Posted 07 September 2011 - 09:39 AM
I just can't get over this feeling that something awful will happen to our baby. I know there's nothing I can do except try and relax, eat healthy, exercise blah blah blah.
I'm just struggling and don't know what to do I'm tossing and turning at night and not sleeping well. I feel like I'm not parenting my 14 month old the best I could because I'm exhausted, stressed, scared, anxious.
Thinking another scan in 3 weeks time might ease my mind a little, but I know I'll be stressed in the mean time. I did thinking about getting some Beta HCG bloods 3 days apart but I think this will just make me even more nervous.
Anyway, babbling about nothing. Just wanted to get my feelings out.
Posted 07 September 2011 - 09:48 AM
Let's try and catch up for that coffee soon!
p.s. Congrats on your pregnancy, I picked your anon but didn't realise you'd revealed! Excellent news.
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Posted 07 September 2011 - 11:10 AM
This bub measured week behind at the first scan, which had me a bit worried, but they are so tiny at that stage, that even one mm can make a week difference. I can be little curled up or measured at a bit of an angle and that would put it days behind.
Posted 07 September 2011 - 12:15 PM
I wish there was something miraculous that worked- but really, there wasn't. I still bought one small thing after each milestone/scan, and that helped a little, as did having a 3D/4D scan. Apart from that, the only other thing that helped was thinking that if something was to go wrong, these would be the only memories I'd have with her, and knowing that I'd want to be able to remember some positive moments.
ETA: I've been measuring behind all along, I've only just caught up now. And I know the dates exactly.
Posted 07 September 2011 - 12:27 PM
Pregnancy is a roller coaster. One day you feel positive and the next you feel down. You seem to know that there's nothing that you can do to influence this pregnancy, especially this early.
Agree with this completely. And most of the time I think its due to hormones raging. I know with this pregnancy at the beginning I could go from being happy to snappy and back to happy all in the space of five minutes. Thankfully that settled down and I pretty miuch didnt experience it in the second trimester, but it does rear itself every now and then now that im in the third trimester.
I have no advice on how to calm the anxiety, but in regards to the baby measuring small, my son did pretty much the whole way through my pregnancy. He was always a minimum of 1 week behind but usually two. This wasnt a problem until right at the end when he measured 4 weeks I think it was? when I was 37 weeks. Then I had to have scans to check on him, which didnt help as they only had my 20 week scan to compare it too. So maybe if you get to this stage after 20 weeks request to have some scans done to ensure the bubs is tracking along nicely. And don't let them change your due date, go by the first scan. With DS I had my dates changed three times, and at the end the obs was not impressed that happened and changed it once again back to the original date (which meant he wasnt as far behind).
As of my last appointment this bub has started measuring 1 week behind after measuring on time. So it will be interesting to see how that pans out.
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Posted 07 September 2011 - 12:37 PM
The fact that the first scan went well is a great positive so just keep thinking of that and remember that as long as you're doing all you can, then that's all you CAN do.
Posted 07 September 2011 - 02:07 PM
I've already mentioned this in the other thread but I've been dated back between 8 and 16 days with all of my pregnancies even though it's not possible, i know that probably isn't very reassuring coming from me but I did get to keep 1 of my babies.
I know I haven't been much help but just know you are not alone, we're here if you ever need to talk/vent and we're happy to share our experiences if it might help you.
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Posted 07 September 2011 - 06:26 PM
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