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#1 Arial


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Posted 25 October 2008 - 03:40 PM

I have managed to stuff up every poll I have ever made on here so heres hoping this one works. I am a MOH in May and thinking about the Hens night. The beautiful bride lives in Bendigo but is from Melbourne and has many friends in Melbourne and wants to make sure no one is too put out. She really likes the idea of a winery tour but wants to make sure it stays within peoples budgets. I know it can be awkward when you are invited to a hens but can't afford the cost so how much is too much these days? Do people prefer an option where you can just pay what you can afford?
Thanks (in advance) for your help ladies (and I don't use the term loosely tongue.gif )
OK my poll just didn't appear!!! Please reply if you can about what you think is reasonable
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Posted 25 October 2008 - 04:17 PM

From other questions about this in the past, I suspect I may be the world's largest tightwad when it comes to hens parties, but I think under $50. Of course, a lot depends on how well you know the person, the age of the guests, whether they are 'partiers' or paying off mortgages etc etc. I'd pay a lot more for a close friend.

I prefer events which I can leave when I wish, too. Arranged tours have the disadvantage that you HAVE to stay for the entire duration... Which if you want to go home early is a problem.

Just my thoughts.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 06:15 PM

I think $50. It all depends on what you're doing and how many people will be attending though.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 06:19 PM

I organised a Hen's day recently and everyone paid $65 per head for a winery tour which included 4 tastings. They had to pay for lunch on top of this and everyone also pitched in for the brides cost.

We only had a small group of 8 close friends but no one complained about the cost. It was a fabulous day!!

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 07:02 PM

My hens night 3 weeks ago cost $90 per person but that was because we went for a ride in a stretch party hummer that cost $850ph blink.gif then we went and played strike bowling. There were only 13 of us so once we divided all the costs up it worked out to be $90pp. A few people that I invited couldnt come because of how much it cost but my sisters planned it all as a surprise for me so I had no say in the matter.
Im going to a friends hens next weekend and it's $45 for pizza, a tournament of poker and drinks. I think thats a really reasonable price

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 08:23 PM

The last few hens nights i have been to have all been around the $50 mark (so $30 to $80 range)

I didn't mind paying a bit more as it was explained as to what the costs were.

For example one i thought was very well planned detailed the information on the invite:

To celebrate the brides impending wedding day we have booked a banquet dinner at her favourite restaurant which will be followed by other girly activities into the night.

The banquet costs $35 a head however if each person attending could please contribute a little more then the bride can eat and play for free!

All extra proceeds from booking will go towards the Bride's food and drinks as well as purchase little prizes for the games so that everyone has a little something to take home.

The bride would love to see you there so to secure your place at the table could you please contact bridesmaid on this number to arrange meal payment. Please note that donations over $50 will not be accepted in the interest of sharing costs evenly - so Max $50 per person.

(From what i hear the only person to pay less than $50 was the bride's mother laugh.gif the prizes were lip balm and little things like that and for the more complex games a pair of hand-cuffs and a $15 voucher to an adult store!)

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Posted 26 October 2008 - 09:58 AM

Thanks for your replies so far girls. I too am always happier to pay more for a close friend. But with any party there will be closer friends coming and less close friends. I want to accomodate every one but make sure the bride has a fantastic time.
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Posted 26 October 2008 - 10:34 AM

I think it really all depend on how well the person knows the bride!!

My hens night si going to be $58 per person but that it for 2 activities. Firstly we have Pole dancing and then dinner at a beautiful pizza restaurant which includes all you can eat (No tis not tacky!!! its beautiful amazing gourmet pizza) and then my mum is going to pay for all of the champers!

I asked all my girls if costing for both was ok and they got to make up their own mid as to if they wanted to come to both or one or the other!!

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Posted 29 October 2008 - 05:25 PM

I guess it depends on how many people are going and whether you are just inviting close friends. For my best mates hens, it was simply myself and the two other BM and we treated her to a dinner at Aria the night before her wedding, but I wouldn't do that for everybody.

For a big hens night with lots of people, I wouldn't like to pay any more than $100 at the most.
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Posted 29 October 2008 - 06:12 PM

I think it depends on how close you are to the person and what the money covers. For example, if the money covers a meal and transport, then I would pay extra just for the convenience of not having to figure it out myself tongue.gif You'd expect to pay over $100 easily for a night out including dinner, cabs and drinks these days (unfortunately) - so if it's all included anyway, I wouldn't mind.

By the same token, I wouldn't put a price limit on my best friends, I would absorb the costs people couldn't to cover whatever they wanted.

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Posted 29 October 2008 - 08:31 PM

I think the girls managed to do mine for $20 a head but they organised everything themselves.

I think $50 a head is ok - if it is for something that is worth more that's ok but guess it really comes down to what people can afford.

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Posted 30 October 2008 - 06:13 PM

I have been to one Hen's event. I spent $100 on accommodation (that was a unit that we had for two nights), plus food, drinks, petrol, shopping etc.
All up probably spent a good $400 on the weekend. But I think it was worth it for a weekend away.

I think that it just depends who is going, where it is etc.

I really want to do a spa trip/relaxing weekend to Byron Bay. But am not sure if it will fit in with my friends budgets, so might have to re think that idea!

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Posted 30 October 2008 - 06:23 PM

I think $50 is enough, but it does depend a lot on who it's for and what we're doing.

I'm planning my best friend's Hens for next weekend. It's pretty quiet and casual - dinner at the local pub, then an old school slumber party with movies and junk food and a few games. I've asked for $25 per person, plus they pay for their dinner at the pub. Everyone has agreed to this (There's only six of us including me and the bride, and one may not be able to come) The $25 will cover the bride's meal, all the junk food, soft drink, some bubbly, games, ugly fluoro veil etc. Any left over money will be divvied up and given back.
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Posted 31 October 2008 - 04:31 PM

I think it depends on what your actually doing.
Personally I wouldn't have a problem in paying up to $100.
But I knew my friends would have problem in paying the $75 that it is costing for mine.

So what I did was on the invite I broke the cost up so they could see what there money was for.
Dinner = $33 Ghost tour = $40 looks alot better than $73 on an invite.

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Posted 31 October 2008 - 08:13 PM

I went to a Hen's weekend 4 weeks ago and it cost me $210.
That included:
Comedy dinner cruise
Entry to nightclub
and Hotel accommodation.

It also included a bit extra so the bride didn't have to pay. It was the most I had ever paid for a Hens but I thought it was pretty good value.

I also had the added expense of flights from Melb to Syd but I was prepared to pay that for someone I have become very close to.

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