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#1 shelly1170

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Posted 27 July 2011 - 08:14 AM

Hi everyone,

We've just found out we are expecting baby #3. It's a very exciting time and also nerve racking.

Whilst I was an "older" mum with the other two girls (36 and 37), I'm now 40. For me at least, that means more worry!!! wacko.gif

Anyone else in the same boat?




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Posted 27 July 2011 - 01:17 PM

I'm 36 so guess I'm an old girl too. I'm quite nervous about my NT scan. In my early 30s I was told by my fertility specialist that my egg quality was very poor so wondering if this one is a keeper. Dunno if this is an old girl thing but I am already so much more tired than last time. Perhaps it is because I am trying to chase around a toddler also.

Congrats on your pregnancy!

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Posted 27 July 2011 - 01:23 PM

I'll join smile.gif

I'm turning 38 soon and definitely feeling this pregnancy a lot more than my last! Like you BG I'm a bit worried about my NT scan. See how we go I guess!

Congrats again shelly!
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Posted 27 July 2011 - 05:57 PM

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#5 shelly1170

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Posted 28 July 2011 - 06:51 PM

Welcome everyone! And hope you join us soon, Anica.

I have my first doctor's appointment tomorrow morning. I live in PNG so am doing shared care with an obs in Cairns. Both of my other girls were born in Sydney so it's like starting all over again. I know nothing about the doctor up here apart from him being recommended by a couple of friends. I *think* there's an ultrasound machine in his practice (there are several doctors) but am not sure. Otherwise I have to wait until around 9 or so weeks when I next go to Cairns.

My first obs appointment is for an hour. I meet with the midwife and the obstetrician to discuss my pregnancy plan. I'm currently leaning towards a CVS at 12 weeks rather than waiting until 17 weeks for an amnio (which I did with both girls). Given that I am now over 40 ohmy.gif the risks are much higher. And if there was something catastrophically "wrong", I'd rather find out at 12 weeks than 17 weeks. No idea if they even do them in Cairns though or if I have to go to Sydney.

So, how are the rest of you progressing?

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Posted 29 July 2011 - 09:19 AM

How did your appointment go today shelly? I can imagine it must have been a bit daunting to see someone new for this pregnancy. I hope they were nice and had an ultrasound machine in their office! So how often will you be going to Cairns for your checkups?

Will you be doing the NT scan at all or are you going to go straight to CVS? May I ask why you chose to do an amnio with your girls when you were "younger"?

Hope you don't mind all my questions! smile.gif

I bought a book ages ago about pregnancy for over 35's. I pulled it out a few days ago and started reading about all the tests you can do. TBH I'm getting a bit scared by it all. The statistics terrify me! But I have started thinking about the possibility of further testing should we need to go down that path after our NT scan next week. I am just worried about the MC risk since my last two pregnancies ended in MC.
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Posted 29 July 2011 - 01:27 PM

Hiya! Just back from the doctor. He is so lovely and very knowledgable. I felt comfortable with him straight away which is great!

They do have an ultrasound but the Dr wants to wait until monday week (8th) before he does a scan because he said he wouldn't be able to see enough detail until then (I'm guessing the machine is not very new!). I want to make sure the pregnancy is viable before I go to the expense of flying to Cairns.

With both of my pregnancies, my NT results were good (1 in 1100ish for Penny and 1 in 3300ish for Abi). But I needed to know for sure. DH and I had discussed what we would do well in advance so there was no issue there.

This time around, I think I'll give the NT scan a miss and go straight for CVS. I'll be flying to Sydney for the procedure as the doctors there who did my amnios are very experienced. So much depends on the skill of the operator.

As for how often I have to go to Cairns...I have no idea at the moment! Hopefully only a few times. I will have to go for the morph scan at around 19 weeks. I can do the GTT up here which is at 28 weeks.

