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#16 Camigirl72

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Posted 19 October 2009 - 12:27 PM

Gee, Isnt all this Horrible. I feel really bad for my mother, she had to go through this! Later in my years I really discovered how stubborn, arrogant and rude my fathers family was...

My Dad was the Baby of the family, and my relatives are very protective and seriously dont like anyone unless they choose the partner for you. My mother was always put down and told what to do with things like her hair, during pregnancy and raising me and my siblings.... Of course my mother eventually got severly depressed with POstNatel Drepression which runs in our family!

After that episode my aunties call my mother Aunty Loopy when they talk to there Grandchildren. WTF??? There is absolutly nothing wrong with my mother and she raised me exactly how I want to raise my future children.

My cousin (Who is a good 20yrs older then me, as dad is the baby of the family) was told not to settle down with the gorgeous girl he was with, so he left her, shortly after his mother and my aunties had a girl lined up for him... they have three children together and he has just filed for divorse. You cant force people together, My father unfortunatly doesnt have the balls! unsure.gif can i say that, lol so my mother really doesnt get much support, Untill her Daughter inherited her Grandmothers brute force, so the family gets it from me!! lol There my family so they cant disown me!!

Oh, but I'm in for it!! My partners Mother is a shocker.... The BIL (soon to be) had asked his partner to marry him, only soon to discover she was pregnant (lovely girl) well on the BIL wedding day, his mother asked him if he was sure he should marry her, and he shouldnt just cuz she's pregnant!! WTF?? the BIL cut her down, so did the FIL!

Finally I started dating my Partner (Craig) I would sit in the Kitchen while the MIL spoke badly of not only the SIL boyfriends, but the BIL new wife (who had actually tried to commit suisde, while heavily pregnant for not feeling accepted into the family) She just shrugged and said "Oh she;s such a drama queen, just leave her"
and she also mouthed poorly of a lovely girl who was engaged to Craig's best friend! she is absolutly shocking, I always wondered what she said about me!!

Well, I cant say anything to this woman with out her making a big deal out of it!! She is sooo dramatic... Yes she did have breast Canser a few years ago (twice) but no excuses now to get sympathy!! She never visits when I am home, she schedules it so I am at work. One day I come home late and she was quick to leave!!

I was shocked when she had hold of the BIL's toddler and she actually passed her to me and siad go to "Aunty Caitlin" Thats New!!

The Inlaws can really have control of there Children and they can gang up on you, which I hate... Craig's mother may drop a few bad bomb shells everynow and then, but I wont let her get to me like they did the BIL's wife. Nor will I have what happened to my mother happen to me!!

well Goodluck to the lot of yous... wish me luck too... wacko.gif
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Posted 19 October 2009 - 02:03 PM

I'm pretty sure I could write a book on my inlaws. I've had to confront them many times, over many issues but I've only ever stepped up to the plate when they have really hurt my husband. I won't have anyone do that.

I've been firm and I've set boundaries with them and to be honest, its finally worked after nearly 6 years. They now respect my role in my husband's life and the decisions we make. Its been awkward after I've blown my stack, but things get back to normal again.
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Posted 19 October 2009 - 07:26 PM

I havent as yet as there hasnt been one major issue, only little ones, and in that case i just distance myself from them, until they stop "annoying" me. The fact they live 100m down the road and that DH works for them doesnt really help

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Posted 19 October 2009 - 09:53 PM

I agree with Megz - If i start i might never stop!!!

The day is coming when i will have it out with MIL. I see that day in the near future. She treats my husband like utter shit which i could handle when it was just us. Now she is treating my childen like shit which i will not tolerate. Riley is 8 weeks old now and she has seen him a total of 2 times. Once in the hospital and she works across the road. My SIL is having major issues TTC (she has been trying for 6 years only went too see someone about the issues this year) yet i have accidently got pregnant twice in the matter of two years. When we told them i was pregnant both times - No one congratulated us. AT ALL. MIL said "What about SIL?" I know when SIL does get pregnant (which i am really praying is soon) that MIL will visit her kids 10 times more then ours. Mairi hasnt called since the end of August just too see how her grandkids are and then expects me to take photos and send them to her. They live 35 mins away take your own *^%$ing photos.

Im just biding my time...the more she stays away and doesnt contact us the more dirt i have on her tongue.gif lol
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Posted 27 November 2009 - 08:33 PM

I can relate to so many of these stories! my FH is the eldest, and the obvious favorite in his mothers eyes. she is so unbeliably overbearing, even though we live about 40 minutes away from her she will still turn up on our doorstep at 9 pm at night as she was 'in the area'

i am so close to having it out with her, she crossed the line big time a few weeks agho while we were out of the country.she broke into our house, rearranged our pantry and freezer, went through our mail and bank statements, and she organised for a tradesman to come to our house while it was empty to look in the roof and check if we have insulation! mad.gif

i think we need to move states. i cant even imagine what she is going to be like when we eventually have a child!

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Posted 05 December 2009 - 07:08 PM

Well, I got called a mole by my future brother-in-law today after asking him to move something of his that has been clogging up our backyard for months. Two weeks out from the wedding. So I am sure you can imagine how I am feeling now. The problem is, one half of me wants to tell him to bugger off but the other half of me knows that I cant cause I don't want it to hurt my husbands to be relationship with his little brother and I don't want it to be an issue on the wedding day or risk losing a groomsman. I am also afraid of him having too much to drink on the night (which I am sure he will!) and say something to me or husband to be.
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Posted 05 December 2009 - 08:45 PM

I'm way too self absorbed to bite at the small things. Thankfully my inlaws are fantastic but for sensitive matters I like playing ignorant or plastering a fake smile on my face will nodding my head.

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QUOTE(joes girl @ Nov 27 2009, 09:33 PM) View Post

i am so close to having it out with her, she crossed the line big time a few weeks agho while we were out of the country.she broke into our house, rearranged our pantry and freezer, went through our mail and bank statements, and she organised for a tradesman to come to our house while it was empty to look in the roof and check if we have insulation! mad.gif

i think we need to move states. i cant even imagine what she is going to be like when we eventually have a child!


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