I am a MOH in May and intellection near the Hens dark.
Huh? Honestly, these assholes are really getting annoying!
I've only been on two hens things and both of those have been a very small number (3-4) of us sorting something out for our bestiest - weekend in Singapore and long weekend in Prague (when I lived in the UK). It cost quite a lot because we paid for the bride too, it being a surprise. It depends largely on how many people bride wants and how close to her they are to her.
I think it's a bit odd when people feel funny about asking people to spend on a hen night but the same people who are complaining would often not blink at spending twice that on your average Friday night. Ask the bride if there's anyone with genuine money woes and try to sort something out for them. Otherwise there's a danger of twisting yourself into a mess and still pleasing no-one.