I'm still torn between two obstetricians. There is one that has all the "bells and whistles" like in house lactation consultants, maternity bra fitting, pelvic support belt fitting, ultrasound etc. But you pay more. To be honest, how often would I be able to take advantage of the facilities? Aahhh...decisions decisiions!

Oh! And I think we have the same book!
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Posted 29 July 2011 - 01:46 PM

Shelly, that's great that you had a good appointment.

I'm going with a new obs this time around as I've moved to the other side of Sydney and it's not practical to go with the original obs or that hospital. He had a very basic practice. No ultrasound, just a doppler and his waiting room looked like the surgery out of A Country Practice. This time around I'm going with the most prominent obs at the hospital, who specialises in difficult pregnancies. he is very pro-VBAC and has pushed this on me already which I am surprised about.

I'd just go with the obs that you feel most comfortable with. A lot of people hassled me about going with the cheaper option and he was just wonderful. I didn't regret my decision at all.

As for this pregnancy, I'm still in denial. I spotted for the first 8 weeks and still having very painful cramping. So until the NT scan in a few weeks, I'm laying low.

Crisis I don't think I could read that book. I worry enough about things as it is. Reading that may make me official neurotic smile.gif

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Posted 29 July 2011 - 04:06 PM

Hey, beachgurl, where are you now? And before? (just general area!). We were living in North Sydney when I was pregnant with the girls so went to North Shore Private. Loved, loved, loved my obs! I actually rang today to speak to his receptionist. I wish I was going back, but it's just not practical.

Anyway, his receptionist rang Cairns Private to see if she could get a recommendation for an obs for me from one of the midwifes there (she's also a midwife). So I now have my obs in Cairns sorted!

I'm so excited! Even though I am trying to be sensible and not get carried away, I just can't help it.
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Posted 29 July 2011 - 05:03 PM

I was in the lower Eastern Suburbs before so went to POWP. Now I'm near Parra so will be going to Westmead Private.

that's great to get a recommendation! Feels nervewracking having to find a new obs and makes you feel like you're pregnant for the first time again.

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Posted 01 September 2011 - 02:12 PM

HI Girls I will join you too Im definitely an older mum.

My NT results were great for my age they were 1 in 1100 so im going to just leave it at that and not put this pregnancy at risk. My obs was happy with that. I am def tired this time around and where is that glow I just look tired lol

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Posted 27 February 2012 - 04:41 PM

Can I join too?!

38 this year, and after having our first in Oct (Miss E is now 4 months), without even using OPKs, checking my temps or even counting the days of my cycle (I don't even know if it was back to the usual 28 days) I was 12 days overdue for AF (whenever it was due in Feb) and did a test... double line. So there will be about a years difference between the two bubbas... unsure.gif

I am a bit worried about people's reactions. But they must understand, if I want more than one, and I wouldn't want my daughter to be an only child, there is a certain sense of urgency here.

I also couldn't understand why the hospital and even my GP were all pushing contraception. I left the hospital with new bubba in one arm and a script for the mini-pill in my bag (which apparently doesn't work too well while breast feeding - not that that would've been an issue, I had troubles bfing).I didn't even fill out the script, as with first TTCing, it took my body a fair while to get over the many years of pill taking). I have made an appointment to see GP next Monday. I guess we'll need to figure out exactly how pregnant I am and approx when it is due. I'd love to have one of those dating scans, but more than likely will have to wait till 12 weeks!
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Posted 27 February 2012 - 05:24 PM

Oooh - I didn't know this thread was out there.

I'm going to be 37 by the time I have this bubba so I guess that puts me in the older mum category too. I was 35 when I had DS.

I'm happy to report that I had my NT scan last week and the risks for this one were lower than for DS biggrin.gif

Armygirl - I reckon that the most likely reaction you will get is how close they will be. wink.gif My brother and I were 16 months apart and Mum (who was 35/36 when she had us) always says that she thinks it was easier having 2 close together because you're still used to looking after a baby. I reckon if people are being judgemental tell them to shove it! laugh.gif
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