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#1 ~Dannielle~

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 10:22 AM

Well Kyan is off to prep next year *cry* and he currently doesn't go to daycare or anything. Socially I believe he will be fine to attend prep as he's not a clingy kid at all and he's been asking about school for months now. But I am concerned with how he will go development wise.

He has a very short attention span which has been noted by a psychologist when he had a study done on him for premature babies earlier this year and they have referred us to 'Early intervention for behavioural disorders'. We get an appointment made for him this Friday.

Becuase of his limited attention span, I feel that he is possibly behind where he should be for a child his age. Whilst he can count to 10 he can't do it on his own, as he gets to 6 and his mind wanders and he loses focus and I have to sit there with him and remind him to concentrate. When I try and teach him something, his eyes start to wander around the room and he just can't focus on what we are doing. I have to stop and say "Focus Kyan" and that snaps him back, yet we then have to start again and we seem to get to the same point and his mind wanders again. Very frustrating for someone who doesn't have much patience.

I've also bought him an activity book that is called "Preschool Basics" published by School zone. Each afternoon, we sit down and do some of the activities in it, there is one activity per page, maybe two on some pages. He is great with them, except after 3 pages, he can't focus and something which he could do 5 minutes earlier, is impossible for him to work out.

He cannot write his own name, it's something else we have been working on, but again the focus issue is what is holding us back. He's great with colouring in, yet he still can't remember which colour is which. He has a good memory as he can remember words to songs and he's always singing.

I'm very concerned that he may not be ready for prep next year. Holding him back for a year isn't an option as he's a January baby, so if I hold him back he will be much older then the kids in the following year.

What is everyone else doing to help their kids get ready? Can anyone give me any tips on what I should be doing to help him?

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 10:39 AM

No advice, but having taught prep kids yesterday, I've got to tell you - none of them have much attention span....
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Posted 13 August 2008 - 10:47 AM

QUOTE(Daybreak @ Aug 13 2008, 11:09 AM) View Post

No advice, but having taught prep kids yesterday, I've got to tell you - none of them have much attention span....


laugh.gif Yeah I know, they are all pretty bad arent they! I used to think it was me who didn't have enough patience with him, but when the psychologist picked up on it and had the same problems as I do with him, I knew it wasn't just me and that he didn't have the 'normal' attention span of someone his age.

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 10:58 AM

Have you considered holding him back for another year? My grandson Ryan is in prep, but he was a month off 5 when he started, while all the other kids in his class were 6. That extra year makes a huge difference in their attention span. Ryan stills fidgets and won't do as he's told. As far as the counting and writing his name, most kids that start prep can't do all that yet, but halfway through the year, Ryan can now write his full name, and can count to past 100. You'll be surprised how much they pick up when their peers are at the same level.


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Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:10 AM

I have toyed with the idea of holding him back and enrolling him the following year, but he's just so keen to go now, so I can't imagine keeping him away for another 18 months. Everyday he asks about school.

Does anyone know if there is somewhere that I can take him, a little later in the year to be assessed to see if he's "ready" for prep? Where they can give me a proffessional opinion?

I wish we didn't have to move earlier this year so he could have stayed in kindy sad.gif

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:17 AM

QUOTE(~Dannielle~ @ Aug 13 2008, 11:10 AM) View Post

Does anyone know if there is somewhere that I can take him, a little later in the year to be assessed to see if he's "ready" for prep? Where they can give me a proffessional opinion?


I think they usually do the assessments at kinder.

QUOTE(~Dannielle~ @ Aug 13 2008, 11:10 AM) View Post

Everyday he asks about school.

Maybe if you get him into kinder, he will get used to going to "school". After all, it is "pre-school". blink.gif

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:21 AM

QUOTE(sarasmum @ Aug 13 2008, 11:47 AM) View Post

I think they usually do the assessments at kinder.
Maybe if you get him into kinder, he will get used to going to "school". After all, it is "pre-school". blink.gif


Kinder as in Kindergarden? I would LOVE to, but unfortunatly the wait lists for this year (mid way through) still have 50 kids in front of us. We had him on the wait list in our hometown since birth, unfortunatly we had to move a few months into the year. As for daycare, the option in our new town, isn't too crash hot sad.gif

I'm currently trying to find an alternative for him, but I'm hitting brickwalls.

