Posted 09 April 2012 - 07:25 AM
My girl will be 3 on Sunday and daycare told me it's time to get serious about toilet training - we've made the toilet available to her for a good month or so, she has an insert for the big toilet with a step that she can and does use herself but has til now still been in pullups.
Day one saw lots of wee accidents, day 2 and 3 better.
I was mindful that she hadn't pooed since last wednesday so was getting worried. She went in her pants yesterday afternoon. She has always hid under the table to poo, very private girl. Always once or twice a day.
What can I do to entice her to poo on the toilet? It's not so much the action, more the regularity. I am worried she is going to hold it in for days. Do I offer a reward? A chart?
Any tips please?
Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:15 AM
I used a star chart with 1 star for a wee and 2 for a poo, and a prize every xx stars. But with both of them I ended up offering a "poo present" which was something significant (probably $20 value) for their first poo in the loo.
With Eddie this worked within the first month. Rosie found it much more stressful and in the end I took the pressure off and put a packet of pullups in her bedroom. When she needed a poo she would go and put one on and then tell me when she was done. She was still at home with me at the time which made it easier and she was very predictable - going once a day in the evening.
This went on until she was 3.5 and about to start preschool. She was keen to overcome it but still very nervous. We went to the toy shop and she chose a present which went into the cupboard. I took the pullups away and we waited. 4 days later, as I was contemplating giving her a pullup, we had success!
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Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:27 AM
While I was keen to go from nappies to the toilet, would you consider a potty? If you check Target or the like there are the Disney Princesses ones, Dora, etc, if she picked one out and you made it her extra special little toilet it may help the process? Ethan loves the little toilet at daycare and the ones at the shops.
Toilet training can turn into such a stressful problem when it feels like your kid is the only one amongst friends and family not trained, however from day 1 I had no expectations, I stopped comparing him to what everyone elses kids were doing, and I gave him massive praise when he did what he should in the toilet. Others may not agree but 3yo is a great age for little incentives/bribes, you won't have to keep using them at 4yo.
Amongst family and friends when kids were toileting it seems almost the norm that wees come easily, however getting them in the toilet, let alone doing #2 was a lot harder. My little cousin recently was the same as Mel's daughter, she was day trained from 2 years, yet at 3 she was still asking for a nappy to poo into (and able to communicate it). At nearly 3.5yo she finally started going to the toilet.
Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:30 AM
After a few months of struggling we just ended up putting a nappy or pull up on for poo, it was always after her shower each night so not too much of a hassle. Then she'd run off to her 'corner' and do one and be happy
Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:53 AM
I am over the top excited when she wees and so is everyone around us, it's quite a sight!
I am thinking a chart and an incentive present might help but knowing that it can take a hell of a long time I think I'll just ahve to learn to relax a little.
I will also tell her it's ok to ask for a pull up if she wants to poo, that might help her to not hold on.
Posted 09 April 2012 - 12:25 PM
We tried everything suggested as well. Chart, poo present etc. But our girl is pretty stubborn, she rejected the present and lost interest in the chart. She even taught herself how to put on her own nappy (we dont use pull ups) .
About 6 or so months ago, I really tried to push her into using the toilet, but she got so worked up, that I let it go. I didnt want her holding on.
Good luck! It'll happen eventually
Posted 09 April 2012 - 02:35 PM
Firstly it is really common for kids to resist pooing in the toilet or potty.
I was going to come in and say the same thing.
It seems like you are doing pretty much what we did with DD (tho I was pretty lucky with her, she really trained herself) ie: making a big deal out of it etc, but we also didnt push her. DD is stubborn and will only seem to do things in her own time.
I know it sounds gross but something I think helped was letting her look in the toilet once she had finished, and flush herself. She still yells "bye bye wee, bye bye poo" every time she goes
Does she come into the bathroom with you when you go? Maybe her seeing that you do them on the toilet will let her know its ok?
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:07 PM
After three days we had just about no accidents, so it was one prize for every wee. The poo was not forth coming. After a couple of days I noticed the "poo face" telling me he was just about to poo so we put him on the potty.
We have had better success with poo on the toilet, with him closing the door and us leaving him to it. He (and a lot of other kids from conversations with mothers I have had) like privacy to do a poo. So if we put him on the toilet and leave him be, he will let us know when he has done one. I know he will be doing one as he says "leave me alone" where as for a wee he isn;t concerned with me being around.
He will also only poo at daycare when he is the only one in the bathroom.
We still have to take him to te toilet, he won;t ask to go, but he doesn't just wee, he'll only have a accident if we are late taking him.
Posted 13 April 2012 - 07:50 PM
Cate TT for wees when she was just shy of two. For the next YEAR we tried and tried and tried to get her to TT for poo but it did not happen. We had star charts, big fusses made, poo presents, the lot...nothing worked. From time to time (maybe once every 8 weeks) she would poo on the toilet or potty (so it wasn't a fear issue...she COULD do it) but it would happen once and then not again. She would ask us for a nappy when she needed to go. After a while we got tough and said no nappies...but she would just hold on until her night nappy, cheeky bugger.
Anyways, the reason I say tread lightly is because Cate ended up horribly constipated because we pushed the poo issue too hard (pardon the pun ). She held on for days and then got herself into real trouble God, it was awful...and it kept re-occuring over months. She ended up on medication for it. In the end we decided to let it go and just go with the nappy when she asked.
Sure enough, about two weeks before she turned three, SHE decided it was time to start pooing on the toilet. Has not looked back. She just needed the time and maturity to come at the whole issue herself...I wish I had have allowed her that, instead of trying to push her into doing something she wasn't ready for
Posted 13 April 2012 - 08:09 PM
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