So this is what happiness is!
Posted 09 October 2009 - 07:33 PM
I'm a long time lurker, and I used to go by another name on here when I was married ect.
So yeah, almost separated for 1 year come November.
I think it was a long time coming, and I'm thankful for the people in life and the confidence they've given me.
The only sucky part was I had such a gorgeous wedding! Funny part is, I remember my dad walking me down the path whispering, "Come on, we can run this way!"...
Why don't we ever listen to our parents? LOL
I was the one that called it off, and for the most part I'm never really sad about it. The thing that has been the battle is that he had a bad credit rating, so yes , everything was in my name and still is!
He refuses to pay for our creditcard debt, so I'm struggling with that. We bought a house, but the idiot signed a stat dec stating he didn't want any part of the profit. It seems like a dumb move, however he got to walk away debt free.
He pretty much left me with a house, a couch and dogs. He took all appliances, even MY treadmill which he claimed was his because he bought it for me.
He even smashed my laptop.
He has a car that's in my name, that he currently pays me for every fortnight.
I've thought about lawyers and spoken to them, but sadly they're just too costly.
Part of me just wants to live with the horrible finances because it's hassle free and I'm so so truly happy in my life!
I have a bewtiful new boyfriend that I adore, and it's funny because I never knew love and happiness could really feel this great. I never knew that butterflies in the stomach and jelly legs existed! I thought it was all rubbish that only happened in the movies...
I guess I'm venting here because I have my moments that I get upset and stressed of the horrible financial debt he left me with, and I get mad at myself for wasting so much of my life with him. I was with him for 7 years, but married for 2. However, if things hadn't worked out this way, I wouldn't have met my boy.
Bonus is that I found out that apparently he has a three year old son. Hmm.
Thanks for listening! As it's one of those things you don't want to constantly talk about with your current partner
Posted 09 October 2009 - 08:25 PM
Dont view any of your relationships as a waste of time, they've all happened for a reason and its mostly because there is something that you are required to learn. Look for the lessons and thank your ex-husband for giving them to you. You can now use those newly learnt lessons for your current relationship to make it richer and better then your last.
My PM box is open if you need.
Posted 10 October 2009 - 08:26 AM
I can totally relate to your situation as I was with my ex for 5.5years and put up with so much crap! Now I also look back on the relationship with so much regret. I can honestly say that NOTHING good came of it. No children, no Uni education for me (as he didn't want me to go to Uni and I just didnt), and I got nowhere during the time we were together.
BUT now like you I am free of that and have found happiness.
Posted 10 October 2009 - 09:36 AM
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