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#1 LucheaB

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Posted 04 September 2008 - 10:56 AM

Well formerly DH and I have called it quits. It has been coming for a little while now and I finally did it.
There is nothing wrong with C, he is a great Dad and a wonderful partner but I just don't feel it anymore. I know you are supposed to be friends with your partner but it got to the stge where all I felt for him was friendship.
So far it has been fairly amicable. He says he still loves me but he wants me to be happy.
For Lily's sake we are going to keep living together but we have had seperate rooms for a while now and the transition has not been that hard.
I feel like I have let so many people down and I am not looking forward to him telling his mum.

So now I am single again. I feel kind of lost...........


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Posted 04 September 2008 - 11:01 AM

Big decision! All the best for the future and for finding your feet. It will take a while, but that's OK - just be kind to yourself in the interim smile.gif

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Posted 04 September 2008 - 11:04 AM

Thanks Puggie!
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Posted 04 September 2008 - 08:37 PM

That is a big decision to make. I want to wish you all the best for the furture. At the moment just worry about yourself and your daughter. Take care

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Posted 04 September 2008 - 08:57 PM

My best wishes for the future.
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Posted 04 September 2008 - 09:01 PM

Best of luck with your decision hope everything works out

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Posted 04 September 2008 - 09:19 PM

LucheaB Oh what a brave move.


Your story pulled at my heart strings. I have just made that decision myself and know exactly how you feel. My fiancée and I don’t have a child to think of though. I too feel as i have let my family and his down. But you Cannot think that – I know it sounds selfish but you have to put yourself first!

I do feel very alone after a 5 year relationship, but I am learning to love myself and do things alone. I have recently joined the gym and am looking at enrolling in some classes. Maybe something like that would be good for you to get out of the house.


If you want to chat PM me xoxo

Good luck and be strong.

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Posted 04 September 2008 - 10:37 PM

As i told a friend today: you have to do what will make you the happiest.

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Posted 05 September 2008 - 07:43 AM

Oh hun. I'm sorry to hear this. But you should be proud of yourself. Doing something like this is often of of the hardest things you'll ever have to do. It takes so much guts to recognise it let alone do something about it.

We have a singles thread (you've probably seen it) and all the girls in there have been through what you're going through (obviously each story is different though) and every single girl in there is amazing. I have been able to draw so much strngth from them. So, please feel free to drop in and chat if you feel up to it.

I hope you're ok ((hugs))
Someday everything will all make perfect sense... So for now laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason...

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Posted 05 September 2008 - 09:09 AM

You're a brave woman and I think it's so admirable that so far you've been able to be so amicable together, especially when there are littleys in the picture.
I hope that each step you take now takes you out of that lost stage and you find what makes you happiest.
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Posted 05 September 2008 - 10:17 AM

Thinking of you LucheaB - be kind to yourself.

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Posted 05 September 2008 - 01:13 PM

OMG! You guys are going to make me cry. I am a lot happier now. C is still my best friend and I have a lot of respect and love for him. It's just not the type of love I think you should have for the man you intend to spend the rest of your life with.
I have a bunch of friends that have been really supportive and for the most part so have my family.
Lily is the most important thing in the world to me. I know that if I am happy I will be a better mum to her and she really deserves that. C is an excellent father and I know he still loves me and I hope we can maintain that for Lily's sake.
It's great that I have work too. My bosses and most of the crew who know what is going on have been really supportive.
I am just going to take some time to be me for a while and make myself happy. It's been a while since I was truly happy and my friends and family have all seen it. It just took me a while to realise it. It feels great to be taking the steps to become me again.

Thankyou all so much for your support. It's wonderful to have such beautiful, caring and intelligent women who are able to understand why I needed to do this.

I love you all
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Posted 05 September 2008 - 01:19 PM

QUOTE(*Ali* @ Sep 5 2008, 07:13 AM) View Post

Oh hun. I'm sorry to hear this. But you should be proud of yourself. Doing something like this is often of of the hardest things you'll ever have to do. It takes so much guts to recognise it let alone do something about it.

We have a singles thread (you've probably seen it) and all the girls in there have been through what you're going through (obviously each story is different though) and every single girl in there is amazing. I have been able to draw so much strngth from them. So, please feel free to drop in and chat if you feel up to it.

I hope you're ok ((hugs))


Ditto to what she said!

What you've done is very brave and admirable hun. In time it will make more sense and you'll feel all the better for it. Good luck with everything and I sincerely hope everything remains as amicable as they are now smile.gif That'll make things much easier in the long run for your little one.
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