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#31 MrsRissaC

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Posted 18 July 2008 - 04:53 PM

Further to my post as I forgot this part!

Dont they say the first year of marriage is the hardest.. and if you can get through that, you can get through most things?

Rachae, Are you sure that what has come about with your situation isnt just a huge wave of "omg" that some women get through the first year when it is all about settling in to a new life, and a new way of being.

As with most people here, I am sure NO ONE wants to see a girl unnecessarily leave a relationship on a whim.. and hence why the people that have raised concerns as to the timing are doing so as they dont want her to look back and think later she feels like she made a mistake, but no one was game enough to say anything, for fear of being flamed.

dont know.. just a different objective.
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Posted 18 July 2008 - 05:26 PM

Sorry to hear this sad.gif

I think it's good that you're letting David move on. I think it's ok to admit you're not wanting to be in a marriage, and it's better to let someone go rather than stay with them and cheat. So I commend you on that front. As for staying friends - don't know if that's possible, but only you and David know that.

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Posted 18 July 2008 - 05:35 PM

QUOTE(jet @ Jul 18 2008, 04:04 PM) View Post
But I'm not bothered by it.
Then don't PM with your BS.


QUOTE(*Lib* @ Jul 18 2008, 03:49 PM) View Post
I don't think so.....she said what a lot of others must be thinking and are too afraid to say incase they hurt someone. rolleyes.gif
Yeah, why should people be afraid to hurt someone? rolleyes.gif
Didn't you just make a post the other day about how life is short and people should "share the love"... nice to see you lasted all of 3 days! Couldn't have expected anything better wink.gif


Rachae, if you didn't take offense, than that is great and all that matters.

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Posted 18 July 2008 - 06:04 PM

Sorry this has happened Rachae - hopefully things start looking up soon

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Posted 18 July 2008 - 06:11 PM

Rissa, I'm not going to share any secrets that I may have, but I can honestly say that this isn't being done "on a whim".

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Posted 18 July 2008 - 06:58 PM

Rachae, I am so sorry to hear this news. Be true to yourself and your heart.
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Posted 18 July 2008 - 07:01 PM

Rachae I'm sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself.
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Posted 18 July 2008 - 07:43 PM

QUOTE(MrsRissaC @ Jul 18 2008, 04:53 PM) View Post



Dont they say the first year of marriage is the hardest.. and if you can get through that, you can get through most things?



Ive found that, and the first 6 months of a childs life! Well thats in my opinon, whilst you are both enjoying your newie, forgetting eachother, trying to figure out this parent gig, and generally just not remembering about you two before hand..
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Posted 18 July 2008 - 11:12 PM

I am sorry Rachae, I hope you get through this hard time. xxx
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Posted 18 July 2008 - 11:44 PM

Rachea I am so sorry sad.gif I am sure both of you have wonderful futures ahead, be it together or apart. Perhaps some time apart will show you want to be together, perhaps it will show your are better going your own ways.. But you need to do what your heart tells you. It would have taken alot of strength to admit that there is issues, but what good would be living in a loveless marriage for who knows how many years?

I hope that in time you find yourself again, and no matter what tyhe outcome is, you are happy.

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Posted 19 July 2008 - 09:47 AM

QUOTE(Kir @ Jul 18 2008, 05:35 PM) View Post

Then don't PM with your BS.
Yeah, why should people be afraid to hurt someone? rolleyes.gif
Didn't you just make a post the other day about how life is short and people should "share the love"... nice to see you lasted all of 3 days! Couldn't have expected anything better wink.gif
Rachae, if you didn't take offense, than that is great and all that matters.


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Posted 19 July 2008 - 04:27 PM

Oh darling Rach sad.gif

I must admit I thought something was a little off when you started hanging out in the single girls thread a few months back. I didn't want to say anything at the time, but was a little curious at the time about why someone so new into a marriage wanted to come on a single girls trip, etc, you know? So obviously this is not something on a whim, there's more to it than this post and I am truly sorry that it has come to this in such a short time...

I wish you all the best hun, break ups are never easy so please know that I am here for you, you've got my #.

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Posted 21 July 2008 - 11:26 AM

QUOTE(leabee @ Jul 18 2008, 08:11 PM) View Post

Rissa, I'm not going to share any secrets that I may have, but I can honestly say that this isn't being done "on a whim".


Thanks Lea,

I know its hard to know what is going on as no one really knows who i am IRL.
With the exception of Lea.. smile.gif

This is definatly not on a whim,
and is not a hasty decision.

The first year of marriage IS the hardest, But i guess to be able to work through that you need to feel married I guess..

David and I.. Alot of the people around us didnt know we were together, we love eachother, very much, but lack passion, and intimacy.

We never really kissed, or hugged, we just kinda hung out... Which was great, and we were heading a similar direction..

But now we've both realised that its just not enough.


QUOTE(MegLegs @ Jul 19 2008, 06:27 PM) View Post

Oh darling Rach sad.gif

I must admit I thought something was a little off when you started hanging out in the single girls thread a few months back. I didn't want to say anything at the time, but was a little curious at the time about why someone so new into a marriage wanted to come on a single girls trip, etc, you know? So obviously this is not something on a whim, there's more to it than this post and I am truly sorry that it has come to this in such a short time...

I wish you all the best hun, break ups are never easy so please know that I am here for you, you've got my #.

Much love to you.


Megs your support means alot, all of your support does.

Just to clarify (yes, probably partly the fact that Dave and I we're more friends) but mostly, because I am very alone here, I dont really do anything that I can meet new people with, So it was more of a a girls weekend would be awesome, because I dont really have any girlfriends I can do that with.




This weekend just passed was really hard,

I've moved out, with a friend of mine, and I am just missing home. And i am so scared of having to create new routines and such. AUGH!!!



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Posted 21 July 2008 - 12:51 PM

I'm sorry to hear that Rachae. You are a beautiful girl and things will improve with time. I'm thinking of you.
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Posted 21 July 2008 - 05:48 PM

I hope you can find some new social things to kick off this new chapter for you babe so that you can meet some new people (and I'm not talking about jumping into a new relationship I do genuinely mean just to meet new peeps).
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