July (and a few June!!) 2011 Mums & Bubs <3
Posted 14 July 2011 - 02:35 AM
Posted 14 July 2011 - 01:21 PM
And also surprisingly not amazing- it's like my body is like 'Woah, what's this sleep thing? You mean we don't have to feel like this?' LOL.
How is everyone else? It's quiet in here.....
Posted 14 July 2011 - 05:14 PM
Our little man has decided that he doesn't like sleeping in his cradle for the past 2 nights and has been in bed with us (or me, as DH has been working). It doesn't worry either of us at all, but I've just been to my first mothers group which are more like info sessions for a few weeks and today's was about sleep and settling. They said that sleep associations like rocking or feeding to sleep sets up bad habits even at this early age, which shocked me a bit. So now I'm thinking we should start with the feed-play-sleep routine and persist with settling him in his cradle. I don't really want my toddler still co-sleeping!! What do you guys think?
Other than that, mothers group made me realize how lucky we are with how good Jack is. He doesn't really cry that much and is very easily calmed. 3 babies inour group screamed pretty much the whole time. I felt so sorry for their mums!!! The babies range from 11 weeks down to 3 weeks. Watching some of the older bubs made me excited to see Jacks little personality emerge, despite me wishing he would stay newborn forever! It also gave me hope that he will (hopefully!!) soon be sleeping through the night, or at least for longer than 3 hours!!
Anyway, hope everyone is going well. It is quiet in here... Hoping more bubs are being born!!
The beginning of our forever- 4th April, 2009
Our precious boy- 12th June, 2011
Another beautiful boy- 27th June, 2013
"Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body"
Posted 14 July 2011 - 06:16 PM
We do a routine based on self-settling. I found that he was having trouble sleeping in his cradle at night, despite going down perfectly during the day. We cranked up the heater a bit last night and he slept really well- is it possible that Jack is getting cold?
I tend to avoid sleep associations like rocking or music even from this early stage. We subscribe to the 'start as you intend to continue' theory- even if the baby doesn't really attach to the rocking, we'd get used to it and it's hard to know exactly when you should stop doing it. It's like swearing in front of toddlers- for a while it's okay and they don't realise, and then boom, one day they start repeating you and you haven't even realised they've been listening.
It's easier doing the self-settling this time around because I'm much better at understanding cries- I can really tell the difference between Guy's 'I'm going to sleep' and 'I need you now!'. Our routine is to feed (both breasts), change nappy, awake time (generally about 15 minutes) and then wrap him up and lie him down in his cradle, completely awake. 50% of the time he'll fall asleep, the other 50% of the time he's done another poop and needs some more attention, or he'll just lie there and look around until it's time for his next feed.
I find my two year old an incredible inspiration every time I get frustrated. When it's 3am and I'm exhausted, I think about him upstairs, fast asleep, and I think 'I got through this before, it does end, these precious newborn moments are so fleeting, enjoy this'. That's the joy of a second child though, people told me to enjoy the late night feeds the first time around and I told them they were insane
Posted 15 July 2011 - 01:14 PM
Karli, obviously I am not there yet, but I can't help but think that babies are so tiny and so helpless, and Jack has been inside you for 8 months listening to your heartbeat and as close to you as he could possibly get, and I can't really blame him for not wanting to be in his cradle and wanting to be in bed with you instead. So I guess I think that there is no harm in comforting him to sleep? You'd probably want to avoid an incredibly complicated sleep routine of feed, cuddle, tickle, pat head, feed, swaddle, one arm out of swaddle, cuddle, down to bed, in 19 degrees in a darkened room while standing on one leg (you get what I mean!) but I do think that while they are so tiny you do what comes naturally, which in a lot of cases is I think baby in with mum, where they have been for the last 8-9 months. But like I said, I have no idea, and I'm 100% certain that the people at your mothers group know more than me!
How is Miss Imogen, Tori? And how are you doing physically?
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Posted 15 July 2011 - 03:42 PM
Imogen is great (thanks for asking), she is 3 weeks old tomorrow and she is a pretty chilled little baby.
At night we sleep from about 10pm-10am (my husband has 4 weeks off work, allowing us to be in bed at 10am) and during those hours we usually get up for a feed at 1am, 4am and 7am (ish, she wakes us not the other way round). I'll feed her, husband will change her nappy and swaddle her. To help her sleep we have set up an area in the middle of our bed which we call 'half way house' we put her in this and once she is zonked we move her into her basket. So far this has worked well for us
With feeding: anyone have any tips on getting burps? We have had a bit of vomiting/spitting up and find if we can get her to burp there is less spitting up... But sometimes we just can't get her to bring the gas up!
I didn't realize how much babies FART! (or is it just mine?)
Regarding what worked for my (uh-hum) h-roids, I used cold packs as well as cream. That worked well!
Oh and physically I am getting there! The skin on my tummy has had a change in sensation post the c-section, some of it is numb and some is hyper-sensitive!!
How many others had to have a c-section? Just dreams?
Posted 15 July 2011 - 05:57 PM
Posted 15 July 2011 - 08:06 PM
Piper- I think you are spot on with what you said. I try and keep to our routine 90% of the time, but he's so soft, and so little, and so perfect, sometimes I'm more than happy to throw it all out the window and let him sleep in my arms.
Tori- that's a great feeding routine! Lucky being able to stay in bed until 10am! Glad also to hear that your c-section scar is doing well. Regarding burping, our little one doesn't burp all that much, but I find that sometimes, I have to lie him horizontal for a few minutes and then pick him up straight again, and that will raise the gas. Not sure if this will help, it's just a little something that will work for us.
