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#1 Channy

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Posted 18 May 2011 - 08:56 PM

I think the sad day has arrived where we have to bid farewell to the much loved daysleep sad.gif

For the past 2-3 weeks Aidan has all of a sudden been hard to settle at night, up to 9-10pm...often reading/playing in his room. We have tried to cut his usual nap of 2-2.5hours down to 1.5hours and made not difference. So I think we might have to let it go ***sob***

What did you do? Quiet time etc? How did the transition go? Did you do it at home & daycare?


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Posted 18 May 2011 - 09:22 PM

It sucked. Tears, tantrums, bribery. Me not the kids. Lew has just dropped his the past week, Jack hasn't been having one for a while. It suuuuuucks. My quiet afternoon time is goneskis.

They have a brief quiet period after lunch then they take themselves outside to play some more. Occassionally I can bribe more quiet from them with a movie, mummy needs that brain off downtime.

Honestly, Lew has transitioned fine. Helps that I was in denial for a while there, he was still havign big day sleeps but then night bedtime was a nightmare and they were waking up at crack of arse. Ditched it, he's been happy, less narky in the afternoons than Jack actually, night time's are calmer, wake ups at a more civil time, better all round really. Still miss my quiet time though.

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Posted 18 May 2011 - 09:33 PM

Elka had the same "symptoms" as you described but she was also taking forever to get down to sleep in the day, by the time I fought her into bed, it was taking longer than her actual sleep. So I gave up., she was only just over 2 and I was very sad that I had to let her day sleep go as I also had a newborn but oh well!

Instead I instigated quiet time on her fold out lounge - she is allowed to watch a DVD movie and I would shut the blinds so the room was quite dim. This works well, she looks quite rested from it. I would also be "quiet" no running around doing jobs etc, I would sit quietly and do some work on my laptop and eat my lunch and this helped convince her it was time to stay still.

At first, she would be a bit ratty in the early evenings due to the missing day sleep but she adapted very quickly..


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Posted 18 May 2011 - 10:17 PM

Cate has only just given hers up recently at almost 3.5 so I think I am very lucky. She went through quite a few phases of looking like giving it up by not actually sleeping in the day at all. But always went back to having it. From about the age of 2.5 though it has onl been 1 hour from 2-3pm. Even 5min more than that meant long settling times at bedtime.

She has basically given it up now by just not going to sleep. I still put her into her bed for that hour though. After about 3 weeks of no sleep I decided I would start letting her take a book into bed. So now she gets to take 1 book to read then she puts it on the end of her bed and has a "rest". I leave her there until 3pm and she is pretty good with just talking quietly to herself etc. She will sleep maybe once every 7-10 days.

Her behaviour took a HUGE downturn when it first started. We had mega tantrums over hte smallest things. I was really getting to my wits end with it all. But just in the last couple of weeks her behaviour has started improving again so I am thinking maybe she is starting to get used to less sleep.

In terms of daycare - she hadn't been sleeping there (2 days per week) since she was 2 years old. Maybe that is what kept her having it at home for longer. Those 2 days without it were enough to make her need it on the other 5 days at home.
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Posted 19 May 2011 - 08:46 AM

Levi dropped his at 18 months. I cried. Bee was only 7 months old and I needed that laugh.gif It was taking FOREVER to get him to go to sleep in the first place, then he'd not go to sleep until 8pm ish at night.

So we let it go. And instead I instigated "quiet time", where he goes into his bed for 10 minutes with books so I still get that break. Well, a mini break. Afterwards we either do something fun or he plays in the lounge room.

The upside is that he's asleep by 7:30pm at the latest every night.

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Posted 20 May 2011 - 08:54 AM

Thank you for your replies!

So yesterday he was up at 6:30am. Had a busy morning at Kindergym, then a rest after lunch with a movie and in bed at 7:15pm. Popped out twice, but then zonked at 7:30pm biggrin.gif He was up at 6am. Today we are out this morning, then home for a bit, but have a bit of a drive to our GP for 4pm. Thinking he might fall asleep in car. I think I am ok if he has a little car nap or even a daysleep every few days if that's what he needs.
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Posted 20 May 2011 - 11:18 AM

We try to avoid letting RI have a quick nap in the car. If he does he wakes up and screams at us for the next hour. We found he was doing this if he had a nap at home, just wasn't worth it.

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Posted 20 May 2011 - 12:04 PM

Cate dropped her day sleep the same week Seamus was born wacko.gif Crappy timing! She was days shy of two years old.

Basically it was the same as others have described...taking her aaaaaages to go to sleep then sleeping too late in the day and not going down until late at night.

The transition was terrible...she wanted to fall asleep between three and four pm and when not allowed to, she would basically whinge constantly, sook, cry, tantrum until bedtime. As a result, I clearly remember her going to bed for the night at 5.30pm one day ohmy.gif !!

Now I am happy enough to not have a day sleep because bedtime is 6.30pm and she is generally out like a light. I will actively avoid having her in the car any time from 3pm onwards as she falls asleep instantly and then won't go off to bed until 8 - 9pm which sucks. Now that I don't get the peace of her day sleep, I look forward to my down time at night like nothing else!!

So...not the easiest transition and no quiet time during the day, but a blissfully early bedtime was a nice trade off wink.gif



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Posted 21 May 2011 - 11:49 AM

QUOTE(Channy @ May 18 2011, 08:56 PM) View Post

I think the sad day has arrived where we have to bid farewell to the much loved daysleep sad.gif

For the past 2-3 weeks Aidan has all of a sudden been hard to settle at night, up to 9-10pm...often reading/playing in his room. We have tried to cut his usual nap of 2-2.5hours down to 1.5hours and made not difference. So I think we might have to let it go ***sob***

What did you do? Quiet time etc? How did the transition go? Did you do it at home & daycare?


unfortunately this is exactly what we had and we ended up discovering it was because he no longer needed the day sleep. It would be 10-11 at night to get him to stay in his bed if he had a day sleep and just one day i magically kept him up the whole day and bingo- in bed asleep by 7:00-7:30pm. We do have quiet time during the day if we are home, just after lunch when my other one is down for her sleep, i make him lie down on a fold out kiddy lounge and put kids shows on for an hour, he lies there happily, sometimes he still nods off but its nbot regularly. If he nods off then i leave him be. He still doesnt close his eyes till 9:9:30 if he has had that sleep but we dont have the problems we have had previously getting him to stay in his bed. We just stopped the day sleep, there was no transition really, he does still sleep at daycare for an hour but it has no bearing on getting him settled at night. Good luck, it is sad to see it go but it also makes it easier to get out and about when you arent trying to organise getting out around sleep times

gotta agree with carla though, it was a nightmare at first, he would be feral from about 5pm onwards till bedtime, but now he is fine, he knows the bedtime routine and i have them both down at 6:30pm generally each night, no later than 7pm and i get my downtime then
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