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#1 SmittenKitten

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Posted 02 March 2010 - 06:11 PM

I have such a fear that something will go wrong I have gone out of my way to have extra scans and to hear bubbas heartbeat more often.

Ladies I need the strengh not to ask for a scan or hear the heartbeat at my appointment with obs tomorrow. I saw bub a week ago and it was fine.....

Help me find the strengh....!!
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Posted 02 March 2010 - 06:43 PM

I heard the heartbeat at every single appointment smile.gif It's such a simple quick thing, and they love to do it.

Start small with baby steps....say no to the scan tomorrow, and then see if you can say no to the doppler next time.

You are doing a great job of being a Mummy to Be smile.gif

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Posted 02 March 2010 - 06:53 PM

and if they dont listen to the heartbeat?? Do I just not ask!!! I dont know if I have that willpower!
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Posted 02 March 2010 - 07:54 PM

They checked the heart beat at every appointment I had. As far as I'm concerned there is nothing wrong with that, in fact its a good way to check bubba is doing fine. Its quick and easy and should be done.

Enjoy it. Its a wonderful sound to hear especially at the stage you are at and still can't believe there is a little being inside. Once you start feeling bubba kick you will relax a bit more because you will have that constant reassurance. Good luck tomorrow.

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Posted 02 March 2010 - 08:02 PM

Beth you are normal in your fears honey. I must admit that every single appointment I had I had fears too and the reassurance of hearing that heartbeat and seeing bubba on the scans is wonderful.

Thankfully now I have the added reassurance of feeling this little tyke move around inside of me, but you can bet your bottom dollar that when I have my next appointment that I will be listening advidly for that precious heartbeat sound.

Try not to stress your self further by stressing that you are stressing too much smile.gif

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Posted 02 March 2010 - 08:09 PM

I know I am a natural worrier! But I guess EVERYONE has gathered that by now! I guess im just a little paranoid because when I had my last doppler experience they could not find the heartbeat and I paniced and then when I requested a scan and saw that heartbeat all I was doing was saying "thankyou thankyou smallest!!"

I know fears are natural but the idea of this baby not being in my arms in August due to something going wrong would kill me.
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 11:40 AM

Smitten - I know what it's like to be a natural worrier. I keep being told that I'm small for 19 weeks which put doubt in my mind. I had the morph scan this morning and I'm measuring 3 days ahead!

As for the heartbeat, at each OB appointment they've checked. The last 2 have been tricky trying to find it but that is because I have an anterior placenta and also bubs is a squirmer.

It's natural to worry - but don't let it override the exerience of being pregnant.
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 02:05 PM

Well had my appointment! All my tests were great my triscomy?? (sp) was 1:100,000 which was fantastic and everything else seemed perfect. I was then asked to climb up on the bed so she could take my BP and hear HB. Righteo... I can do this,

158BPM! Love my beautiful cooperating smallest! wub.gif
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 02:21 PM

Beth I'm sorry I didn't see this yesterday - but I would not have come in here to say to fight that anxiety - I would have told you to go with it. From this point I did not have ADDITIONAL appointments or tests but I NEEDED the reassurance at every appt. And you know what, that IS okay. and it IS okay to worry that the baby won't be okay. It's no different when bub arrives and you worry if you go to the toilet and they cry if they will feel sad, you worry they won't be okay when you duck out to the shops for an hour. It's okay that they are in utero and you have no way of knowing if they are okay or not!

All I can say is have the strength not to go outside of these appointments unless you really feel there is foundation to it and then its not about giving in to the fear/anxiety its about getting the reassurance you need to keep going. you are doing so well, you came here and you yourself said that you didn't need more - bub was okay a week ago. So clearly you are going okay with the anxiety honey.

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Posted 03 March 2010 - 04:35 PM

Thanks Heather! Of course I did not expect you to see this yesterday! U have just given birth!!! I am even suprised you are on today! AMAZING! wub.gif

So happy for you!! Your story and your strengh and all you anxieties you had give me hope and reassureance then smallest is going to be just as amazing as Angus! wub.gif
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 08:51 PM

Oh SK.... Reading your posts takes me back to my first pregnancy!! I just read them, and think "that's me"!! Well that was me, things are different this time!!

If it reduces your anxiety and your obs is happy for you to have the frequent scans and heartbeat checks I would go with it smile.gif Stress is not good for bubs (god knows how Emily came out in one piece!!!) so if it relaxes you then it's fine!

I am assuming you are still seeing your psych?? Are you talking through your anxiety that things won't be OK? I felt exactly the same way but didn't realise or seek help and things just snowballed after Emily's birth and for the first 18 months so as long as you are still seeking the support that you need from the professionals I don't think it's worth beating yourself up about not asking for heartbeat checks smile.gif

Glad everything is OK!!!
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