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#1 Daybreak

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Posted 09 August 2011 - 05:54 PM

An article on couples of different faiths got me wondering how common this is, and by extension how common it is to share your faith (or not) with important people in your life.
Do you share your faith with your partner (as in, do you have the same religion)?
What about with your parents? Friends?
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Posted 09 August 2011 - 07:13 PM

I'm not of any particular religion but I do sway very much to the spiritual side of things.

I only have a few people I discuss with as they are more personal values. If a question is asked I will share my views, but I dont readily devulge them to people unless asked about my beliefs of for an opinioin. I dont really devulge to my partner either. He has different views.

I am a member of a spiritual forum which is a great outlet. I also use to attend a meditation circle regularly we were would share our thoughts and stuff.

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Posted 09 August 2011 - 07:40 PM

I share my religion with my parents, mainly. My husband was baptised into the same religion as me, and attended a religious private school, but does not practice any religion now.

I attend church on occasion, but I am more comfortable with my faith as a personal thing at the moment.

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Posted 09 August 2011 - 07:47 PM

I've been pondering this question a little bit because it's been an aspect of the last few sermons at our church. One of the issues that our Minister has been pointing out is that Australians in general tend to be a bit 'suspicious' of spirituality, and consider it quite a private thing. As a result, many people are a little bit reticent to discuss their religion at work, or with friends, for fear that it may be taken negatively. This point certainly resonates with me - I don't actively hide my spirituality, but I think many of my workmates and friends wouldn't know how big a part of my life it is - people probably know we attend church every week, but I don't discuss my beliefs with them, or how strongly I feel about my faith.

That said, I do have a few friends at work who I do share my spirituality - they tend to be very close friends, and/or people who share my faith. In addition, my husband shares my faith and attends church every week with me and our two children. We occasionally discuss our beliefs although he's not a very 'philosophical' person so its not a big part of our conversational repetoire. Amongst my family, I stay quite quiet about it - although my mother is quietly supportive, my brother tends to make fun of me for it.... sad.gif My ILs are far more religious than my side of the family, but as long as we're attending church they stay off our backs tongue.gif
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Posted 10 August 2011 - 08:55 AM

My DH is the same faith as me, and both our parents are too, and both sets of each of our grandparents are too!

In general life people know that I go to Church regularly and which religion I belong to, but I don't purposely bring it up, just if it comes up in general conversation (eg. so what are you doing on the weekend etc). If people have questions about it I answer but I don't push it on people. I figure if they're interested they'll ask, and if they're not interested probably not much point telling them anyway.

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Posted 15 October 2011 - 01:54 PM

Jon and I are of the same religion, but no one else in our family shares our beliefs. None of our friends belong to our faith either, except friends we have made via our faith community.

As part of my beliefs I should share and discuss my faith openly and happily, but as you say, Australians tend to be a bit reluctant to do this, and I am no exception at times. Sometimes I am really open with it (in an appropriate and inoffensive way mind you), but mostly I am a bit over cautious about discussing it too much! I know I shouldn't be though!

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Posted 15 October 2011 - 05:18 PM

My faith is such a big part of my life that I would more than likely not have pursued a relationship with someone that didn't share my beliefs.

My immediate family are also of the same religion but my wider family are a mix of other beliefs or are atheists. This leads to some interesting discussions but it's pretty much all been discussed before so it's not really talked about much now.

With people from work etc I'm the same as Ali:

QUOTE(AliRo @ Aug 10 2011, 09:25 AM) View Post

In general life people know that I go to Church regularly and which religion I belong to, but I don't purposely bring it up, just if it comes up in general conversation (eg. so what are you doing on the weekend etc). If people have questions about it I answer but I don't push it on people. I figure if they're interested they'll ask, and if they're not interested probably not much point telling them anyway.


I've been at my work place for so many years that most people there would probably know a lot about my faith by now but I usually only discuss it when it comes up in related conversations. I don't want to put people off by being over the top or weird about my religion (which is funny as this is often how it comes up, our religion is often seen as a bit old-fashioned and therefore 'strange'!), but at the same time I want to let people know how much it means to me!
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Posted 15 October 2011 - 05:22 PM

There are only five of us at my work. My boss and his wife know, as they attended our wedding, one colleague is of the same faith as me, and it came up with my other co-worker.

Whilst not overly religious I wanted to marry someone of the same faith and ended up doing just that. We're at the same level of belief/disbelief (some aspects of our faith we agree on between ourselves, just not with the church).

I was just wondering this very point the other day.


