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#1 Antarian


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Posted 24 May 2009 - 12:59 PM

Hello Ladies,

While excited that I am getting married, I am not looking forward to the wedding day. All because of the dress. I am too scared to go shopping for one.

I have all the big stuff booked for the day, but until I actually choose a dress, I can't move forward. We are almost at the 12 months to go mark, and I need to get on it.

I have started having dreams where V tells me on our wedding day that he won't marry me because I didn't lose weight (when I told him about that dream, he told me that the dream version of himself was clearly an idiot), or we will be in the middle of the ceremony and my dress comes apart because I am busting out of it.

I have looked at many of the photos on this sub forum and you all look so beautiful. Did any of you approach the dress hunting experience with dread, and if so, how did you deal with it?

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Posted 24 May 2009 - 04:56 PM

At first, I really was dreading going dress shopping. At size 24ish/185cm tall, I knew it wasn't going to be easy. I was basing my experience on bridesmaid dress shopping, and prior to that, high school formal dress shopping - which had been pretty painful.

I went to one place about a month after we got engaged, and that only reinforced my expectations. They had very few dresses on the rack that would fit me, and basically ignored me when I was in there. I did try on one dress, but I got it stuck half way on, with my arms above my head! She didn't come and help me, thank goodness I had my MOH with me to rescue me!! laugh.gif

I left pretty quickly, quite convinced I would never find anything to fit me. A few days later I happened to be in NoniB, and they had some deb dresses on sale. I found one in my size, tried it on, it fitted, was cheap, so I bought it.

I really tried to convince myself that I liked it, but truth be told, I didn't, and it didn't even look that nice. My mum then told me about a couple of shops that she had been past that she knew stocked plus size dresses. One of them even hired out dresses, and the staff were lovely. I went to two different places, and honestly found about 25 dresses (in store!) that fitted, and about 6 that I liked. I had actually decided to hire one, that I really liked. Both stores had large fitting rooms, and I only had to venture out if I felt comfortable in the dress! I decided to try and lose some weight (ha!! epic fail! biggrin.gif ) and come back again closer to the day.

A few months later I happened to be at another bridal shop. I went in, and the lady was incredibly helpful and sweet. She pulled a couple of dresses off the rack, and helped me try them on. Both of them were lovely, but the second one just took my breath away. The only trouble - it was waaaaay outside my budget! Depressed, I left.

2 weeks later, the girl from the shop rang me to say that they were having a sale. I went back in, thinking I might be able to find something else that I liked. Unbelievably, MY dress was not only still on the rack, but was on sale, at 75% off! I remember dancing around the store in it, soooo excited that I had finally found THE DRESS. The experience was exactly the way it was supposed to be - exciting and fun!

I haven't worn a sleeveless top in public for 15 years (haaaate my arms), but my dress didn't have sleeves. I had a spray tan before the day, and it seriously did amazing things. That, combined with my magical underwear, and I felt really confident. By the time I had my hair and makeup done, I really felt truly beautiful.

I'm not sure where you're located, but if you're in Melbourne, I can highly recommend 3 bridal salons, and a fantastic underwear shop.

My best piece of advice - if the staff don't treat you like a bride, they don't deserve your business!!

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Posted 24 May 2009 - 05:42 PM

As a size 20 (ish) with a very large bust (18JJ) I was terrified about dress shopping! My Mum took me to a fantastic dress shop specialising in plus size bridal wear. I tried on a dress and it was perfect and I found my dress just like that!

I would check that any store you plan on going to has a range of plus sizes - in store not just ones they can order. The woman who fitted me made me feel like a princess, so there is definitely great stuff out there!

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Posted 24 May 2009 - 06:14 PM

Hi Antarian

Where abouts are you? If you are in Melbourne (or Victoria and willing to travel to Melbs) I would highly recommend the store I brought my dress from.

My dress was a 22 from memory, and I was scared of shopping. I was scared nothing would fit and people would laugh at me. Not to mention how rude the staff would be.

I went to 3 stores, and found the dress of my dreams, in a store where i felt comfortable.

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Posted 24 May 2009 - 06:19 PM

QUOTE(Mrs Tash @ May 24 2009, 04:56 PM) View Post

I'm not sure where you're located, but if you're in Melbourne, I can highly recommend 3 bridal salons, and a fantastic underwear shop.

Antarian, this is probably exactly the advice you're looking for. smile.gif If I was you, I'd ask for the name of some places where people have had good experiences, and even the name of the salesperson who helped. I went to a store where one girl was lovely, and the other two couldn't care less about me. I went to the effort next time of calling to see if she was working, and made a beeline for her when I got there.

If you are a self-conscious person (like myself!) I would recommend wearing some shaping underwear, because not only will the dresses fit better, if you are trying lace-up dresses you won't have as much skin exposed, and you won't feel as self-conscious if the sales people see you in your undies! I'm so glad I wore mine. blush.gif

Most good places will make you feel beautiful and special no matter what your size, and I agree with Mrs Tash- "if the staff don't treat you like a bride, they don't deserve your business!!" There are plenty of other places out there that WILL treat you like a bride, who are vying for your business!

Another great one from Mrs Tash-
"Both of them were lovely, but the second one just took my breath away"
Don't make the mistake of thinking just because you might be plus size, this won't happen to you. wink.gif I think there's a stunning dress out there for every bride! You just have to find it. smile.gif
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