Posted 19 December 2010 - 05:46 PM
Another one who had no idea or experience with babies before I had Daniel. I'd never held a newborn, changed a nappy or been responsible for anyone under 3 for even a short period of time. When I tried to change him for the first time the night of his birth, I put his nappy on backwards, the midwife laughed at me and I was so frightened, I didn't know what I was doing.
Just over a year later it's hard to remember what life was like pre-baby, everything is just such second nature now.
For me, reading helped me get a handle on how parenting was going to go- I recommend Baby Love for a practical, straighhtforward 'manual' for babies. Another piece of advice I wish I HAD followed through on is if there's anyone that you know with a young baby, spend a day with them to see what a typical day is like.
Budgeting- I'd make a normal budget of all your bills, mortgage/rent, loans, credit cards etc.
Work out your liabilities each month, and your income each month and see how you're going.
Work out how much time you'd like off work (or if you'll go back at all) and if you can live comfortably off one income. If you're going back to work think how much time you want off, then work out how much you need to save to have that time off (make sure you factor in mat leave you'll get paid (or baby bonus), Centrelink payments etc.
Once that's worked out I'd add on an extra sum to be saved for baby items you'll need- everyone is different in how much they spend here.
How you're feeling is completely normal, I felt like that too. It is a massive life change, and trust that you'll get there, in your own way.