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#1 Samantha03

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 08:57 AM

My daughter is 7 almost 8 and is in a share care living arrangement with her father. ( week at his then a week at mine)

Whiles this is not the problem ( we been doing this since she was 2) I feel we are not as close as she is with her father.
I know the weeks she is with him – its just the two of them, whiles I have re married. As I work during the week, weekend are spent doing things that need to be done, and then the extra special family treat.

Someone suggested to me, that we should have some mummy daughter dates to try and break away from the crazy weekends.

Does anyone else do this with there daughter? Any suggested s on what to do?


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Posted 30 March 2011 - 09:09 AM

My SIL has an 8 year old son from a previous relationship and she tries to go on a date with him at least once a fortnight while my bro and their 2 little ones stay at home. He absolutely loves this time. A lot of the time it is just having a thickshake at mcdonalds or a hot chocolate at a coffee shop and is only for an hour or so. he raves about this special time for days after. other "dates" they have include shopping at Toys R Us or him picking out a dvd that him and his mum watch once the other kids are in bed.

So don't feel like you have to do anything huge with your daughter. I reckon frequent little excursions would be more important for her than a day-long expensive excursion every so often.



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Posted 30 March 2011 - 09:30 AM

A workmate of mine has two daughters who are close in age (but a bit older than your daughter).

When the elder one has an early morning start at school for whatever activity it is she's currently into (sorry I can't remember what it is), she and the younger one go for breakfast before school. And again when the younger one has her activity on, the older one and mum have coffee/hot chocolate or similar.

I think its a great idea. In terms of what to do, I agree that it doesn't have to be an all day long expensive outing, more a shorter burst of quality time that doesn't have to be expensive. Coffee (or hot chocolate), breakfast, shopping. Perhaps think of some things that would be suitable for just the two of you (i.e. not things that the family usually does together anyway). Or think of things you would want to do with your mum when you were younger.

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#4 LoveSweetpea

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 10:04 AM

Movies
Picnic in the park
High tea or just lunch/coffee/hot chocolate/whatever in a nice cafe
Something arty (craft class or something)
Go and get a pedicure together - most little girls love things like this or do your own "spa day" at home with mani/pedi, foot spa, hair treatment etc

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 10:36 AM

I think it's a wonderful idea. I was bought up by my dad and visited my mum on weekends. I remember craving one-on-one time with each of my parents away from the step family once in a while. As a result DH & I make sure we each have special times with our children on our own, and each get to spend some one-on-one time with grandma and granddad (overzealous - much?! biggrin.gif )

What are her interests?

My thoughts wihtout knowing what you both like doing are -
- Movies.
- Pizza/noodles night.
- Art & craft activities (do you do this? I loved my mum teaching me to sew. We used to make clothes for my dolls).
- Hair and make-up sessions (kick everyone else out of the house and do each other up), play music.
- Let her help you chose outfits for the day. Consult her on accessories, shoes, etc.
- Morning/afternoon tea after activities like swimming classes so you can shower her with praise.
- Shopping trips for special outfits if you have an occasion coming up.
- An ongoing project like a dolls house for you to decorate together, or plan and redecorate her bedroom.
- Going to the park or for a walk.
- Spend time doing her homework with her away from everyone else - include trips to the library for reading books or for a school project &/or surf the internet together with similar intent.
- Bake together, or send everyone out and you two can make them a special dinner.
- Attend sporting events she likes.
- Visit museums together.

I think the trick is that you want it to be a real treat now and then but you also want it to be, normal 'let's just enjoy each others' company' time too. It shouldn't be forced, just a habit you both get into.

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 11:17 AM

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 12:23 PM

QUOTE(tastebud @ Mar 30 2011, 12:17 PM) View Post

Totally stealing some of the great ideas in here!


Me too! Now that DD2 has almost weaned I'd like to start spending more one-on-one time with DD1 & there are some great suggestions here smile.gif


#8 chelley

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 02:18 PM

I think it is a wonderful idea for all parents regardless of being separated or not - lots of wonderful ideas
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#9 Samantha03

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Posted 30 March 2011 - 03:02 PM

Thank you so much for you ideas. Its been a great help biggrin.gif

Im really looking forward to start our mother daughter dates.






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