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#16 BeenTooLong



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Posted 17 December 2010 - 10:50 PM

Just wanted to echo what the girls have said above. I don't think anyone is truely 100% prepared for a baby! I've had 2 bubs, I wonder if I was to have a 3rd I'd feel more prepared????

QUOTE(Sagacious @ Dec 17 2010, 03:51 PM) View Post

f. It is OK to be afraid of birth, and not know (as any plan could easily change on the day)

I was scared of the whole birthing a baby thing. I was scared of how much labour would hurt. I was sh!t scared I'd need a c-section. And both my bubs ended up with c-sections tongue.gif

You have the right attitude, ask lots of questions even if they seem silly. Midwives are a big help while your in hospital. And of course ask anything in here, someone will have gone thru the same thing!

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Posted 19 December 2010 - 08:24 AM

The girls have given great advice above. I think if you are questioning yourself, it means you care enough to get it right. smile.gif

I would HIGHLY recommend you get your hands on a copy of Juju Sundin's Birth Skills and give it a read - I got one from the local library. It's very empowering and gives you great confidence and skills for the delivery suite. I was very apprehensive until I read that and the day I went into labour, I wasn't scared - at all. I was calm and prepared for what was to come. Didn't lessen the pain but I used so many of her tips and it helped me cope.

All the best. smile.gif xx
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Posted 19 December 2010 - 03:47 PM

Another one here who had no idea.

I remember getting Jack home and thinking "I can't just take him back, I've got to work out what to do" and started having a bit of a panic. But as the others have said, you just work it out.

The best piece of advice I was given was to trust my instincts. If things don't feel right, ask someone. We are really lucky that there are 24 hr support lines if you need them. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you think you need it, even if you think it is something silly.
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Posted 19 December 2010 - 04:51 PM

ask lots of questions. Ask for help when you need it. You will work it out, it will come naturally to you.
To make you feel better, the first time I put a nappy on Steph, I picked her up off the bed and it fell off! tongue.gif I then asked for help lol

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Posted 19 December 2010 - 05:46 PM

Another one who had no idea or experience with babies before I had Daniel. I'd never held a newborn, changed a nappy or been responsible for anyone under 3 for even a short period of time. When I tried to change him for the first time the night of his birth, I put his nappy on backwards, the midwife laughed at me and I was so frightened, I didn't know what I was doing.
Just over a year later it's hard to remember what life was like pre-baby, everything is just such second nature now.

For me, reading helped me get a handle on how parenting was going to go- I recommend Baby Love for a practical, straighhtforward 'manual' for babies. Another piece of advice I wish I HAD followed through on is if there's anyone that you know with a young baby, spend a day with them to see what a typical day is like.

Budgeting- I'd make a normal budget of all your bills, mortgage/rent, loans, credit cards etc.
Work out your liabilities each month, and your income each month and see how you're going.
Work out how much time you'd like off work (or if you'll go back at all) and if you can live comfortably off one income. If you're going back to work think how much time you want off, then work out how much you need to save to have that time off (make sure you factor in mat leave you'll get paid (or baby bonus), Centrelink payments etc.
Once that's worked out I'd add on an extra sum to be saved for baby items you'll need- everyone is different in how much they spend here.

How you're feeling is completely normal, I felt like that too. It is a massive life change, and trust that you'll get there, in your own way.

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Posted 19 December 2010 - 07:10 PM

FWIW I felt the same way with my first...I was only 19 when I had him and it was quite scary!! When I had Z it was six years later and thought I'd forgotten everything.

THis time I am petrified!!!! I have no idea how I'm going to handle two at the same time....but my biggest advice to you (and to myself) Is to go with the flow!! There will be ups and downs but you will find your feet and be an awesome mummy!
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Posted 19 December 2010 - 08:02 PM

Another great resource:


They have lots of bite-sized articles about everything, including a lot of 'comic-strip' type diagrams, and videos on things like nappy changing, bathing, dressing a newborn etc. I've read quite a lot on there about development, playtime, routines, sleep and settling etc. and although a lot of it is just common-sense stuff, it's reassuring that you have been doing the right thing out of instinct sometimes biggrin.gif
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Posted 22 December 2010 - 06:05 PM

wow - again, thank you all so much!
Squeaza that website looks great - will pore over it in more detail soon!

Nepthys - thank you for the book reccomendation - will find a copy to loan - great advice!

Simone - I forgot about mat leave and parenting payments etc! It won;t be as scary as I thought! I do have to return to work but now don't need to stres as much about not saving a lot prior to baby (if i can stick to a budget)

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