P.S- Tori, I think you need a new signature
I'm a bit confused about breastfeeding at the moment. It's all going really well, but I'm feeling different- my breasts are not as engorged when it's feed time and he's already starting cutting his feeding time down from 30 mins a side to 15 mins a side. I don't remember Will doing this for a month or two yet...is it just that Guy is a more efficient feeder, or my breasts are already used to doing the job?
Posted 17 July 2011 - 06:58 PM
Guy is still mostly feeding three hourly overnight and during the day, which is very manageable. I'm not too tired, which is nice. I also feel almost back to normal, physically. My loss is very, very minimal now, my h-roids are gone, and I'm not all that stiff and sore anymore. Feeling really great, which is insane considering I've got an 8 day old.
A little bit freaked out about when DH goes back to work in a week's time, dealing with a toddler and a newborn, but I'm trying to stay calm and confident.
We've got a post-natal appointment at the hospital tomorrow, where they will also do his hearing test (because we left hospital same day, it wasn't done there). Looking forward to finding out how much weight he's lost (and whether he's putting it back on at a good rate).
Still need to complete his birth registration papers and all that jazz- they are currently glaring at me from the dining room table- ugh. Also need to start thinking about contraception- we are 99.5% sure we are done with our family, so I'm looking at longer term options. We don't want to go down the permanent path just yet- DH & I are still really young and I'd like the option of a third child, but we are certainly not planning on anything anytime soon. Tossing up between Implanon and some kind of IUD device? Must investigate. I really suck at taking the pill- my firstborn is a result of forgetfulness
How is everyone? It's so quiet in here....
Posted 18 July 2011 - 02:38 PM
I'm going with Implanon for contraception, I like the idea of having at least 3 years between bubs!
Imogen also cut her feeds right down after about a week, but as she was past her birth weight by 10 days I just went with it! My mum (who did midwifery many many years ago says they get most of what they need in the first few minutes anyway).
I really need to get onto a computer and change my sig!!!
Posted 21 July 2011 - 09:27 PM
For photos of Imogen I have put them up on her birth announcement (page 2)
Posted 21 July 2011 - 10:03 PM
Sorry, got a bit distracted over the last few days. The last two nights with Jnr were a bit chaotic, I'd been guilty of letting him fall asleep after a feed on my chest or in my arms, and then he got all freaked out at night when he'd be put back in the bassinet. My own fault, really. Spent all of today being really, really good and making him fall asleep in the bassinet, like he's supposed to. He's just finished the last feed of the day, and once I've finished this and gotten a burp out of him, I'm off to bed too!
Finally took ourselves off to the GP a few days ago and Guy is doing really well- he'd exceed his birth weight by 9 days, which is really reassuring. My breasts hadn't been engorging as much as with my first and I was a bit freaked out there was nothing there. I figured if he was hungry, he wouldn't settle, but still, it's so, so nice to see that figure on the scales go up and up and up.
Tomorrow is my DH's last day of paternity leave, he goes back to work on Monday. I'm nervous, to say the least. Me, toddler, newborn, solo? Fingers crossed. My MIL arrives on Friday (week) and is staying with us for about 7 days, so I get a 'taste test' of real life before getting to be supported by her. I'm excited- we get along really well and I know she'll be an amazing help.
Finally sat down tonight to do his birth registration & Centrelink papers- what a PITA. Yeah, I've totally got time to find a witness to my & DH's signatures, and to send in a certified copy of my I.D Have a feeling this could go on, and on, and on. Should set a reminder in my phone to make sure it gets in by the 60 day mark!
Tori- That photo of Immy is gorgeous!! I'm tempted by the Implanon as well, I've heard about a few bad side effects though? We will probably do the mini-pill until I'm finished breastfeeding, that also gives me time to think about more permanent options.
Speaking of contraception, has anyone re-commenced 'you know what'ing yet?
Posted 22 July 2011 - 02:41 PM
Amy it's great to hear that Guy is up past his birth weight!
My husband only has one week left of his leave
I've heard of wonder weeks... Is it true that week 5 is the first one?
Posted 22 July 2011 - 05:07 PM
We've recommenced already I was a little nervous, but I'm just feeling so good, and there is no pain whatsoever, and we are taking it easy.....
Re: wonder weeks, I'm not sure, I'd have to google it again. I do know that they are 'due' for a growth spurt around 4-5 weeks, so I think you are right. I remember it was a hard time, all of a sudden it was like I had a different baby!
Exhausted today. Guy woke up around 2am for a feed (normal) and when I got up to feed him, I discovered that my toddler was ALSO awake. Neither of them wanted to go back to sleep . We had a nice big nap this afternoon though, which was nice, but man was I grumpy this morning!!!
Posted 23 July 2011 - 08:39 AM
Thinking a lot about a third baby at the moment, which is insane considering our second child is only two weeks old (today! ). We were always so determined to have two, and I still think it's the 'sensible' option- having a third child would limit our options/finances for travel, private school, buying a house. I'm also not keen on the idea of having three boys (there, I said it ) and I don't know that I would cope mentally with three kids- I enjoy working and studying and I don't think I'd be able to keep all three balls juggling in the air. All that being said- I don't feel 'finished' yet, if you know what I mean? Not planning on making a decision anytime soon, if we did go back it would be when the boys are older and in school (it would take me that long to convince DH anyway! ) but it's been on my mind a fair bit over the last few weeks.
Where is everyone? I feel a bit like I'm rambling all to myself here
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