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#1 Sariele

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Posted 17 March 2010 - 11:12 AM

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#2 Malibustaci

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Posted 17 March 2010 - 11:50 AM

I have not read the book - but saw the author interviewed on one of the morning shows - from what she said I think what she says makes a lot of sense! I realised when heading towards my late twenties that my wish list was pretty unrealistic and re-evaluated what was actually important to me.

Now I am married and having a child with my Mr Perfect. He has his flaws but who doesn't! When we met he was quite opposite to what I would usually look for physically in a guy - however that seemed unimportant at the time as his intelligence, sense of humour, manners, sensitivity etc was what stood out. All of those attributes will last a lifetime smile.gif looks etc wont!

Some are my good friends are now heading towards mid thirties and are amazing woman who just can not find partners. One who refuses to change what she is looking for and has said to me 'I've come this far looking for my perfect man, why should I alter/lower my standards just because I am older!' However - I don't see this as lowering standards, just reassessing what is really important you! I guess this is why she is still single.
Anyway I digress somewhat - but wanted to wish you well and I look forward to hearing an update from you on this new man! Good luck!


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#3 Lollies

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Posted 17 March 2010 - 12:49 PM

I haven't read it, but it sounds like a good read. I am not single, but I did spend a long time single & have lots of single girlfriends. I have given one of my long term single friends advice over the years & often my direction was that we put such high standards in place that we end up overlooking really terrific guys. If I stuck to my standards, I would never have met & fallen in love with my absulutely perfect (for me) husband. I guess it's the difference between lowering your standards to a loser because you're desperate or figuring out what is really important in a person & future relationship.
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Posted 17 March 2010 - 01:05 PM

I have not read the this book. But have started reading "Committed" by Elizabeth Gilbert. Giving my recently single status I have pondered alot on what I'm looking for in my next partner. I'm very much up and down like a see saw though.

For me physical attraction is important. But I'm also not in a place where I'm actively seeking another partner as this is my "ME" time. However when that point comes ultimately I hope to find someone who I do have a good deal of physical attraction for. But I do also know that the person I am with next will be the person that I am meant to be with and may not meet all of my criteria wink.gif




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