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:49 AM

That's a shame. Maybe your only option is to send him to school, and if he hasn't matured enough by the end of the year, have him repeat prep. He might not like it at first, but I'm sure he'll make new friends and forget about it soon enough.
But you'll be surprised how much he will grow up just being in the school environment.
Ryan could barely count to 10, couldn't write his name at all, can't (still) sit still, and distracts the whole class constantly. But he still got a good report mid-year, so obviously it goes with the territory.
Before you know it, Kyan will be collecting his honours certificate at uni. tongue.gif

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 01:18 PM

Food for thought: It would seem that sending him to school next year is a wise option, but then at the end of the year see how he is going. He may settle in and be just fine!

HoweverI wouldn't let him progress into grade one, just to keep up with his friends. If he is still struggling at the end of grade prep, then repeating grade prep would give him a better chance of success later in school.

I have heard that repeating grade prep is better for a child socially than repeating a grade later in school (like repeating grade six when the classmates you've kow for 7 years are moving on to secondary schooling and you're staying behind?).

If he can't get into a kindergarten then send him to prep, the school environment will be wonderful for him!

PS: You sound like you have taught a lot to him, I see kids with less than that and parents who don't care, he sounds like a lucky little boy smile.gif
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Posted 13 August 2008 - 01:23 PM

sorry if this is straying from the topic a little bit, but reading your posts has raised a couple of questions from me.

Firstly, what states are you guys in and what are the rules where you are?

I thought it was law that a child must attend Kindy for a certain amount of days once they turn four, and that they must start school at age 5? I didn't think you could "choose" to hold your child back a whole year? A term maybe... but a year? And why would you?

Jordan attended Kindy from the age of 4, and was kept back in kindy for an extra term (he is a June baby so he still did 5 terms of reception even though he was kept back a term) and that decision was made by his father and me on the advice of the kindy after he was assessed.
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Posted 13 August 2008 - 02:40 PM

I am Victorian , and repeating a year is complictaed.

Generally, if a student is struggling at prep and the teacher recommends repeating the parents have to agree, some don't only to see the child progress through the years until they reach grade four or five and the differences between their child and his peers are stark. Then parents if want them to repeat, and it's harder the older a student is.

I wasn't suggesting that just anyone can "choose" to keep their child back, just to make the point that if they struggle (and I mean really struggle) with grade prep there is no point pushing the child through school hoping they catch up (I think that it's unfair to the student, the teacher and the others in the class).

Kindergarten is not complusory, nor are the last two years of secondary college (well complusory schooling is based on age, not grade so it's complusory to attend school between the ages of 5 and 16 - I think it has recently been changed from 15 to 16, but I am not sure).


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Posted 13 August 2008 - 02:59 PM

As an early childhood teacher, I would be inclined to enrol him for prep next year and discuss with the school and teacher about possible issues. It is something that can be assessed as he progresses through each term. The teacher will be able to tell you if he is at a similar level developmentally to the other children and make recommendations for you.

I absolutely agree that if he hasn't progressed well, or has not seemed to cope as well as you liked, prep is definately the year to hold him back. Once children fall behind, it can be a constant struggle to catch up.

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Posted 13 August 2008 - 03:16 PM

You can get him assessed for school ready-ness by an educational psychologist. (sometimes called a developmental psychologist)

They should also be able to give you a plan of action tailored to Kyans needs and address any concerns you have smile.gif
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Posted 14 August 2008 - 10:59 AM

3 pages of work is an excellent effort and to me that shows a good attention span for his age.

If he can put on his shoes, toilet independently, dress himself, open his own lunch and separate with some confidence for you then I'd say he'll be fine. All the rest like writing his own name etc are all bonuses on top of the above... after all they will go over it all again in prep/kinder.

In my opinion if he's ready in a social and emotional sense then I'd be confident in sending him.
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Posted 21 August 2008 - 12:48 PM

Have you enrolled him in school yet? I enrolled my daughter recently for next year and she is now starting an Early Bird Programme for 4 weeks - 1.5 hours per fortnight which gets her familar with the school and where things are etc. They also have a playgroup which starts in November so they can make friends etc. Maybe your school will have similar programs.

I would also be speaking to the school about your concerns. I am sure they could point you in the right direction if he needs testing etc.

But from what you have written he sounds like a typical 4 year old boy to me.
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