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#1 SmittenKitten

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Posted 30 January 2010 - 01:34 PM

sad.gif I had the most awful dream last night about our baby and today I have woken up and my morning sickness which has been awful for weeks has just subsided and am feeling not to bad. I just can't help feeling petrified.

I said to DH last night I feel like I am giving my baby more medication then I am food and that even thought I have seen heartbeat 2 times now and it wiggling around I am dreading my NT scan. I just want this baby to be ok.

I know stress is not helping my anxiety but I just need to vent. sad.gif

Maybe its just the dream that got to me.
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Posted 30 January 2010 - 01:47 PM

I think dreams are our way to vent our biggest worries, then after we have them it freaks us out even more!

I am sure 'smallest' is just fine, if you can still feel kicking and so on you shouldnt worry...and celebrate the sickness subsiding, you are at the point of feeling normal again!

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Posted 30 January 2010 - 01:48 PM

Anxiety is normal and fear for your baby is also normal. When I was pregnant with Ryan I had some dreams that also scared me lots - they can be so real and frightening. As for your morning sickness it is normal for it to subside off and on from 10 weeks - in my Feb mummies group one of the girls MS went away completely I think from around 10 weeks.



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Posted 30 January 2010 - 01:52 PM

our dreams are our sub-concious playing the fears that we don't want to talk about (often) IRL - they can be a healthy way of 'releasing' our thoughts and issues.

i felt the same with molly - she's a zofran baby, and is perfectly fine (albeit a mountain goat laugh.gif) born at 8lb 4 and waited around an extra 9 days she liked it in there so much.

this monkey - is a combo of zofran and zoloft - it was honestly sweet relief at 20w when the vomiting stopped and i could eat again.

i think it's normal to worry when we are taking any form of medication in pregnancy to feel concerned about the impact it may have on our unborn - but look at the risks of NOT taking the medication - to me these ALWAYS outweigh the potential (and remember they are only potential risks as conclusive studies cannot be done in pregnancy) risks of being on medication.
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Posted 31 January 2010 - 07:38 AM

Okay sweetheart, you are 10.5 weeks it is quite reasonable to expect typical morning sickness to start to ease off. Depending on what hormone has been making you feel sick progesterone will be dropping as the placenta has taken over so the progesterone which may have been causing the morning sickness is dropping and hence you will feel better.

Secondly, I had LOTS of dreams like that this pregnancy and it didn't mean the baby wasn't okay. I was petrified at the 12 week scan and convinced it wouldn't be okay. All I can suggest is keep busy until this scan and if you are being cared for by an obs give them a call and see if you can have a quick appt, I hate anxiety in pregnancy and am all for whatever needs to be done to reduce it.

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Posted 31 January 2010 - 03:39 PM

It is ok to feel that way. I felt like that and still do. I had to have a scan a week before my 12 week scan and I was still nervous as all heck when I went in for it. I still think something terrible is going to happen and for me I have a feeling that it won't end until this baby is delivered happy and healthy and I can see it in the flesh.

I am sure your scan will go well!@


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Posted 31 January 2010 - 03:47 PM

smile.gif Thanks ladies, am feeling a little better today MS hit me last night so that was sort of nice but also not nice! Has been quite good today so I am hoping it is just easing off a bit considering it started at 4 weeks.

I know it totaly normal to feel scared and I accept that and KAAM I think your right, until I hold my baby there is always going to be that sense of fear.

I wish I could see bubs all day everyday!! wub.gif Everyone IRL keeps telling me I am silly to get worried but I just can't help it.

Off to Psych tomorrow so will have a good vent then. smile.gif
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 01:33 PM

Well it all hit me this morning. I thought I had it under control but the negative thought kept coming back and back. So Heather I took your advice called my OB midwife and went in to see her. Got to hear the heartbeat through the doppler 166BPM and my mind is now at ease.

I did know how anxiety can make you so uncontrolable in situations. I have just felt so alone and so scared that I have let my fear take over my entire body.

