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#1 _Alana_

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Posted 29 January 2010 - 05:38 PM

Is there a time frame for PND to start, is it too late to have it hit at almost nine months ? sad.gif thankyou.
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Posted 29 January 2010 - 05:55 PM

Hi Alana

Are you okay?

If I am honest I started having symptoms when Henry was about four months old. It got much worse when he was six months old, when I was diagnosed, and continued until he was 11 months old when I was medicated.

PND can be diagnosed anytime until your baby is one.

Beyond Blue have some great information, and you can see your GP to get some free sessions with a psychologist. I found that medication, exercise and counselling have really helped.

Take care, and if you ever need a chat I am here xx

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Posted 29 January 2010 - 06:38 PM

Alana - I'm here if you need.
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Posted 29 January 2010 - 06:54 PM

sad.gif Are you ok Alana?? I hope all is ok sweety. I was told it can occur anytime up until 12months.
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Posted 29 January 2010 - 07:18 PM

I was treated for PND at a private hospital and they say it can happen any time from birth to 2 years.

I hope you are okay? What is happening?
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Posted 29 January 2010 - 07:39 PM

Alana- I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling. The girls above have given some great advice, we are here to listen when you are ready smile.gif

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Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:01 PM

Thankyou. I have just had a great chat with two of my fellow april mummies on facebook and whilst i feel very very silly for being so down i know deep down that the feelings that are lingering around arent right and shouldnt be there but i cant shake them.

I'll ramble on about what im feeling, sorry if you think they are quite unjust in being PND, it may not be that, i dont want to trivalise something so serious.

For a few months i have been very jealous that our Son chooses his father over me. Ive ever circumstance - sick, happy, hungry. Over the time it had turned from jealousy into resentment to both OH and Ry. ( Yer great mum blame a 8 month old baby hey! )

All morning and night when he is with me - he is complaining ( in a baby way ). ATM he isnt eating for me, playing for me, doing much of anything for me other than crying out for his daddy - even when in my arms.

He goes to school 4 days a week ( yes im very guilty for this sad.gif whether or not he understands as ppl like to tell me, i have to and i wont forgive myself for that ) and he has the BEST time - somes home and he is a pain. He is more happpy to stay at daycare than be with me.

If i hadnt stopped breastfeeding for my own freedom and lack of trying to boost supply he would be more attached to me. Selfish me.

I work in childcare. I feel unattached to my son. I love him sooooo much, i tired so hard to have him, i want/ wanted him more than life itself - but i sit here every afternoon waiting for his 'mum' to pick him up like the other children at school. Maybe if he cried for me, just once, or chose me over his dad, just once, i would feel like his mummy - not his carer until daddy gets home.

He was having such a wobbly during dinner tonight that i wanted to slap him - i sat and cried. OH works till 9:30pm every night - but the two nights a weeks he is home dinner time is a dream.

I just dont know - it sounds like petty crap but i feel so hurt and i dont know - unloved? I guess too it doesnt help that no one not even OH ( even though he will be having all this thrown on him tonight ) know that it actually upsets me and it the 'joke' - ' give ry to his daddy he loves his daddy so much ' etc.

i guess thats enough rambling for tonight.

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Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:15 PM

Oh you poor thing sad.gif I have no advice you, however I do know what it is like to be basically ignored by your child.

I too have a daddy's boy, it has taken 3 & 1/2 long years before he started wanting/asking for me rather than daddy. Daddy used to go to work and I would then battle him for over 1/2 hour just to get him to eat breakfast, whereas on weekends it would take 5 minutes. I know what you mean about the 'joking' about only behaving for Daddy, it is so hard sad.gif Daycare nearly broke me one day when his carers and I were talking about how he adores Daddy and runs to him at the end of the day, but me, well he looked at me and kept playing sad.gif It has only been in the last couple of months that I am finally being told that he likes me and actually runs to me at the end of a daycare day. Not every day but I will take it when I can!!!


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Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:26 PM

Hi Alana

Would you believe that I had a few tears tonight about the same thing? I had a crap day with Aidan, he is starting to chuck tantrums and he says Dadda all the time and not too much Mumma. I breastfed til 4months, I spent every moment with him til he started daycare at 9months. I try to hug him, cuddle him, touch him, tell him he's beautiful all the time. He's just not a cuddly boy - he's too busy...and Daddy is fun and plays rough and tumble games.

Whether you have PND or not, i'm not too sure. Is your general mood effected? There are some tests you can take to evaluate how you are feeling over the course of a few days. You could also have a chat to an understanding GP or Child Health Nurse? A child health nurse might also be able to help with some strategies to help with Ry too.

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Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:30 PM

Hugs Alana. I can imagine that must be hard to watch.
I'm not sure about PND, i don't know enough about it, but it can't hurt to call a hotline or see someone about it?


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Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:31 PM

Hi, first of all, big big hugs.

After reading your post I'm not surprised you feel down and upset and frustrated, and you did the right thing by coming in here to vent to us. Do you have a GP you can trust who you can talk to about possible diagnosis and treatment and support?

I was also told PND can be diagnosed in the first 2 years. With me it started almost instantly when Lauren was born, but I'd been depressed during the pregnancy too - it was just never treated. I've heard other people who have kept on struggling and weren't diagnosed until the second year. It's just so different for everyone.

Do you have any other support at home? Anyone else to confide in? It's so hard too when you're trying to juggle work and motherhood and being a wife and everything else you're supposed to be at this time.

Thinking of you lots
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Posted 29 January 2010 - 08:34 PM

I'm so sorry that you are feeling down at the moment sad.gif - there would be nothing wrong with going to see your GP and seeing if they can refer you on if you wanted to get some professional help. It certainly wouldn't hurt.

I have the opposite issue - a complete mummy's girl - she won't go to my husband at all! Frankly it drives me nuts most of the time, I'm just hoping that one day she will get over it and show us both equal love smile.gif

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Posted 30 January 2010 - 06:05 AM

Thankyou everyone for your replies.

I had a good chat with OH last ngiht and told him everything i feel. He was really good and tried to talk like a Doctor and actually had my laughing and crying.

I feel this is stemed from stopping breastfeeding, with has left me guilty, its also because im so anxious of something happening to him and someone taking him from me that its a real fear. I feel unattached to him lately over the rejection he has given me over his father - which i now have turned my feelings into worthlessness over myself - which are affecting my relationship and my work.

Im off to the doctors now - hopefully will get in first.

thankyou for giving my a place to talk about my feelings smile.gif
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Posted 30 January 2010 - 06:40 AM

I don't have any advice but just wanted to say I am thinking of you x
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Posted 30 January 2010 - 06:54 AM

Oh Sweety, please dont think you are ever alone.... We all have things going on, and i am going thru very similar feelings at the moment, and would love to talk toy uo a bit more about it all.

I hope that the doctor takes you seriously, and that you come out feeling very positive. Hit me up, (send me FB message when your online) and i'll jump on..

Loves to you




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