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#1 Sariele

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Posted 12 December 2009 - 12:17 AM

Hiya,

I've posted a couple of times recently in the "Relationships" thread... well that's all over now, as I found out on the weekend that my bf has slept with someone else. He claims it was once only, and also implied that it was only drink-fuelled kisses and cuddles, but I have so many reasons to believe it was much more than that, and is possibly still continuing.

Worst thing is that the woman in question was a good friend and hugely supported our relationship when we first got together... pretty much orchestrated the night the two of us made it "official" herself. Talk about back-stabbing.

My bf and I parted on friendly (and very emotional) terms this week, because I don't see any point in hating him when it won't change anything or make either of us feel better. Despite this incident of infidelity, he really is a wonderful man... just a crappy boyfriend!

Most of all I'm just sad and disappointed that someone who everyone he knows thinks he has a heart of gold could possibly do this, and that I now realise that you really, really, REALLY can't trust ANYONE to be faithful.

And that completely sucks!

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#2 nephthys

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Posted 12 December 2009 - 07:42 AM

QUOTE(Sariele @ Dec 12 2009, 01:17 AM) View Post

and that I now realise that you really, really, REALLY can't trust ANYONE to be faithful.

And that completely sucks!

Aww sweet, I'm so sorry to hear this. Being betrayed by a cheating partner is the most cruel method of a relationship break-up. I've been through it and it took years before I regained my faith in the male species, so I can empathise with your doubts. I can say that not every man cheats though, keep some hope in that.

Any man who wants to expand his affections outside of his partner is not worthy of your love or energy. Take comfort that he's done the wrong thing and doesn't deserve you.

So be nice to yourself over the next little while. Watch lots of SATC and indulge in some 'you' time. Hopefully your heart will be ready soon to love again.

All the best.


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#3 ***Bella***

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Posted 12 December 2009 - 08:34 AM

I am so sorry Sariele.
It sounds like you are handling it very sensibly and acting very mature. If it was me I think I would be making a massive fuss and behaving in a disgraceful manner...think throwing stuff, smashing his belongings and acting like an idiot!

I wish you all the best and think that some you time is a good idea.




#4 Trishy

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Posted 14 December 2009 - 10:03 PM

QUOTE(nephthys @ Dec 12 2009, 08:42 AM) View Post


Any man who wants to expand his affections outside of his partner is not worthy of your love or energy. Take comfort that he's done the wrong thing and doesn't deserve you.




I totally agree with this. You will find that special one & I promise you will never look back. I've been through a couple of realtionships like this & it's never easy, though it does make you stronger, trust me.

Look after you, that's the most important thing right now.
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#5 tastebud

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Posted 09 September 2010 - 01:15 PM

Can't remember who said it but "Never learn not to love"



ETA just realised this thread is pretty old and OP has probably (hopefully?) moved on from this period!
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#6 Sariele

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Posted 07 December 2010 - 11:32 PM

QUOTE(tastebud @ Sep 9 2010, 01:15 PM) View Post

Can't remember who said it but "Never learn not to love"
ETA just realised this thread is pretty old and OP has probably (hopefully?) moved on from this period!

Hehe, yes, I was bored and stuck my head in here tonight and was surprised to see a fairly recent reply to my year-old post! Yes one year later and I am nine months into a relationship with a man who I adore; he has his faults and is by no means perfect, but he is wonderful and dependable and trustworthy in all the important ways. So my story has had a happy ending I'm pleased to say. Thank you all. smile.gif
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#7 Trishy

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Posted 08 December 2010 - 05:56 PM

Wow, time certainly does fly. That's wonderful, I wish you the best of luck x
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#8 tastebud

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Posted 08 December 2010 - 07:06 PM

Congratulations on learning to love again smile.gif
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