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#1 Catran

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Posted 30 December 2011 - 10:49 AM

I can't think of what else to do. Tom is 2 next Friday and would have 10 decipherable words if he's lucky. He babbles a lot, and does it with intent, just noone understands him. We have an appointment with a paed to see if there's any underlying issues or just a speech problem, but that's not until Feb 1.

In the meantime, we have to put up with the screaming and squealing. I know to an extent, that it's normal. But all the time? He squeals when he runs around, he squeals when he's frustrated, he squeals for attention, he squeals when he's having fun. But he just doesn't do it once or twice, it goes for ages. I hope that it abates when he starts speaking, but I'm not sure I can wait that long. He's embarrassing to take out in public. We try telling him no, shooshing him, telling him to use words and suggesting things to him (bottle? water? food? etc).

So the long and the short of it is, when he screams and squeals seemingly just because he can, how do you get him to stop?!
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Posted 30 December 2011 - 12:52 PM

I can totally relate. Liam is 3 in March and although he has started talking heaps in the last few months he still squeals. He is loud. We just got off a cruise yesterday and on the first morning we received a call about a complaint from a neighbouring cabin ph34r.gif I did everything I could to shut him up after that and we didnt get anymore complaints thank god!! These days he mainly squeals out of frustration and is just loud when he talks all other times. I am hoping the squealing will soon pass.
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Posted 07 March 2012 - 08:39 PM

Another shrieker and squealer over here, she does it most when she is frustrated or wants attention - she is soooooooooooo loud i swear i'm going to go deaf

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#4 squeaza

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Posted 07 March 2012 - 11:13 PM

We've got one too biggrin.gif

We've got no words yet, just a series of 'I want' noises that I'm not so good at understanding (some are clearer, like going over and pulling out the high chair biggrin.gif).

I'm wondering about starting a bit of signing with him - I know it's latish to start, but just some things like hug or water or milk.

I'm also wondering what people do with melodramatic toddlers in public? wacko.gif we went to visit my mum in hospital after an op the other day, and Eddie was on the tired side and got a fright when someone spoke from the other side of a curtain and SCREAMED (and he's pretty loud). Short of just whipping them up and taking them out (which is what I did, didn't want to disturb a whole ward of post-op patients wacko.gif), is there anything else you can do?
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Posted 08 March 2012 - 06:28 PM

Yep, we have one too! Our Liam is 17 months old and can scream/ squeal with the best of them laugh.gif wacko.gif I think it is mostly when he gets excited, but also bored and sometimes, well just because he can tongue.gif A couple of times he has screamed so loudly that he made himself cough or splutter with it... oh dear!

Favourite place to do this seems to be the car- ? bored or when seeing familiar people when getting out of the car- ? excitement. It is especially hard in the car as it is really loud and you are in such a confined space, also hard to concentrate on driving! He also screamed really loudly and frequently whislt we were queing in Medicare, which apart from the screaming was very quiet.... it made everyone there turn and stare at us wacko.gif

At the moment my approach is to say "No screaming" and sometimes "You need to use words" when he does this and to let him know that it is not acceptable, but there have also been times that I question this and wonder if I am better off ignoring it, am I drawing un-necessary attention to it by telling him to stop? At least telling him to stop makes me feel like I am doing somthing proactive and not just letting it slide, particularly if we are out and about. I am also hoping it is a phase and that he will grow out of it, especially as he learns more words? I do think he is doing it a bit less now than he was say a month ago, so thats a good sign right? Please say yes! tongue.gif
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Posted 08 March 2012 - 08:01 PM

QUOTE(squeaza @ Mar 7 2012, 11:13 PM) View Post



I'm wondering about starting a bit of signing with him - I know it's latish to start, but just some things like hug or water or milk.




Just a quick aside - I read a book on sign and they suggested you do signs that HE would like to use first, then the others come along from that. Eg, car, bear etc.
We did a bit of sign, but L never caught on. Now he's chatty so I stopped bothering. My SIL had great success with sign though.

I don't have a squealer (yet) so no other tips/advice. Good luck!

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Posted 08 March 2012 - 09:53 PM

QUOTE(squeaza @ Mar 8 2012, 12:13 AM) View Post

I'm wondering about starting a bit of signing with him - I know it's latish to start, but just some things like hug or water or milk.


We started signing when our little one was about 17 months old and within the first week LO was using the milk sign, I think we introduced milk, eat, drink, sleep first and then once those were mastered we introduced all the others at the same time when we would say the word. We found that our little one's language developed really well and quickly once we started signing. I highly recommend it. We found it so easy, our LO still uses signs now, when we are somewhere and need to be quiet or is on the other side of the room so there is no need for yelling across the room etc. We bought the introductory set from baby hands but I never read the book or watched the dvd, we just copy the pictures in the flash card book, so i would recommend just buying that which I think is about $20.
Sorry to hijack but I am quite passionate about baby signing. Feel free to ask any questions you might have.

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Posted 08 March 2012 - 10:44 PM

Another big fan of signing here too. My DD is 17 months and has very little language but signs well and it makes life so much easier as 90% of the time we know what she wants. I think signing is a great place to start and at this age they pick it up really fast which is great however.... that has not stopped my LO from squealing.

TBH I know that some may think it sounds like I am just not addressing the issue but I really think that it is completely normal for toddlers in this age group to squeal and scream. Even when they are happy they are loud and that’s just toddlers. With my DD she doesn’t yet understand the concept of being quiet and I personally don’t think that she actually knows how to lower her voice on her own. What does work really well for us (if she is not out of control crazy excited in which case nothing works) is to sing the wiggles song that goes “bear is now asleep, shh shh shh” really quietly and put our finger up to our mouths. She loves the wiggles, loves this song and she associates that part of it with being quiet. Now, if I just say “Shh” to her without the rest she doesn’t make the connection.

Outside of that little (trick that only works 50% of the time) I just either remove her if it is not an appropriate place for so much noise or I just accept that toddlers are noisy or apologise to others for the noise. It can be embarrassing and people get annoyed and give looks but, meh...

If the screaming and squealing is a deliberate tantrum (i.e. I want that toy and I can't have it) then I think that is a little different and probably does need to be addressed differently but if it is just general I’m excited, I’m upset, I just like the way this sounds noise then I think he will eventually grow out of it or learn the concept of an inside voice. Unfortunately when little ones don't have a lot of language their sounds/noise are their only way of communicating - they also sound super fun to them dry.gif

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Posted 08 March 2012 - 11:26 PM

Thank you all for the information on signing! I might get the flashcards to start, and there is a class run very close to us that I might look into.

He's doing very well with actions for songs so far, just no words used on a daily basis (he will say 'star' when he sees a star in a book, but not say mum or dad or milk or anything).

I'm with Myst on them just enjoying making noise though biggrin.gif We just make sure if Eddie gets particularly boisterous (sometimes he just starts shouting in his gobbleygook when he's particularly excited about something) and we just answer him exaggeratedly softly, not quite a whisper, and he finds it very funny and copies us.
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