The special mother
Posted 13 September 2008 - 11:36 PM
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit.
This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of disabled children. Did you ever wonder how these women were chosen?
Somehow I visualise God hovering over Earth, selecting his instruments for propagation, with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger.
"Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron saint...Cecilia."
"Rutledge, Carrie, twins. Patron saint...give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."
Finally, He passes a name to an angel and smiles. "Give her a child with a disabilty."
The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She's so happy."
"Exactly. Could I give a child with a disability a mother who doesn't know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But does she have patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she'll drown in a sea of self pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll handle it."
"I watched her today, she has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make him live in her world, and that's not going to be easy."
"But Lord, I don't think she believes in you."
God smiles. "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness."
The angel gasps. "Selfishness, is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes she is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realise it yet but she is to be envied."
"She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says 'Mummy' for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it. When she describes a tree or sunset to her child, she will see it as few people see my creations."
"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty, prejudice... and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is there by my side."
"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised mid air.
God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."
Author Erma Bombeck
Posted 15 September 2008 - 02:41 PM
Not only the challenges you face with caring for the special needs of your beautiful children, but the challenges you face everyday from society in general, and the many barriers you are forced to deal with.
Qualities such as patience, understanding, and unconditional motherly love are expressed on another level with you guys, and your children are blessed to have wonderful women such as you.
Posted 15 September 2008 - 03:40 PM
Jack was born with no disabilities and being afulltime mum to him is a fulltime job and very hard,for mums that do it tough with kids they are indeed very special.
to be able to look after kids,look after a family and take care of a house its mums like you Kylz who are super mum.
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Posted 15 September 2008 - 07:08 PM
Can't agree with you more there Michelle.
My sister has always thought from a very young age that she would give birth to a child with disabilities.....and what do you know, she did.
Seeing her with her son, how much she loves, cares, teaches him etc, it's beautiful and it is like she was born to do this, like she was 'chosen'.
Posted 15 October 2008 - 10:20 AM
Zak doesnt have a disability, but he does have alot of health problems. We are in and out of hospital and i always consider myself lucky that he only has a blood disease (can make him very sick) and some corrective surgery is needed down the track for something else.
I feel bad in posting, but he is still special in his own ways.
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Posted 30 March 2009 - 02:48 PM
Some days are really hard, but every day he brings so much joy to my life and he has made me a better person.
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