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#1 Framboise

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Posted 05 May 2010 - 08:39 AM

Just wondering if any one else has noticed sleep regression and clinginess starting round the second birthday. My daycare says it is quite common. Last three nights here have been a nightmare and Harry has ALWAYS been a good wee sleeper.

Now he INSISTS on me sitting with him till he falls asleep (making a rod for my own back I'm sure). And he is now waking round midnight and then screaming and crying for ME (refuses Daddy) saying "Mummy there" and pointing at the end of the bed for me to sit. Last night he cried on and off from 11.40 till 1.30 blink.gif I went in every 10 mins or so....but he cried and carried on throwing himself round sobbing. He finally fell off the bed so I turned on the light...went and had a long talk to him and then sat there till he finally fell asleep. Still woke at 5.50am today so is grumpy!!!!!

Gah.

Has been fine during the day but a bit grumpy and clingy leaving daycare.

Can you do controlled crying at this age - seems SO much harder now he is talking.

Think I just need a moan because I'm so tired
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Posted 05 May 2010 - 09:19 AM

Rose has never had issues during the night but Eddie goes through little stages.

I wouldn't be doing cc with a 2 year old. He can understand you so I would be coming up with a plan that you are happy with, and explaining it to him. Don't worry too much about habits. For aaages Eddie insisted on one of us sitting in the chair in his room while he went to sleep during the day (but not at night) and then suddenly he was fine on his own again and will lie there singing and chatting before he goes to sleep. I was actually enjoying the little lunchtime doze in the armchair so I'm a bit disappointed laugh.gif

I think their imaginations are really forming at this age so I wouldn't discount fears or bad dreams. Perhaps a night light, or leaving the door open would help? Does he take a stuffed animal to bed? Or a torch by his bed?

Eddie had the height of his clinginess around 18 months. His tiredness is probably adding to the clinginess.

Moan away - we all need it from time to time smile.gif
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Posted 05 May 2010 - 09:51 AM

We hit it with Will a few months ago - so around 28 months. I think it is/was a combo of age and realising that Angus was permanent (and starting to get more of a personality etc).

He wouldn't let DH put him to bed, was always asking for me to do it etc (and that's highly unusual - he has never had a problem with anyone putting him to bed).

They don't recommend CC for this age. You could try the camping out method - I had to do it a few nights (it didn't take weeks for us to get through, perhaps 'cause we started this approach straight away??).

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Posted 06 May 2010 - 10:43 AM

yep been there sometime last year. We were laying on her bed for a while......so long that we were starting to fall asleep laugh.gif

Also the random wake ups screaming/crying. Lucky for me most of the time she is screaming out for hubby since J came along biggrin.gif Not good if he is working, though I think she knows when he is working and calls me.

ETA: I would try not to turn on the light. Either invest in a hand held light you can carry with you, or turn the closest light on that is nearest to his bedroom door, but still have the door partially closed while you are in there so that you can both see a little bit, but it's still dark and not bright.

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Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:11 AM

Yes we had this too as this is the age of nightmares and and scary monsters under the bed. I find this happens with Raya right before we see another explosion in her vocab.

And yes only mummy will do in our household as well
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Posted 06 May 2010 - 12:20 PM

This has started in our household within the last 2 weeks. Jem used to go to sleep no worries. Say goodnight and close the door. Now we have to have the door open which may result in sleep but lately she has been getting hysterical and asking us to "Lay down" with her.

She's also waking through the night crying and won't go back to sleep until we lay down with her and because we're tired we do and of course, we go to sleep.

Nightmares & being clingy were some thoughts as to what it may have been. We are going to get her a night light and see if that helps. I'm happy to lay down with her if it's just a stage but I don't want it to be a forever thing which is what I'm worried it might turn into.

So glad we're not the only ones experiencing it.

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Posted 06 May 2010 - 03:51 PM

Interesting to read this.

We have had more problems with Cate of late too (she is 28 months now). Has been a pain in the butt to get to bed but once there is happy to go to sleep on her own. But then the last few nights she has woken at random times crying. Not hysterical or scared sounding - just crying. I go up and make sure she is OK and say it is still night time and to have a nice big sleep and cuddles with ted. So far she has gone back to sleep. Hoping it doesn't get too much worse as she wakes Charlie when she does it.

I have had a few people say it could be her finally realising Charlie is sticking around now that he is 5 months old.
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Posted 11 May 2010 - 08:25 AM

Sara, Taylor has been a terror lately too. Started when she got sick and then she has just continued it, like it has become habit, but we are slowly getting somewhere with it I think.


I just wanted to add, that although they say not to use any CIO methods........there does come a point, at least with Taylor, that we had to say enough is enough, as like I said before, it eventually became a habit with her, not a stage she was going through that we had to help her through.

So our bed times now when she starts the delay tactics is, whatever she does or says, we reply with, have a nice sleep Taylor, I love you. So when she says, I'm going to sit up, I say that, then she might try something else, so I say it again. Even if she starts to get out of bed, I say it and then I leave. In the last few nights (apart from last night where she went to bed perfectly) she has only screamed out for 30 seconds or less, then silence and gone to sleep)

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Posted 17 May 2010 - 09:03 AM

Ah, it is a sleep regression! Excellent, that means it will pass. Oliver has started waking up once in the night and trying to get into our bed (no way buddy!) then waking for the day at 5am. We've had bedtime delay tactics and drama for a few weeks already.

So far I've introduced a nightlight which stays on all night (I tried turning it off at midnight when I went to bed and he'd wake sobbing so now it stays on), upping the blankets on his bed, setting the heating to come on at 4.30am, and cutting his nap right back. Last night he actually slept til 7am which is great btu we were very busy yesterday. Will see how tonight goes I guess.
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Posted 17 May 2010 - 03:22 PM

I nearly forgot I even posted this!!!

Thanks for all the replys. I'm really glad it does seem to be a normal thing. I guess now they know exactly what is up.

I was thinking of introducing a nightlight - we had a teddybear one. I'm wondering if we say that he can have that on instead of us in the room? Not sure if he'll just end up wanting the teddy in bed though. Guess we can try.

Last night he lay in the hallway for 15 mins crying while we ate dinner. Then I took him back, cuddled him for 2 mins standing up and if he didn't fall asleep in my arms.

*sigh* thanks for the support girls!
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Posted 01 June 2010 - 01:40 PM

My 2 yr old is clingy to me and its driving me NUTS!
I am the only one that can put her to bed and do most things with her.
If daddy tries she just screams going "mummy do mummy do".
I have put her in day care to try break it and its worked a bit. Getting Daddy to come in and tick her with me sometimes as well to hopefully break it before bub arrives!
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Posted 20 June 2010 - 11:12 AM

Well, I am surprised to be reading that this is a common problem. I just thought that with all the disruption in our lives (we have been on a 10 week holiday and just got back) that our little boy wasn't coping.

The K-man is displaying exactly the same behaviours: wanting to be cuddled to sleep, some delay tactics happening too, waking up and screaming during the night and needing more cuddles. I was thinking of trying some controlled comforting as it worked in the past, but thanks to whoever said that it shouldn't be done after 2yo. I will read up on the camping out method.

One of my friends has just started using a night light with her 26 month old. I am wondering if it might help us. He doesn't like the door being open and yelled for us to shut it the other night!

And Sarah, your description of that night a month ago was almost word for word us last night! Has it got better?
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