My baby is going to be ok....I have to keep thinking this. wub.gif
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 02:41 PM

Sweetheart that is one strong baby in there for them to pick it up with a doppler. I am so pleased you called them. You should record it on your phone and listen to it when the anxiety is getting control of you. You might have dealt with anxiety before but you have not dealt with it in relation to a baby growing inside you, as a prospectant mother...its a whole new ball game.

Call them anytime the anxiety gets the better of you, whilst the anxiety is not going to do anything to your baby it will eat you up and that is just something you don't have to live with.

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 02:45 PM

QUOTE(Heather :) @ Feb 4 2010, 03:41 PM) View Post

Sweetheart that is one strong baby in there for them to pick it up with a doppler. I am so pleased you called them. You should record it on your phone and listen to it when the anxiety is getting control of you. You might have dealt with anxiety before but you have not dealt with it in relation to a baby growing inside you, as a prospectant mother...its a whole new ball game.

Call them anytime the anxiety gets the better of you, whilst the anxiety is not going to do anything to your baby it will eat you up and that is just something you don't have to live with.

U are an amazing woman! wub.gif
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 03:55 PM

Oh lovey! Im so sorry you are feeling like this!

Give me a call if you need to!

Have you thought about hiring a doplar so you can listen ot bubs heart at home? Maybe that would help with the anxiety and you could have some control over it
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 04:25 PM

i'm glad you called them - stress and anxiety is not good for you nor your growing baby.

i don't know necessarily a doppler would help - seeing as though trained professionals can sometimes have issues finding heart beats by doppler it might add to your stress iykwim.
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 04:32 PM

Thanks Brenno. Love ya wub.gif

I have definatly thought about a doppler but I think it would make my stress worse, plus I would be useless at finding anything, tongue.gif and I think just having my scans when needed are what might keep me a little bit more sane. Plus the midwife said anytime I am feeling overwhelmed come in and see her. So that was lovely.
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 04:34 PM

It's perfectly normal to feel scared for that tiny baby within. I had chronic food poisoning at 10 weeks and almost vomited my life away. But my bubba was just fine, they're well protected in there.

It's good you're still going to a psych to work through your anxiety. Sleep deprivation is a merciless, cruel torture that trebles even the most pitiful things so it's important to be as mentally ready as you can be. It's one of life's ironies that when you need to be your most alert and care for a tiny baby, you're at your most fragile.

Re your morning sickness, did you see my suggestion to stop taking pregnancy vitamins for a few days to see if that helps? That is if you're taking them that is. My MS, even off the pills, went from week 5 - 23 so it was a hard slog.

Hope you don't get any more dreams like this.
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Posted 04 February 2010 - 04:40 PM

QUOTE(nephthys @ Feb 4 2010, 05:34 PM) View Post

It's perfectly normal to feel scared for that tiny baby within. I had chronic food poisoning at 10 weeks and almost vomited my life away. But my bubba was just fine, they're well protected in there.

It's good you're still going to a psych to work through your anxiety. Sleep deprivation is a merciless, cruel torture that trebles even the most pitiful things so it's important to be as mentally ready as you can be. It's one of life's ironies that when you need to be your most alert and care for a tiny baby, you're at your most fragile.

Re your morning sickness, did you see my suggestion to stop taking pregnancy vitamins for a few days to see if that helps? That is if you're taking them that is. My MS, even off the pills, went from week 5 - 23 so it was a hard slog.

Hope you don't get any more dreams like this.


I did see it, so sorry my mind has been in a haze! I am not taking vitamins anyway only Folate, (cant really take any with anti anxiety meds I am on) Elevit made me sick even when I was not pregnant!!! Its starting to ease during the day and just mainly at night, I am going to ATTEMPT my first meal tonight(Cept for the pizza I ate the other night!) since Christmas Day!!! a jacket potato.....Smallest is a bit sick of Fruit toast, apples and salads at the moment... tongue.gif
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