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#46 Jaycee

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Posted 13 December 2009 - 02:11 PM

This thread is fantastic smile.gif

I'm going to attempt to add some slightly different tips as a lot of my favourites have been mentioned but not others blush.gif

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

If all babies were the same and it was all supposed to be easy you would birth them with the user manual and a replacement warranty! laugh.gif

Everyone has their opinion about bringing up A baby but nobody has ever brought up YOUR baby. When someone is in your face telling you how something should be done just say "Thankyou, i might just try that next time" even if you have already tried their approach and it failed. That way the other person feels you have listened to their advice rather than feeling a need to explain that if it didn't work you never did it properly or didn't give their way a chance to work rolleyes.gif Saved a lot of needless prattle once i actually listened to the "nutjob" that gave me that gem laugh.gif

Listen to advice you are told, use what feels comfortable to you and discard the rest. If mum feels uncomfortable trying something, baby picks up on the nerves and baby is uncomfortable and the approach will never work. Mum feels more and more guilty and baby gets more and more upset because mum feels different.

If you are on your own and it all gets too much (you have fed, changed, rested, cuddled etc and done everything you can think of and baby is still crying) put baby somewhere safe, like in their bed, shut the door, turn on some music and have a cup of tea. The time it takes to boil the kettle, drink your cup and go back gives you a moment to settle yourself and go back with a clear mind. Five minutes of crying will not harm your baby but if you get too tired and upset you might harm them by accident in a moment of desperation. Never leave the house but the next room is fine if baby can't hurt themselves.

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

"You are doing it wrong! Just give her to me and go do something else." blink.gif gee thanks for that rolleyes.gif way to make a first time sleep deprived mum feel capable dry.gif

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?

If you want to keep breast feeding but you have cracked/sore nipples there are little silicone shields available from any chemist under $10 that go over your nipples whilst baby feeds so you can heal. No need to continue in pain for weeks until you stumble across them yourself rolleyes.gif Note if i had been told to break the special k seal with my finger before baby was pulled off i wouldn't have been so cracked in the first place laugh.gif

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

Played host for me. Just putting the kettle on, bringing over some biscuits for my other guests and putting the dishwasher on made so much difference.






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Posted 04 November 2010 - 11:09 AM

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This was a bloody interesting read!! So may useful tips! Defo making sure I secure those silicone nipple shields and a lactation consultant!

I'm having horror thoughts regarding my family staying with us already after the birth dry.gif Started out with just mum and sister coming for the birth - which is fine. Fast forward to last week when I'm told now it'll be mum AND dad and sister coming to stay - parents staying for A FRIGGEN MONTH to have a little holiday themselves (we live interstate FOR A REASON!) laugh.gif and to 'help out' .... currently whittled mum down to staying for 2 weeks ... cross your fingers I can break her down further to just a week!!
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Posted 04 November 2010 - 11:27 AM

Haven't seen this before so a bit late an answering!

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
Brestfeeding hurts at first and is hard but if you can make it through the first 6 weeks or so you should be fine.
2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn? If they have blue lips they have wind. My MIL is convinced all old wives tales are true rolleyes.gif

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you? Don't try and guide the baby's mouth to your nipple by using the back of their head. I did a breast feeding class and they never mentioned it. No wonder I had issues getting her to attach! Thankfully a MACH nurse spotted it instantly when I went to see her about it.

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? My parents did some washing and groceries while I was in hospital so I came home to a clean house and stocked cupboard.

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? My MIL who never breastfeed sat there trying to give me breastfeeding advice while I was trying to deal with a screaming baby. Not at all helpful.
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Posted 04 November 2010 - 01:26 PM

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
The best thing I did when she was born was work on night v day. So day sleeps and feeds in a room other than bedroom and in as much light as we can. Night sleeps and feeds in dark room, quiet, relaxing. She took to it really well and would go straight back to sleep after night feeds which meant I was only up for 30 minutes or so.

We also implemented a bedtime routine very early on. I think this has helped (but can't say for sure as I've never done anything differently to know if she needs this cue or not).

Also, don't sweat the small stuff. Its only a problem if its a problem for you.

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn? her catnapping was because of the way I put her to sleep (rocking, patting, cuddling etc). nope, it wasn't. I put her to sleep the same way day and night, and day = catnap, night = lovely long sleeps. Now at 5 months she self settles, and still catnaps for most of her daytime sleeps.

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you? I wish someone had told me to listen when they told me "it doesn't last forever". I got told this heaps of times, but I tended to catastrophise everything that happened - i.e. she'd do something once and I'd be a wreck becuase I thought this would be how it would always be. Its not. Seriously, it doesn't last forever!

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? My mum came over one day a week (and still does). In the early days she would help out with stuff around the house that I didn't get done or couldn't do with babe in arms. Now she comes over for a playdate and we do fun stuff together. Its been fabulous.

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? as a baby my daughter needed a fair bit of help to get to sleep. Having people over visiting, and telling me "no, she doesn't look tired", meant I kept her up way longer than she needed to be. I should've stuck to my guns and put her to bed when I thought she needed to go to sleep. She still doesn't do very good tired signs, or maybe I'm still bad at reading them laugh.gif .


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Posted 04 November 2010 - 02:09 PM

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

Do what you can to survive!!! For some reason people seem to think that babies are manipulators and that if you do xyz you're going to have to do it forever. Babies are just trying to survive they've been part of you for 9 months and they want to stay close to you. It's an instinct thing. I never thought we'd co-sleep but we did on and off for 6 weeks or so as my baby wanted to be close to his Mumma and I wanted to sleep. Now he sleeps in his own cot and self settles. So just because we co slept for a while doesn't mean he'll be in my bed for the next 18 years laugh.gif

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
Oh there were a few.......

Probably the whole "oh you don't want to feed to sleep, rock to sleep blah blah" otherwise you'll be doing it forever.

My Mum was another one who tried to tell me he must have wind because he's blue around the mouth rolleyes.gif Yep because you know my baby more than I do wacko.gif

If you give them a dummy they won't take the breast. I struggled in the first 6 weeks or so without one. He's a comfort sucker and would just use my boob as a dummy. Well my nipples had enough, I got a dummy and have never looked back.

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you? Breastfeeding hurts and is certainly a learning experience for you and your baby. For me though the first 8 weeks were really hard with fast flow, oversupply and mastitis but it got easier when my supply settled and we'd both learnt how to do it.

Having a baby doesn't neccesarily bring you closer to your hubby, and for us it's certainly put a strain on our relationship.

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? My friend cooked some soup for us smile.gif It was so thoughtful and much more useful than flowers!
My MIL also cleaned for us and they would text and ask when they could come over. That way if we'd had a crappy night we could have a bit of a sleep in.

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? My mum (sense a pattern here tongue.gif ) drove from interstate and stayed with some friends of hers. But she still called over every single day and stayed 6 plus hours at a time. He was only around 3 weeks old at that time and I was desperate for some peace and quiet and sleep!!!!!!
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