their own of course. Urine is also very good for lemon trees and I KNOW our adult neighbour 'waters' his regularly as his wife told me!!!!
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Posted 16 April 2012 - 07:58 PM

DS1 trained standing up into the toilet or outside on the grass.
I have no issue with him weeing outside or on the side of the road.

DS2 is showing interest in TT standing up

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Posted 16 April 2012 - 08:02 PM

My older 2 both learnt sitting down then progressed to standing up. Lew progressed quicker because he was copying Jack.

We're also in the wee outside if the need arises camp, generally behind a tree or bush, gives them something to aim for as well as privacy. When we did our big road trip in Feb if they needed to go while on the road we tried to get them to hold until we got to a toilet or to an area with some foliage near the road.

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Posted 16 April 2012 - 10:51 PM

Louis has been using the toilet for wees for a while now and I've just taught him to sit. It was easy enough as he watches his big sister do the same thing.

I assumed he would stand once he was tall enough.
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Posted 17 April 2012 - 11:25 AM

Eddie sat down for quite a while and then one day decided to stand up "like Daddy".

In a genuine emergency I don't mind if he has to wee outside but I will always look for a toilet as the first option. Our daughter can always hold on for a toilet so I expect him to as well.

Like a lot of things in life, just because you can wee on a tree doesn't mean you should.


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Posted 17 April 2012 - 01:08 PM

Ben wees on the toilet sitting down, he is not tall enough to stand up so sitting down is the way to go for us. I am sure he will want to stand at some point.

Not a fan of weeing outdoors as a matter of habit, fine with it in an emergency (though Ben is still in nappies when we are out and about so not something we encounter at present) situation with no toilet around. If you let your small child wee outside at what point do you tell them they can no longer do it?? I just think we should all wee in the toilet if there is one available.
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Posted 17 April 2012 - 09:48 PM

Hubby taught our son to wee standing as a way of getting him to go when he didn;t want to use to toilet or potty but needed to go. I think it is great, as when we go out he doesn't like sitting on a normal size toilet so it is easier for him to stand and wee.

As for weeing outside. Well truth be told my husband does it. He heard it was great for the lemon tree so occaisionially does it. Not sure if it is crap or not but our tree is covered in lemons. But I am only in emergency with this one.

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Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:01 AM

Master B started sitting down, too, until he saw his cousin (whom he idolises) standing up and from that moment he's stood up. So much easier!

Regarding weeing outside, absolute emergencies only. I've let Master B do it once outside in the early days of toilet training when I knew there was no way we'd get to a toilet in time. It's not something I'll encourage.
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