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#1 MsGems

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 09:34 AM

I don't know about any of the other single mums out there, but I know that I sometimes feel a bit overwhelmed by it all and thought it would be nice to be able to chat to others in a similar situation.

I'd been single for almost a year before I unexpectedly became a mum, so I think I got a double dose of overwhelming laugh.gif Mostly I'm loving being a mum, but I'm sure others can relate that sometimes it'd be nice to have someone to share the highs, lows & everyday life with.

So, single mums, here's our place to chat and share the highs and lows of motherhood with each other smile.gif
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Posted 31 May 2010 - 09:36 AM

I think I will be joining in here soon. Thanks for starting it up!

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#3 MsGems

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 09:42 AM

I saw your thread, hon, and hope you're okay - or as okay as you can be given the situation xx
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Posted 31 May 2010 - 09:47 AM

Thanks - I've been better. I think I am just scared at the moment. So many unknowns - I don't what is going to happen. And I suddenly feel very alone.

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 10:03 AM

Oh hon sad.gif

A PM is coming your way xx
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Posted 31 May 2010 - 10:16 AM

I hope this is ok.... whilst I am not a single Mum, being a Mum has given me a newfound respect for single Mums and not a day goes by where I don't think to myself 'I wonder how people do this alone'. I personally don't think I could cope... my hat goes off to all the single mums/dads out there.

My Mum was a single mum with two kids and I never wondered how she coped, it was just the norm and for what its worth, my brother and I turned out pretty good.

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#7 MsGems

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 10:42 AM

My dad was a single dad for the majority of our childhood too, Liza. He told me recently that when he and mum seperated, he told her that he didn't care what she took, all he wanted was my sister and I and his truck (laugh.gif). When he told me that, I replied that I was so grateful for him doing that.
I'm pretty lucky to have such a great single parent role model smile.gif Single parenting is still darn tough at times!

As for how I cope? I just do. I amaze myself at times, and I don't doubt that this journey would be vastly different, but not necessarily better, if P hadn't been such a surprise. I think I'm actually coping better in this situation than if I had've had time to 'prepare'!!
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Posted 31 May 2010 - 11:11 AM

Whilst I am not a single mum anymore, I was for a number of years before Jon and I got together, and I do know what it is like, so just wanted to show my support. I actually found my time as a sole parent very positive and empowering, and it was hard to let go of it even in the face of finding the right person to share it with! It was hard at times not having the day to day support and sharing of a good partner, but a lot easier than trying to do it with the wrong partner.

Thinking of you all, hope you find lots of support here.

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 11:47 AM

I just wanted to pop my head in and say hi and offer my support to you guys too..

My mum was a single parent and I know alot of my friends are...

I know Gem I think about how you are doing almost everyday.

Love love. And I think you all (so far who have joined) ANd those who join in the future, are absoutlely amazing.
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Posted 31 May 2010 - 12:28 PM

I've been a single mum since my son was 10months old.

While I have my parents as support it's hard, especially bed/night time when all I want to do is crash in front of the telly.

My little man is 2.5 now and such a little angel wub.gif I'm so glad I got out of a bad relationship

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 02:29 PM

Hey Gems wub.gif

I saw this post about an hour ago and didn't reply and I keep getting drawn to it for some reason, lol! I don't know if I was ever classified as a 'single mother' - I know I was in a marriage that didn't work out, but Logan has always had his father in his life, just not in the same family dynamic that he was born into I suppose. That being said though, there were still many times where I felt alone and I also think at times I felt inadequate as a mother - it wasn't easy, but I can now appreciate where I've come from and I have a whole new outlook on my current life.

I wish (back then), that there were more people in my life who understood the inner goblins of motherhood and I think because of that, I got pulled in so many different directions and it took so long for me to gain stability. I just had no idea who I was... so being a mother amongst that was just a bit of a struggle!

I'm more than happy to offer any input in here, even though I'm no longer a 'single' mother. I honestly believe that a support network at this stage of our lives are vital to our own sanity laugh.gif

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Posted 31 May 2010 - 08:13 PM

Hi Gemma and everyone else smile.gif

I'm a mummy and I'm single! I've been on my own since my son was 5 months old and it sure has it's up's and downs! I remember in the early days I found the hardest part was actually not having anyone to share the joy's with sleep.gif No-one to call when my son rolled/crawled/walked/pooed after a long wait laugh.gif etc. No-one to de-brief with at the end of a long day!

It does get easier though - or maybe you just get used to it!

I find the politics of an unreasonable XH the hardest part to manage now. But perhaps that's another thread altogether... laugh.gif
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Posted 31 May 2010 - 08:19 PM

Hi Ladies,
Just another one offering my support. I was a single mum from the time my son was born till he was 4 years old so i understand how difficult but rewarding it can be!
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Posted 02 June 2010 - 02:46 PM

Well. It would seem I am here too.

I've done the single parent thing before. But not with an 11 year old, a 19 month old and another on the way.

what the hell am I going to do????
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Posted 02 June 2010 - 02:58 PM

Count me in smile.gif

I've been a SM since my DS was 2yrs and my DD was 2months.

Just wanted to have a whinge ph34r.gif

If I see this: "I know what it's like because my DH works FIFO, or long hours, or blah blah so I'm practically a single mum myself...." one more time, I may scream!! mad.gif

No that's bullshit. You don't know what it's like at all. GRRRRRRRRRR.

It's like me saying, "oh one day I was really down in the dumps, so I know what's it's like to have PND" dry.gif

Anyhoo I'm not generally pissed off (all the time tongue.gif) but this one really gets my goat!




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