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#1 atua

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 09:49 AM

to say devastated would be an understatement sad.gif

due to lack of support (she currently has over 100 patients on the books) she has been forced to quit - she cannot take the personal risk that she doesn't answer that one call where someone is on the edge and something happens - which i understand completely.

the pysch is still there...for now....otherwise she has details for a private pysch for me - i don't want someone else, i don't want to have to feel comfortable again - i understand why she has made the choice she has made (which hasn't been an easy one to make) but for my own selfish reasons i don't want her to go.

who will advocate for me now with the hospital? do i really believe her when she says she believes i will be ok?

amazing the level of trust you can put into a great carer.
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 10:14 AM

Wow & bugger. I have no advice so i'm not much use am i? Hope you feel comfortable with your new counsellor quickly xx

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 10:17 AM

sad.gif I'm so sorry. I have nothing constructive to say, just that i know how devastated i would be if i had to stop seeing mine.

Heck - my boss just rang me to say she's leaving for another job and i'm balling as she's my 'rock' at work...

I hope that you can feel comfortable with the care they can offer you xx

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 10:21 AM

big hugs sam.. Thats f$%ked.

I would be feeling the exact same as you if I lost my counsellor too. I too can understand her reasoning for leaving, really for her to be doing that workload by herself is ridiculous.

thinking of you hun, and I know it's not the same, but I'm always here if you ever ever need..

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 11:07 AM

thanks lovies - i'll be ok, just amazing the difference someone that gives a shit can actually make - she's confident i'll be ok, *I* just need to have that confidence as well - that and i trust her referring me to someone else as i know she wouldn't refer to just anyone iykwim.


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Posted 04 February 2010 - 03:51 PM

What a crap! I would be so shitty if my psych up and left too. I am sure she has sent you to someone fantatic and hopefully in no time you will have that strong bond and feel comfortable as you did with your previous one. biggrin.gif
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#7 atua

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 04:27 PM

i understand completely her reasons for quitting and honestly i don't blame her in the least - she's devastated to be leaving clients but i trust her judgement when it comes to other professionals.

plus if it comes to it i can still see the psych where i am now for the interim - just means i have to make the next 2 weeks REALLY count.


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Posted 04 February 2010 - 07:48 PM

I agree Sam, I was sad to say goodbye to mine when we left for overseas.

I am glad you had her and she was awesome for as long as you did and I agree - make the last sessions count.

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 07:59 PM

I'm so sorry she's left, Sam sad.gif I hate the thought of having to explain everything to someone else when mine already knows my background. She's lovely if you want a name. I see her through the mental health plan and she's local every Wednesday. I hope you can find someone else you're comfortable with.

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Posted 10 February 2010 - 04:04 PM

i found out today i will be her last patient next week - i asked her if she was saving the best for last laugh.gif

she's referred me to a couple of different ppl but one really stands out in her mind - now to go get the mental health plan drawn up with my GP and get it all sorted out.
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Posted 06 March 2010 - 08:12 PM

had my first session today.

what a difference a different perspective makes on the situation.

i'm not necessarily 'classically' depressed nor suffering from anxiety - nah that would be too 'easy' to treat.

bugger that - how does bi-polar sit instead? on the mania scale i'm sitting currently at 45 - moderate/severe maniac state - wonderful, just wonderful - i've been 'high', speeding (thoughts/speech/energy), functioning with minimal sleep, no appetite, easily agitated for the last 2 days.

i've started coming down (i've had these suspicions for a while myself) now and i'm left with the great thoughts that come from that - from what i understand bi-polar can be left undiagnosed for 10+ years before someone picks it up - what have i done to my children already? what impact will it have on them in the future? will my relationship survive?

you gotta love a low.
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Posted 06 March 2010 - 08:20 PM

Oh Sam sad.gif

My brother has bipolar, diagnosed 7 years ago and probably had it for quite some time before that (he was too busy fighting cancer at the time sad.gif ) He has beautiful children aged 12 and 9, and a marriage that is stronger than ever.

He takes the meds, does the therapy, stopped drinking, has recently started going to the gym. And he is doing really well.

I'm not trying to minimise it, but I want you to know that it isn't the end either. You are so strong. You will get through this, and your little family (not so little pretty soon smile.gif ) will love you and find so much inspiration from your courage, honesty and strength.

Much love, my PM box is always open.
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Posted 06 March 2010 - 08:31 PM

Sam, perhaps its a good things it's been diagnosed now rather than 10+ yrs from now? I don't know much about bipolar so i don't have any helpful advice, but i wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you & i hope this new counsellor is a blessing rather than a curse.

Your an amazingly strong woman, you can do this, you can manage bipolar & still have a wonderful marriage, amazing children & an awesome life smile.gif


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Posted 06 March 2010 - 09:04 PM

thanks lovelies - the thought of being on meds forever doesn't worry me (i already knew that might be the case with this being the 3rd go round on AD's) - apparently it's been noted by my prev counsellor as a possibility for close to the last 5 years (if not longer) - corresponds with when my dad died so that makes sense (major life moment and all).

i just have to work harder on finding my triggers and keeping them to a minimal and learn how to stop myself going too high to ease the lows as well.
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Posted 06 March 2010 - 09:33 PM

I know it is a shock mate but a correct diagnosis and treatment will make all the difference.

Also I like the saying "don't question in the dark what you learnt in the light". You are an awesome mum and and wife who rocks it out each day and there is no way you are impacting badly onyour family. It is the low talking - remember that.

My husband is a mental health nurse so if you have any questions my PM box is open
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