Posted 30 August 2008 - 06:12 PM
My mum is being so controlling about our engagement party. Nick wants it at his parents place but I don't care either way. Mum got all upset saying how much I'd hurt her if I had it at his parents place as she has always supported us getting married but his parents think we should wait.
Mum has tossed up a huge fuss saying that she'd pay for everyone (she wants to invite people I barely even know!). So in the sake of my mums constant drama, we're having 2 parties!!!!! (Overkill much).
His family at his parents, mine at my family.... I prefer to get it all over and done with... fricken hell....
Posted 30 August 2008 - 07:06 PM
Is there any chance that having it on 'neutral ground', such as a function room will work??
Good luck, it really is a tough position your mum is putting you in
Posted 30 August 2008 - 07:26 PM
My only suggest is to tell your mum, nicely, that she cant control this, and that it is about what you and nick want.
on anther side, could you have it at a mutually neutral place? That way neither set of parents have control over it? I agree that it is a good coming together of families. For us, it meant that Brians aunts and uncles knew my family before the wedding, which was good as they mingled on our wedding day.
Posted 30 August 2008 - 08:14 PM
Once you have calmed down, think about it. This is about you and Nick and should do what you both want.
Goodluck with it all.
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Posted 30 August 2008 - 10:04 PM
That's a good reason why having it at mum and dads suits us because as she has said she'd pay. Its all being set as his family only available on one date while my family is only available on another....
As for the wedding I will put me foot down on this and tell her its our wedding not hers.
Posted 31 August 2008 - 06:16 PM
Good on you for putting your foot down over the wedding. It is YOUR day, not hers.
Posted 01 September 2008 - 10:05 AM
Posted 02 September 2008 - 08:55 AM
I hope you work this out, but - if she insists on having her 'own' engagement party don't let it stress you out - give her control of it on the proviso that she keep her 'demands' to this event and stay out of the wedding.
Overall - don't let it ruin this wonderful time for you. In 5/10/20/50 years its not going to be important.
Posted 04 September 2008 - 05:42 PM
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