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#1 princess*meg

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Posted 03 December 2008 - 08:13 PM

My BMs are now in full swing with wedding excitement and preparation (although the wedding is still 12 months away) tongue.gif

Problem is they want to throw a Kitchen Tea as well as a Bridal Shower and Hens night.

I think it is too much and is just a gift grabbing exercise. blush.gif

Can someone explain the difference between a bridal shower and kitchen tea?? I knwo a kitchen tea is for kitchen items, but what is a bridal shower for???

Does anyone else think having all three is too much? How far apart should they be spaced from each other and the wedding??

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Posted 03 December 2008 - 08:22 PM

I would say having all three is a bit much, but it depends how far they are spaced out.

A friend of mine got engaged, had her Hen's Night, kitchen tea and wedding all in the space of 3 months. We ended up spending quite a bit of money on the various celebrations, which i don't begrudge but in such a small space of time it put a bit of a strain on the budget.

I think a bridal shower is where you get given sexy lingerie, etc. for the wedding night, while a kitchen tea is, as you said, more about kitchen items.

Maybe you could invite different people to each event - a kitchen tea might be nice for the relatives, whereas grandma might feel a bit out of place at the hen's or bridal shower.

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Posted 03 December 2008 - 08:26 PM

I think all three are a bit much if gifts were to be giving for the majority of them.. and hens nights can get very expensive also.

An option to ease the pressure for your guests is to request no gifts for your parties (or one of them), which could help your guests, particularly those who will go to all three.

Also, if you're not sure what a bridal shower is for (which suggests to me that it may not be important to you), perhaps don't even bother having one? You could have one fabulous bash all in one, with all BMs planning it together...

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Posted 04 December 2008 - 04:09 PM

Bridal showers and kitchen teas are the same thing, so really there would only be two events.

I don't think it's necessarily a gift grabbing exercise, particularly if you request no gifts, or just recipes / tips etc

I have usually seen the kitchen tea/bridal shower etc as a chance to have your older relatives, MIL to be etc attend, and the hens where your friends go to celebrate.
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Posted 06 December 2008 - 12:29 PM

A Kitchen Tea is where you get gifts specifically for the kitchen. Nowadays, because most couples are already living together, they are opting for something different. Some choose a room of the house where they might like some extra things - for example, a bedroom tea or a garden tea. It is really up to you which kind of tea you choose, but you will get cheap gifts for that room.

A Bridal Shower is a party where you, the bride, get the gifts. It can range from make-up to sexy lingerie. It is only for you.

Gifts are generally not exchanged at Hens' nights.
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Posted 09 December 2008 - 11:01 AM

They are the same thing in that, it's a celebration of the bride for her wedding day, where people buy gifts. A kitchen tea is just a variation of a bridal party:

Bridal Shower Party Ideas:
• Traditional Luncheon
• Lingerie Party
• Beauty Products Party
• Kitchen Tea
• Cellar Party
• Linen Party
• Garden Party
• Book Party
• Bathroon Party
• Make-up Brand Party (e.g. Nutrimetics, etc)
• Pamper Party
• Host A Murder Party
• Favourite Recipe Party
• Tupperware Party


I have never been invited to both a kitchen tea and bridal shower. You can chose a theme for your shower - i.e if you want to make it a kitchen tea / garden tea / cellar tea / whatever and get things for the house, or stick with it being just about you , specify that that is what kind of party it is.

IMO, I think it's a bit much, and I wouldn't go to both, would pick one or the other to go to.
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Posted 09 December 2008 - 12:20 PM

I just want to say good on you for being considerate to your friends and family. One of my friends had a bridal shower, hens night, kitchen tea party AND a lingerie party. Needless to say we were pretty turfed, and broke, by the end.
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Posted 09 December 2008 - 01:16 PM

A kitchen tea is the same thing as a bridal shower, it's just a different name for the same type of event. People try and make them different so they can get 2 lots of presents but really it is just an event to designed to set up the bride for her married life.

If you don't want too many parties, have the shower and hen's night on the same day. STart with one and roll onto the other!
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Posted 11 December 2010 - 09:37 AM

Like the other ladies have said, I think it is definitely too
much to have all 3. I think it's perfectly acceptable to have a bridal shower (whether that b a kitchen/cellar/garden tea etc) and a hens party. For my wedding I combined
my kitchen tea & hens party into one cos I was inviting the same ppl to both. We had the kitchen tea during the afternoon and then hens in the night. Some of guests only stayed for the kitchen tea tho which worked out perfectly. I had mine 2 weeks before our wedding ( altho that was more of a practicality to hold it then). I think if ur going to separate them u might hav ur bridal shower a cpl of months before ur wedding & ur hens party within a month of yr wedding - u want to space them out abit for convenience of ur guests.
Also as the ladies said, no gifts for ur Hens night.
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#10 LoveSweetpea

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Posted 11 December 2010 - 10:10 AM

Pretty sure she's sorted her issues out, since this post is 2 years old rolleyes.gif
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#12 KiJo

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Posted 16 December 2010 - 11:24 AM

QUOTE(LoveSweetpea @ Dec 11 2010, 11:10 AM) View Post

Pretty sure she's sorted her issues out, since this post is 2 years old rolleyes.gif


Oops.. didn't realise it was so old. Not sure how I stumbled across it given I only ever read threads under "View New Posts". There must have been a previous poster before me who bumped it up, who has since deleted. Thanks for the sarcasm anyway - particularly the eye rolling. smile.gif
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Posted 24 January 2011 - 01:46 AM

The ritual of the kitchen tea or bridal shower persists, however, leaving the guests with the difficult task of finding a useful but inexpensive bridal shower gift.

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