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#1 Ktinlove

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Posted 23 August 2011 - 12:59 PM

Hi I will be getting married in a Greek Orthodox church (FH is Greek, Im Aussie) and am curious to hear from anyone who has had or been to one.
I have researched the traditions and know about the stefana (sp?) and Koumbario (sp?)
Specifically I would like to know:

How long was the ceremony?

Do I need to say anything in the ceremony or just wear my crown and look pretty ( and try not to faint)?

Did you have a OOS book for the non greek speaking guests? what did you put in it?

Are there any traditions that i should know of for the reception?

Thanks in advance

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Posted 23 August 2011 - 03:33 PM

I know there's a few Greek Orthodox girls around so hopefully one of them will see this and reply.

Also, try doing a search as there are a few topics around that may help (I can give you some links if you have trouble).

Good luck!

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#3 Kookies

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Posted 23 August 2011 - 04:54 PM

I was married in a Greek Orthodox ceremony... like you my husband is of Greek background but I am not.

Just about to start bath and dinner time but I will come back with lots of answers when my little people are in bed.

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Posted 24 August 2011 - 05:10 PM

QUOTE(Ktinlove @ Aug 23 2011, 02:59 PM) View Post

How long was the ceremony?


Ours was about an hour and a quarter. We had a fair bit in English as well as Greek so perhaps this made it longer than most but I would double check with the Priest. One thing to know is that after the ceremony is finished you will stand in a line with the bridal party and your parents (both sets) and every guest will come up and say congratulations to you all. Luckily people don't stop for a chat - just a quick kiss on the cheek and on to the next person in line but even so, with a few hundred people to get through this can take a bit of time on top of the ceremony laugh.gif .

QUOTE(Ktinlove @ Aug 23 2011, 02:59 PM) View Post

Do I need to say anything in the ceremony or just wear my crown and look pretty ( and try not to faint)?


Nope, there's not much that the bride or groom need to do. In fact the Koumbaro/Koumbara's job is harder than the couple getting married as they have to put the crowns/rings on and do all the crossing etc. You have to walk around the altar with your husband and bridal party but you will be prompted to do this.

Also, some more traditional priests don't like kissing in the church. There's no part of the ceremony that includes this. Our priest had us kiss just before the receiving line but this doesn't always happen until the couple are outside.

QUOTE(Ktinlove @ Aug 23 2011, 02:59 PM) View Post

Did you have a OOS book for the non greek speaking guests? what did you put in it?


Yes we did and I have noticed they are common at Greek Orthodox weddings where one person isn't Greek but unheard of where both people are Greek.

I didn't have a word by word run down of the ceremony, just a description of what was going on. I also listed the names of the bridal party and the priest's name as is common on regular OSS booklets. I used a slightly modified version of this.

QUOTE(Ktinlove @ Aug 23 2011, 02:59 PM) View Post

Are there any traditions that i should know of for the reception?


Not sure how common it is but at many of my husband's family and friend's weddings there have been presentations of gifts - the groom to the bride, parents to children, the couple to the best man etc. I really wasn't keen on this so we opted to give gifts privately and advised my in laws of this so they didn't do anything during the speeches.

Also, it is quite common for the parents of the couple to sit on the main table. Again, we didn't do this as my parents wanted to sit with their friends. My in laws weren't very happy about sitting own their own table initially but I wanted have some elements reflect my parents' preferences.

Let me know if you have any other questions. It has been 5 years but I should be able to wrack my brains and recall the details laugh.gif .



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Posted 24 August 2011 - 07:46 PM

I haven't been to a Greek Orthodox ceremony but one of my best mates from school got married in a Serbian Orthodox ceremony. They had a blessing in an Anglican church first and then went straight to the Serbian one. It sounds very similar to what kookies has described.

As a guest, it was GREAT to have an OOS that described all the parts of the ceremony; half the guests would have had very little understanding of what was going on otherwise.

It was a fantastic experience though and she has lots of VERY pretty pics with her crown on biggrin.gif

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Posted 24 August 2011 - 08:23 PM

QUOTE(Windsor @ Aug 24 2011, 09:46 PM) View Post

she has lots of VERY pretty pics with her crown on biggrin.gif


The Greek Orthodox crowns are a bit more like wreaths and less crown like than the Serbian ones... still very pretty but you don't quite get to feel like the Queen of England as you would in a Serbian ceremony laugh.gif .


#7 Ktinlove

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Posted 25 August 2011 - 07:40 PM

Thanks so much for the replies. Its been a crazy couple of days.

Kookies your answers were so helpful! you have made me feel much better.
I will definately have an OOS. We are going to speak to the priest on Sunday. I will have to check how long the service will go for as i believe that the priest will be doing greek and english too.

When you got married did you have your own crowns or did you use the churches? I read that some churches have their own but you can choose to get your own if you want. I found some pretty ones on an over seas web site but havent seen any here that I love yet.

Once again thanks for your help
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Posted 29 August 2011 - 03:04 PM

not sure if this is tradition but you usually buy your koubaro a gift - cufflinks are always popular.
the koumbaro usually buys the stefana and the bombonierres so hint any theme that he should keep in mind so you dont end up with something you dont love!
also you can always request that the guest greet you at the reception rather than lining up in church cos it all gets a little repetitive and tiring happy.gif
as for traditions...if you are having the reception anywhere with a dancefloor get ready for lots of dancing and scotch glasses being skulled and thrown in the middle of the dance cirlce while the men (and women) go in for a skull!

best of luck!




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