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#1 **Gen**

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 07:08 PM

Hi ladies

Well as promised, I think it is high time that I tell my story. It will probably be quite therapeutic getting it down on paper (well not on paper but you know what I mean!) so apologies if this becomes epic!

I gave the topic the title "My journey into singledom" because it wasn't necessarily by choice and I haven't felt "single" until quite recently...

Basically, in April last year, Craig killed himself by jumping in front of a train. I had moved out 8 weeks earlier because of escalating violence but was still talking to him every day and having lunch with him etc. If I'm being honest with myself I'm pretty sure that I would have ended up going back to him - I just loved him too much and could feel myself starting to believe his promises.

Anyway, so the combined effect of Craig's suicide and everything that went before has really knocked me around over the last 18 odd months.

But on the other hand, I have a wonderful group of girl friends who have shown me a good time and helped me to rediscover Brisbane's night life. I haven't been single since I was 18 (I'm now 26) so that is definitely a challenge. But as they say, one day at a time.

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 07:15 PM

Oh Gen I don't know what to say except that I am truly sorry sad.gif

I can not even begin to imagine what kind of feelings you must have been going through, that is an absolutley awful situation for you to have experienced.

All I can say is I hope you are feeling okay, at 26 you have a whole future in front of you, I hope you can start to see some positivity ahead.

If you ever need a listening ear I am happy to lend one, as I am sure many others would

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 07:30 PM

I'm so sorry for what you have been through. I can only image how hard it must be for you. sad.gif
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Posted 19 September 2008 - 08:12 PM

You have been so brave posting this sweetheart. Thinking of you, and always here if you need a chat xoxo

#5 **Gen**

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 08:48 PM

QUOTE(SEA @ Sep 19 2008, 08:12 PM) View Post

You have been so brave posting this sweetheart. Thinking of you, and always here if you need a chat xoxo


Thanks sweetie xx
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Posted 19 September 2008 - 10:49 PM

I echo Sarah in saying how brave you are in sharing your story.

I'm so sorry for what you've been through, I couldn't imagine the multitude of feelings and emotions that you've been through and are no doubt experiencing.

Thankyou for sharing.

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 11:10 PM

I can not even begin to imagine the horror you have gone through the past 18 months. I am so glad that you are able to take things one day at a time and you have a group of supportive girlfriends. You are a courageous woman Gen.
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Posted 20 September 2008 - 10:51 AM

Oh hun. I am so sorry. I am so glad you feel ready to share this with us and it is very brave.

We are all here for you if you need to talk, cry, vent, or whatever. This place is so good for all of that.

((((HUGS)))))
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Posted 20 September 2008 - 11:08 AM

I am so sorry, i cant even begin to imagine how hard it must have been for you sad.gif

Thanks so much for sharing your story with us, it was really brave of you. Look forward to talking with you more on here smile.gif
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Posted 20 September 2008 - 11:13 AM

Gen I think that was a very brave thing for you to post.
Im so sorry to read your story.

I hope Craig is at peace now and I know in time you will find happiness again.

Thankyou for sharing
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Posted 20 September 2008 - 11:51 AM

my goodness, i really dont know what to say.

im so sorry for what happened, i can only imagine what that would have been like.

you have my support should you ever need it smile.gif





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Posted 20 September 2008 - 12:20 PM

(hugs) I'm so sorry Gen.
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Posted 20 September 2008 - 01:38 PM

Gen, this is such a courageous thing to open up to and your so stong to have written it....I am so sorry for your loss and I hope Craig is at peace now. Thank you for sharing your story.



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Posted 20 September 2008 - 06:05 PM

blush.gif Thank you everyone for your thoughts. I think I'm at a point now where I can actually talk about it without getting all upset... Life throws unexpected challenges at you which you just have to deal with as you go!
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Posted 21 September 2008 - 09:24 PM

Hun, you are amazing. That is such a powerful way to think. You are an inspiration xx
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