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Posted 15 October 2011 - 07:21 PM

Having never answered my own question, I will do so now. My family - immediate or extended - do not share my beliefs. I have some friends who do, but only because that was why we met. Andrew shares my beliefs but not my practice.
I'm much more guarded about my religion in real life than I am online. I won't lie about it, but you have to ask me a pretty direct question to get a straight answer - "Are you religious?" or "Do you believe in God?" tend to get an answer like "Not in the way you mean", while "What religion are you?" will probably get you a proper answer. Part of the reason for this is the bad reactions I received from my family, and my ex, when I told them. I usually give a description rather than a name/label because of this too.
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Posted 15 October 2011 - 07:33 PM

DH and I were both raised within different traditions of the same faith and are both on the same page now in that we have both moved away and are more agnostic now. Our families are the same so we tend not to talk about faith much. Weddings and funerals.

I do wish more people would share, I love learning about faith and, falling into the agnostic category, I'm really interested in how people incorporate their faith in their lives as I haven't really found anything that resonates with me. That said, I have shared my own beliefs in the past and been totally burnt so can understand why people might choose not to share sometimes.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:00 PM

I share my faith with my husband and both sides of our families. I used to have a lot of friends who was the same denomination but over time have lost contact with them. I, too, would have struggled marrying outside of my religion because it is such an intrinsic part of my life.

QUOTE(Lizzzard @ Aug 9 2011, 08:47 PM) View Post

I've been pondering this question a little bit because it's been an aspect of the last few sermons at our church. One of the issues that our Minister has been pointing out is that Australians in general tend to be a bit 'suspicious' of spirituality, and consider it quite a private thing. As a result, many people are a little bit reticent to discuss their religion at work, or with friends, for fear that it may be taken negatively. This point certainly resonates with me - I don't actively hide my spirituality, but I think many of my workmates and friends wouldn't know how big a part of my life it is - people probably know we attend church every week, but I don't discuss my beliefs with them, or how strongly I feel about my faith.

I'm the same. I've found my experience similar to Aliro's too. I'm not very good at evangelicising because I really dislike it done to me. However, I adore discussions on religion, as long as it's for the purpose of sharing and education and not discrimination/bigotry.
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Posted 18 October 2011 - 09:16 AM

QUOTE(Windsor @ Oct 15 2011, 07:33 PM) View Post

I do wish more people would share, I love learning about faith and, falling into the agnostic category, I'm really interested in how people incorporate their faith in their lives as I haven't really found anything that resonates with me. That said, I have shared my own beliefs in the past and been totally burnt so can understand why people might choose not to share sometimes.


I agree with Windsor, I love hearing about different faiths and learning how each of them work, and how different/similar they are.

I don't really have a faith that I follow - as in I don't go to church or anything, we did when we were kids and as teenages but haven't done so for years. However I have beliefs that I like/follow/believe in.

If any of you ladies are willing to share, I'm very interested in learning. smile.gif
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Posted 18 October 2011 - 09:54 AM

QUOTE(Lizzie1 @ Oct 18 2011, 09:16 AM) View Post

If any of you ladies are willing to share, I'm very interested in learning. smile.gif


what kind of stuff are you wanting to know?

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Posted 18 October 2011 - 02:14 PM

Just briefly, as I'm supposed to be working, one way I can describe my approach to my faith is to what alcohol/cigarettes/exercise/eating/Twilight novels etc may be to others. It brings me peace, an escape and it centres and focuses me without the cost, weight gain and hang-over of the aforementioned alternatives. happy.gif When I walk into church, my shoulders drop and just for a while, the cares of the world take a back seat. I'm mostly involved in the music at church (although I have spoken a few times too) and it brings so much happiness being able to share that way.

It's unfortunate that religion has such a bad rap because for all the bad things you hear anecdotally, there's a hundred good things that aren't advertised. Yes, doctrine is often not tolerant and all-encompassing of human diversity and the Church has a lot to answer for in some things but to allow those things to suggest faith in its entirety is negative, is just as intolerant in my opinion (just speaking of general societal thought).

There is one thing I do; only speak of my faith when I know it's welcomed. Many of my friends know I'm a Christian but that's all. I also love spending time with people of other religions, visiting religions sites and reading literature from other faiths. It's a way of not becoming mired in my own religious doctrine and remaining open minded. Ignorance breeds fear.

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Posted 18 October 2011 - 04:40 PM

I'll take it from the other perspective, as it is my husband who shares his faith with others. He is a senior leader of his church and spends much time and effort in religious duties, the day to day running of his church, and in support of friends and peers at church.

While we are of the same faith, we are from different denominations. We also express religion in different ways. I often wish I could provide comfortable space for DH to share his religion with me more often. He does from time to time, but as we express religion in quite different ways (he from a bible perspective and dedicating his time to church, me from a day to day living perspective), I realise it is difficult for him to share with me all the time. I know that he talks about his faith in more depth to his peers at church. I do not attend church with him as I suppose their expression of religion is very different from what I am used to. I also found that I was a constant outsider so it was personally very difficult to fit in. Admittedly I am quite repressed about the way I express my personal beliefs about God too.

It's something that works for us, but I often feel guilty that I don't make more of an effort to be more involved in such an important aspect of his life.

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