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#1 allmydreams



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Posted 10 February 2009 - 11:43 AM

FH's parents have decided to accept that we are getting married, and havent made our life hell for a few weeks now. Im not sure how it will pan out but at the moment Im taking it as one less problem in our life.

His sisters on the other hand, have become MUCH worse. They are leaving nasty messages on facebook, as is one sisters husband. One of them actually went through his bedroom and found a receipt with my name, address and phone number on it from when we hired a car in Tas back in october,they spent 2 days flat out calling my phone from the early hours until well after 2am, and then a few days later came to my door with her husband to abuse me at 10pm! I had to go to the police after that as I had no idea how far they would go.

One of them recently called centerlink to tell them we are living together (we arent... we are waiting until the end of the year) so they cancel my austudy payment.... FH asked his parents who had called them and the sister admitted she did it to make us fight, their father got really angry at her and it started a huge fight, which of course is MY fault. He offered to call and sort it out and tell them the truth, so Im grateful for that, Id be so ashamed of my child if she behaved like that.

FH has now told them he is never speaking to them again, they just laughed and hung up on him. His parents are uspet that they are all fighting, but its not my problem.

But at least we sort of have their support now.
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Posted 10 February 2009 - 11:50 AM

Wow what a situation you are in sad.gif
i cant believe grown people can make such a big deal over another persons business.
Im glad to hear your Fh is standing by you and not allowing the BS to keep going, i hope your FPIL stay supportive and stop his sis and others carrying on.

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Posted 10 February 2009 - 12:35 PM

OMG - how old are these people?!!!!!!! Sounds like they're acting like a spoilt child having a tantrum!!! What's their problem?!

So glad your FH is standing up to them!!! And his parents too! Hope between them they can sort FH's sisters out, and perhaps get them to grow up a bit!!!

Hope this doesn't continue for you. Try not to let them get to you. Some people just can't keep their noses out of other people's business, and have to get way too involved in everything.

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Posted 10 February 2009 - 06:16 PM

Oh well, maybe that is at least 3 more seats that you can allocate to friends!!!

Seriously, their behaviour is really inappropriate and I would be extremely unhappy inviting them to our wedding (I would not want to reward such poor behaviour). If this is how they behave now I wouldn't invite them. The best indicator is future behaviour is past behaviour - I think they are best left out of the mix on your special day.
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Posted 16 February 2009 - 12:31 PM

OMG!! you poor thing, I can't believe his family are doing this to you!! I am glad to hear your FH is standing by you and backing you up, shows he is certainly the man you deserve to marry.

I hope that things can calm down and you can get back to enjoying what is supposed to be one of the best times in your life...we are here for you xxx
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Posted 16 February 2009 - 12:41 PM

How absolutely pathetic are these people.

Clearly you are best to have nothing to do with them at all. I know that you obviously really, really love your FH, but I think you need to tell him that it is you or the family. I mean obviously it is going to be like this forever and cause you enormous amounts of stress! Especially with a wedding to plan.

Best of luck with it all. tongue.gif

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Posted 16 February 2009 - 12:53 PM

You'll have 50 years of this, so try not to stress yourself too much in the first little while. Take each situation as it comes, try to keep your hands clean and behave in a manner befitting the person you see yourself as, but also don't take any crap now you're not willing to take in 30 years time.

I don't envy you, but thank goodness your husband is being supportive!
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Posted 17 February 2009 - 08:25 AM

Thanks girls, you really are wonderful smile.gif

I have scrapped the sisters form the guestlist... I just cant deal with it, Im not spending my engagement or wedding days stressed about them causing a scene!
And my youngest sister, who is a rather big girl, height and weight wise, certainly wouldnt stand for them causing anything on the day... I dont want a police presence at either day lol

FH hasnt spoken to either of them since, and his parents are still quite annoyed at them... on one hand I feel like I have something over them for once and its a nice feeling, but then I feel bad as well as a family shouldnt be fighting like this sad.gif

While im here..can I complain about FH? My brother is to be a groomsman and FH wont let me tell him as he wants to do it in person ( he has this thing abiut doing everything in person)...with the hours that both of them work, chances are that my brother wont find out until the engagement!
Me on the other hand, went running to all my BMs squeaking and squealing as soon as I got home from the cruise (thats where he proposed) lol
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Posted 26 February 2009 - 09:50 AM

All my dreams.

First of all my FH HAD to ask my brother in person too. And he didn't even do it the first time he saw him after he decided to ask! He waited for 'the right time.' I think my brother actually found out from me when I told a friend who was going to be in the bridal party without realising he was behind me!
But it was a nice moment to watch when it happened. Maybe organise a family dinner if you want to speed things up?

Second, your FHs siblings sound positively mental, I'm sure every story has two sides, but it is still appalling behaviour regardless! I'm glad that your FPIL are standing up for you! That's massive. If I had anyone behave like that they certainly would not be invited.

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Posted 04 March 2009 - 03:25 PM

If they are giving you grief on Facebook - block them, then you can't see what pathetic idiots they are making of themselves.

I have a family member I am not inviting to my wedding too. When asked about it, I said I am only inviting people who want to share in the love and happiness of the day, not because I have too, plus they wouldn't invite you to thiers so why should you be expected to do the same. Rational and adult people will understand this.

I'm very glad your FH is supportive and standing up for you, especially to family, which is very hard too do. I think the fact his parents are coming around as well, proves that his siblings behaviour is totally unacceptable.

I think you should have a lovely BIG engagement notice put in the paper, so everyone can see wink.gif
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